I think with Meghan and Harry, what we see is what we get! And there's been precious little we've seen publicly because they are not interested in feeding the tabloid crap, or buying into the celebrity-tinged fascination surrounding them. They have drawn the lines regarding their privacy. Suffice to say that their relationship is serious, and Harry has been wanting to find his 'someone special' for a long time. From all evidence and accounts, Meghan seems quite remarkable and accomplished. But if H&M weren't genuinely clicking intimately on a deep level, the relationship would surely have ended many months ago.
I think Harry was prepared when he met Meghan, to conduct a relationship with her as under the radar as possible, in order to be able to spend quality time together out of the tabloid glare. He's said as much in a pre-Meghan interview in which he sounded a bit subdued and long-suffering re his love life (possibly because the interview occurred around the time he'd broken up with Chelsy Davy for good).
In any case, for both William & Harry, they witnessed their mother's trial-by-fire as she struggled with media hounding, amidst maturing as a person while coping with a broken marriage and dashed expectations. W&H were certainly affected by their parents' disaffection, their mother's emotional mistakes, their father's emotional indulgences, and ultimately by their mother's death which was a direct consequence of the media's over-obsessive intrusiveness. As we can imagine, and as has been said many times, there will not be a repeat of what happened to Diana. Many lessons have been learned by the royals in the aftermath of the Diana years.
As someone mentioned earlier, neither Kate nor Meghan are like Diana other than in their both being very kindhearted, good-looking and sartorially stylish. Unlike Diana, Kate has always been surrounded by caring and nurturing family members. And her loving husband William is also very protective and supportive. Meghan has a savvy sophistication and a down-to-earth sweetness which will see her through the royal maze. Plus, Meghan too has been blessed with loving parents, loyal friends, and a loving and protective partner in Prince Harry.
As far as H&M's relationship, after realizing how well they fit together, they still needed time to work through further building their connection in the face of geographic distance. They also had to figure out the best steps to take going forward, given the complications involved with Harry's royal status and Meghan's acting career commitments. Security concerns and clamoring from the tabloids have also been stuff they've had to navigate. With help from his closest advisers and mentors, Harry has handled everything like a pro. And Meghan's closest friends and her parents, and
Suits producers, cast & crew have also been extremely supportive during this entire period, which is slowly ending, as a new chapter in the royal relationship begins.
Of course, H&M are not perfect. No one is in this world. However, it's just lovely to see two people in love, and it's nice that in current times, the love H&M share does not have to be denied or blocked by old-fashioned attitudes and out-of-date strictures that in the not too distant royal past, ended up destroying lives.
There is a 'fairy-tale' aspect to H&M's romance, but it's grounded in down-to-earth realities, genuine frienship, and respect for family heritage and traditions. Whichever way we each view the relationship is based on our own individual backgrounds and varying perceptions. In the end, what we think has very little to do with how H&M's story will unfold. Why are we interested in love stories? Why are we interested in royalty? The first is probably because as humans, don't we all seek love? That's what most stories in the world are about. And following royalty is sort of like watching any family drama unfold, but on a scale that's larger than life and mixed with metaphors, myths, surprises, as well as mundane universal happenings amidst the pomp and cirumstance of public ceremonies.
At this stage, neither Harry nor Meghan are interested in seeking attention or over-exposing the intimacies of their relationship. They are who they are, and they have each dealt remarkably well with the lives they've been given, and in Meghan's case, the public life she sought as an actor. Again that doesn't make either of them perfect. But it's part of what makes them appealing as a young couple in love who seem to have so much. But what they have and who they are in life has been hard won for each of them.
Therefore, H&M serve as role models in showing us that it's possible to overcome childhood trauma and the death of a parent and the divorce of parents. Meghan shows us that it's possible to reach for something beyond a middle-class modest upbringing, and to succeed beyond anyone's wildest imaginings. Meghan's example also demonstrates that on the other end of a successful career in the limelight can come unexpected love that brings with it a bevy of obstacles, mixed with difficult decisions and daunting situations. In Harry's case, we have seen him coming to grips with the burden of his royal stature and the grief suffered in his teenage years, to reach a place of maturity and a sense of purpose. In the process, both H&M have learned the importance of accepting personal responsibility and reaching back to help others.
So for me, the H&M love story is a guilty pleasure.

But I fully recognize that they are both fallible, imperfect people too. They are just trying to hold onto what they've found in each other on a larger than life stage where not every onlooker harbors goodwill. In any case, H&M have my fond regards, and I think many good-hearted people will be joining in the celebratory well wishes for these two young sweethearts!
