I fully agree with you! It all becomes more and more confusing... Harry being awarded, but the other Royals, including his ELDER brother, not. Then wearing no sash (never seen it before - a sash always seems to be worn for this specific order).
The Queen of the UK (whom I truely love and admire since my childhood days!) stubbornly keeping on awarding only MALE consorts (although being "only" HRHs) and no female. Clearly a publicly performed male preference - and that in the year 2017! I do hope the next King will change this right away.
Then that "Catherine still has not the RFO"-thing... It´s all irritating and untransparent. You don´t understand why this and that (odd) decision is made - or if there was one at all. It has no guiding line, no concept, comparing to the other Royal Houses where you just exchange and receive orders according to ones own position and rank in the monarchy as a token of politeness and a mark of diplomatic entante, and that´s that. No fuss no "???"