I think that from what I've read of Diana in her last few years, she was so - to put it bluntly unstable.. that its very hard to see her as sticking to any opinion or way of thinking for long. Yes there are sources that say she was friendly with Charles just as there are sources that say she was in love with Dodi.. but there are equally sources that say that she wasn't all that much in love with Dodi and was getting fed up with him... She was difficult and erratic and flew from mood to mood.You’re offering up your opinion on their relationship based on your own evaluations, choosing to ignore reports/quotes from good sources that speak to the opposite.
Court people like Dickie Arbiter tend to want to emphasize "Diana wasn't against the monarchy".. but many of her actions speak to the contrary... Since "THe Crown" came out with its stories of the Diana years, I think they've been worired about the negative portrait that it has given of Charles.. so courtiers will want to want to say that Diana didn't mean to knock the monarchy, and to paint a picture that Diana and Charles had forgiven each other and were now good friends.. as it makes the whole "Charles was a horrible husband" scenario less harmful.
Re Tina Brown IIRC said that she believed that Diana would have been happy to go back to Charles.. which hardly strikes me as her having reached a stage where she was in any kind of stable friendship with him. If she was still half hoping in an emotional way for some kind of reconciliation.. then she would have been doomed to severe disappointment because Charles was done with her and was only too happy to get divorced.
That was part of Di's very emotional wobbly nature in her later years.. She got it into her head as she often put it, that she "worked from the heart and not the head" as if that was a good thing.. and she was frequently misled by her intuitions and emotions. In the late 80s and ealry 90s, she kicked up a fuss, with the Morton book etc which suggested that she wanted out of the marriage.. but its possilbe she wanted to get Charles back OR to hit at him so that he ended up leaving his position in the succession... It was all very wild strking out.. and not at all coherent or logical.. But one thing that I think she didn't realise, was that Charles was just as fed up with the marriage as she was.. possibly even more so.. and he just longed to get out of marriage to this woman who was so difficult erratic and hard to cope with... and to get some kind of closure and be with the woman whom he felt happy with.
When DI outed his affair, Charles had some bad times.. very bad ones but in the end, he was able to get out of the marriage and to be with his good friend.. and that suited him pretty well...
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