Osipi
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It's not a matter of M&H 'matching up stories.' They spoke from the heart, based on their personal, painful experiences. The fact that somebody spoke to him about the 'skin color' concern before he and Meghan were married, does not negate that a number of subsequent conversations occurred once Meghan was pregnant.
I don't need to put up a 'defense' for Meghan. I'm merely sharing my views and perceptions in an honest, forthright way based on what I've seen, read, researched, witnessed and in certain aspects, personally experienced.
Seriously, no matter what does or does not 'hold water' for you has no bearing on what is at stake for Meghan and Harry, and the British royal family.
M&H did not discuss the Earl of Dumbarton title in the interview that was edited and broadcast. I doubt Oprah knew much about that courtesy designation, or she probably would have brought it up. Since the name 'Dumbarton' was being made fun of online even before Archie was born, I would think there's a perfectly understandable reason why M&H decided that Archie would not be officially known by that title. Since no questions along those lines were asked of them, what any of us might assume is speculative.
In my opinion, the Sussexes have continued to endure more than their fair share of negative speculation. It's enough already.
I'm about to share a very hurtful and painful experience I went through and I think it should be brought to the attention of everyone world wide and start a conversation that enact change so what I went through never happens again.
I was called a "four eyed, four eared giant purple eater" as a child (everyone knew that tune at the time). It left scars that I remember to this day and that was well over half a century ago. It wasn't fair. It wasn't kind. It was blatantly cruel and things like this still happen to this day (see bullying thread here in the Member's Corner that's been inactive for a while now). I survived this because of support I did get. I was made to believe that if someone had a problem with me, that's *their* problem, not mine.
Harry and Meghan very well could have realized that *one* person making a comment isn't reflective on an entire institution or an entire nation of people and realized it wasn't a truthful reflection on the two of them. Their use of something said by *one* person years ago had the intention of casting a disparaging light on even *more* things as their statements came forth.
It was totally unnecessary in my eyes. If I had to use a word to describe their motives with such statements, I would use the word "incite". They aimed to incite OMG faces and "how awful of them (the "institution") and install distrust towards the "other side" rather than open an intelligent conversation that could and would enact a difference. And all this from two people that profess to see the world with "kindness and compassion".
We all endure something in our lives that aren't pleasant and sometimes they're even chronic things that do no go away. We strive to enact change within ourselves rather than point fingers sobbing "they did this to me!!!" With the Sussexes, they *did* enact a change for themselves, they moved far, far away from the source of the hurt and hate and vitriol yet by their own actions, are inviting it into their lives even more now by calling attention to it.