Skydragon said:
As with anyone married or living with a member of the armed forces, you know what life is going to be like.
You also know that as a member of the navy, your husband/partner is going to be away, for long periods at a time. I wouldn't have thought Andrew or Sarah would have been happy living on the base in a little 4 bed, semi detached house, provided by the MOD.
I don't think Sarah really realized how life would be. It was far easier for Diana and even she, with her aristocratic background and her marriage to the heir (and not his much poorer spare) did not manage.
IMHO Sarah thought seh would marry money and leisure at the top of the social pyramid, with an amusing and, yes, lovable husband when she only got status, herself a workload and a husband who had a tough job.
But - that's only an explanation for her antics, her debts and her mistakes, it's not an excuse. If you read how carefully Crown Princess Mary examined the pro and cons of her and Frederick's situation and how they planned and prepared for this final step out in the open, then you can blame Sarah for not having been as logical and sensible as these two. I mean if I had the unfortune to fall in love with a representative of such an impressive but strict institution and he asked me to become his wife, then I would be very, very careful in my decision as I'd know that it's not only the guy but the whole system you have to embrace.
So that's a point against Sarah having said "yes" when she was not willing to buy the whole package. IMHO she still keeps part of the package after having damaged so many things for the Royals who had to stay behind and that's not fair and not correct, IMHO. Maybe I have this reaction to her because she is always so loud, as Skydragon remarks. She radiates bad taste and an absolute lack of decorum. After all she cheated on her husband, damaging the whole monarchy in the resulting divorce and thus should lead a little more dignified life without dragging her kids to parties of the likes of Puff Daddy.
But even this point is a minor point. I'm really conservative at heart. While I find the mess Sarah created on being herself sad, embarrassing and distressing for the Brits, I find the mess she created on cheating on her husband unjustifieable and utterly appalling. Especially as her husband's kids were in the vincinity of this "private" pool. I wouldn't wonder if the paparazzi were tipped off by a member of Sarah's own household who did not condone her behaviour.