I don't believe Sarah is asking for anyone's permission or approval of her behavior these days. She is not a member of the royal family. That is made very clear by them. Yes, she is the mother of the queens granddaughters, and has done a very good job raising them. Unlike many of the other young royals (are you lisitening P. Harry in your Nazi costume) the York daughters are relatively scandal free and that is all to do with their upbringing. That she raised them well is the best way she can show her respect for the Queen. They are the princesses, not her and she is encouraging them to embrace their role. Also, unlike most of the older royals, she's a hands on parent. When her children need her, she is there no matter where on earth she has to come from. As far as decorum and public speaking...aren't we still talking about the BRF with Squidgeygate (I am fond of the late Diana, BTW), not-so-discrete affairs (remember Camilla playing hostess at Highgrove while Diana and Charles were still married), back to back TV specials on the affairs, Princess Margaret who never met an intoxicating substance she didn't like, Prince Edward who sold out his own nephew at school for media publicity, her own ex husband who dated a PORN star before her and finally Prince Phillip who has been known many times to blurt out really nasty comments that usually can't even be printed. These are the standards she is being held against?