Everything is going as its supposed to go. Right now what we're going to witness is a royal wedding of a princess of the royal blood to the man she loves.
It has nothing whatsoever to do with the monarchy, full time or part time working royals or the shape of things to come in the future. There is a separation of those in the family that work for the "Firm" and those that are members of the Queen's immediate family.
This is a family wedding and what it boils down to is that Eugenie is the Queen's granddaughter and as I see it, HM loves and treasures *all* of her grandchildren (and great grandchildren) and strives to treat them all equally within the family fold.
The importance in status and position and rank and file do not apply here as with any wedding, the main focus is on the bride and the groom and their day that starts their lives together as husband and wife. Its a time of happiness and joy and a time for celebration.
Of course we're going to see the traditional order of precedence observed at the arrival of the royal family where the Queen is always the last to enter and be seated before the bridal processional and the Queen is the first to exit the chapel after the bridal recessional and I'm sure that Eugenie and Jack will perform a beautiful bow and curtsy to HM before they leave the chapel. Some things are just the way things are.
The big difference, I think too, with this wedding is that it will be breaking traditions having Sarah, Duchess of York seated side by side with her ex-husband among the royal family. This, to me, shows that Andrew and Sarah's determination to remain a united family even though divorced is recognized and embraced. The parents should sit together as it was the both of them that were instrumental in raising Eugenie to the point of being a woman comfortable in her own skin, adapting to an adult life that she has chosen and is taking her big step in choosing a partner to walk with her side by side through life.
Its going to be a wonderful and joyous day for everyone involved and I'm looking forward to this wedding just as much as I look forward to any royal wedding. Ahhh... make that *any* wedding.