Betsypaige
Heir Presumptive
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AFAICR, Harry had to ask for permission to marry.. I agree that the queen wasn't likely to refuse it.. but maybe showing a bit of caution, like suggesting he and Meg lived together for a time, or at least that they moved into Royal life slowly (Meghan) would have been a good idea. If Meg had just done occasional engagements, as Kate did at first, and the queen had held off from giving Harry a big role like the commonwealth for a yaer or 2, then even if they had ended up saying they didn't want to stick wit the Royal role... it would not have been such a bombshell as this was. It was a difficult position I agree. the queen is very old now, its time she handed over most of her work to the grandsons and so on.. and Harry was supposed to be a full time royal. Philip has retired and is now very old and not well. SHe should be able to rely on her family to get on with Royal life and let her take things easier, and know that they will carry on for her. But I can't help wondering did she know that Harry was so wobbly? Or that Meghan was not likely to be able to support him to stay in his job? the problem is that it is difficult to see who can fill in for htem. ANdrew has now left his patronages, the commonwealth is an important job.. and I don't think that Charles wants to call in any of his nephews and nieces and they probably don't want to give up tehir lives either. I agree, if Harry was so wobbly, he should have made it clear years ago that maybe he simply coudlnt or wouldn't become a full time royal and that they would then have had some time to consider other options.
I agree with this, although would the Queen, Charles or any future monarch want to try and ...well, make any serious relationship almost like a job with, say, an interview or a slow dipping of toes into the Royal pool? Then again, this might be a unique situation since how often will future Royal children marry someone who is not British and completely unsuited to the “life” ...which wouldn’t be known before the marriage? Harry himself had dated several women, at least one of whom bowed out because she knew she couldn’t handle being Royal.
The issue with Harry is that I’m not sure how often he opens up to anyone. [...]While he’s close to the Queen, who’s to say he spoke to her about his worries? I suspect Harry just kind of kept a stiff upper lip...
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