first I have have to admit I am Diana's friend. But I am not a Camilla hater. I don't have too much thoughts on her from the beginning. The same as now. Hence I can't say my opinion to Camilla has changed since the wedding. I am not so impressed by those good qualities of Camilla in her admirers eyes. I think Camilla is a figure what an old society would prefer: being 99% obedient to her men, trying the best to appeal to her men's needs and desires, even building the whole morality based on her men. If one thing can make her man happy then it is right, if not then it's wrong. She lacks her own opinions.
Of course there is some exceptions, the episode of Diana's memorial service was one of them. But I didn't think she really had any her own opinion on whether she should attend or not. At first she would attend because it was her man's desire, so she should attend. And then the opposed voice came, and when it was louder than her man's, she was forced out. Other people's opinions dominated the whole incident. I really wonder, what was Camilla's true thought on it? If it were Diana, I think from the very beginning, she would not aggree to attend no matter how Charles would insist. And if she'd decided to attend, she would not yield to other people's desire.
It's said that Charles and Camilla shared the same hobits, the same interests and even the same opinions on every issues. So they were perfect couple. However it's exactly this extreme harmony which made me frown. I don't think two people with independent minds would have such similar thoughts on everything. To me this harmony came from the sacrifice of personality from one part. This is not easy. And it's amirable in some way. But it's not my ideal
love. I will let my man know, "I disaggree , or argue with you doesn't mean I don't love you. We will argue because by nature we all have our own minds."