Well, I don't consider the initial objections and concerns of the Norwegian people unreasonable.
As for the staff, their initial resentment was not unreasonable either. Consider:
Staff: showing up for work everyday, earning an honest living, probably with a good education
M-M: parties, drugs, promiscuous, very spotty work record, little education
Who do you think should be elevated to and is deserving of a life of priviledge and wealth and should represent Norway in international gatherings?
I also don't think the "poor Mette-Marit" label does apply either since she brought this discontent on herself. How did she expect people would react? I do agree, however, it is done and should not be relived over and over. That is why I don't understand why she agreed to the upcoming book.
Haakon took a big gamble and lucky for him for most part it has paid off. Aside from the tantrum at the airport and showing up in jeans on the red carpet, no major gaffes. Alas, her work schedule always seems pitiful, describing her as lazy is not that far off. Never mind three children, afterall she has a nanny, and I bet she does not do her own housework/cooking either.