Ctejnoe,
I am in total agreement with your post, and I am not surprised that the Danish people like Mary. She actually seems to be a likable person.
Most of the media/publicity I've seen about her and Frederick does seem to sort of fawn over them as a romantic couple and over her as a princess in particular, but IMO she doesn't give me the impression of a person who is constantly shopping for new clothes and shoes etc. because she obviously recycles her clothes.
If you look at the Current Activities calendar on the DRF website and go through the months of this year, you can see that she has had an extremely busy schedule of visits, speeches, appearances, etc for this year.
http://www.kronprinsparret.dk/2000f/Year/2006
She also doesn't give me the impression of a person who is constantly seeking publicity and recognition to feed her ego. I do believe that there has been an oversaturation of Mary and Frederick in the world Media, and as mentioned on this board before this has lead people to feel disdain for Mary as a person and a Crown Princess, but that's not her fault because the media is not under her control.
When she's asked to do a photo shoot, a publicity outing or an interview, I sincerely doubt that she can refuse unless she wants to seem antisocial, stuck-up, uncooperative or lazy.
She probably does all of the smiling that she does in pictures so that she can project the image of a pleasant, likable princess who is enjoying what she is doing. Who wants to look at someone who is unhappy and unsmiling? By keeping a smiling face she avoids nasty comments from the press saying that she is dour, unapproachable or mean.
I've also seen many posts that say she married for the money or the fame, but why is it so impossible that she married because she was in love? Just because Frederick is a prince doesn't mean he is an unlovable guy. I think he's cute and athletic looking, and he and Mary seem to be well suited to one another (temperament wise). He seems happy with his choice of wife, and so does his family.
Obviously, she must have some likeable qualities as a person in addition to her pretty looks for so many people to be fond of her. I have seen remarks posted about her intelligence (or lack thereof), but since her father is a University Professor of Applied Mathematics and her stepmother is a published author (her real mother was the Executive Assistant to the Vice Chancellor of the U of Tasmania)
http://www.kronprinsparret.dk/ac000c
and she herself has a Bachelor's Degree of Commerce and Law, I assume that she is smart enough to perform her duties as Crown Princess.
I know that if I were a Crown Princess, I would go out and shop for clothes, shoes, etc. just as much as I liked! There has to be some sort of compensation for living in a public media fishbowl! Being royalty has provided a certain level of comfort, prestige, and privilege to its' members for thousands of years and we've been tolerating it for this long, WHY should it have to stop because Mary smiles at a camera too often?