Harry and Meghan: Wedding Suggestions and Musings - Page 68

Cocoasneeze · #**1341** 01-04-2018, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by lilybart

Sure, its a movie - but I used it to show that walking down the aisle alone doesn't look 'odd' or like something's missing, but it looks quite beautiful and creates a lovely imagery.

Look, a lot of ladies have complicated families, and walking down the aisle alone might be what makes sense for them. Its happening more and more.
Meghan might help to create a new trend which would help other ladies with 'complicated' families to choose to do this as well. Its not a rebellious act to do this - it makes a lot of sense for some people.

I hope Meghan doesn't feel any pressure to create any trends on her wedding day, but do exactly what makes her feel comfortable. This is a day she shouldn't have to think about other women and their family issues.

We will see what she'll end up doing, but my prediction is, that she'll have her father walk her down the aisle. Or mother and father.

loonytick · #**1342** 01-04-2018, 12:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Countessmeout

In a sense it is the biggest 'red carpet of her life'. She is going to have millions of eyes on her, as she enters her new life. Just as its great to have a companion on the red carpet when dealing with award show or premier nerves, its great to have an arm to hold on to when walking down an aisle. It doesn't make a woman less Independent or Modern to do so.

I also suspect that when one is marrying into a royal family, when so much of the focus is on the traditions and presence of your soon-to-be-in-laws, any presence of your own family and the life and experience you yourself are bringing to the marriage feels a little extra valuable and comforting.

wyevale · #**1343** 01-04-2018, 01:06 PM

In truth the aisle of St George's Chapel is a very great deal shorter than that of Westminster Abbey..

Nevertheless I'd expect her Father to walk it with the Bride...

ACO · #**1344** 01-04-2018, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by wyevale

In truth the aisle of St George's Chapel is a very great deal shorter than that of Westminster Abbey..

Nevertheless I'd expect her Father to walk it with the Bride...

Sure but it is still rather lengthy. I see no reason why she should walk it alone.

CyrilVladisla · #**1345** 01-04-2018, 03:06 PM

If both of Meghan's parents walk their daughter down the aisle, are their church stipulations as to which side the father is on and which side the mother is on?

**Somebody** · #**1346** 01-04-2018, 03:16 PM

I fulle expect her to be escorted by her father but if not; why not walk in on Harry's arm? Or is that only considered appropriate if they are already married (as is the case in for example the Netherlands)?

Denville · #**1347** 01-04-2018, 03:19 PM

the whole point is not for them to "walk in together" but for them to come together at the altar...If they were already married nad coming for a blessing, it would be OK....
but they are 2 individuals who are joined together in marriage..

Princess Squirrel · #**1348** 01-04-2018, 03:41 PM

I posted on the engagement thread that I saw Harry and Meghan fridge magnets in a London souvenir shop.

**Somebody** · #**1349** 01-04-2018, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Denville

the whole point is not for them to "walk in together" but for them to come together at the altar...If they were already married nad coming for a blessing, it would be OK....
but they are 2 individuals who are joined together in marriage..

That's what I thought. So, very different from countries in which a civil marriage is required before a church wedding can take place. Although there are still many brides who walk in on their father's side (or both groom and bride being escorted by their parents) after they already got married civilly as required by law. And it is completely normal to enter the city hall together...

Princess Squirrel · #**1350** 01-04-2018, 04:14 PM

My husband and I walked in together and we weren't already married. It wasn't a church but we'd have done the same if it were. I didn't need giving away. But it should be each individual couple who decides.

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Originally Posted by CyrilVladisla

If both of Meghan's parents walk their daughter down the aisle, are their church stipulations as to which side the father is on and which side the mother is on?

People seem to think that the CoE is really prescriptive. It isn't. I am sure you could have whichever parent you want whichever side. I am sure a blind bride could be escorted by her guidedog!

Jacknch · #**1351** 01-04-2018, 05:46 PM

Provided the marriage is legally solemnised according to church and civil law, it will make no difference who (if anyone at all) escorts Meghan down the aisle.

The part of the service where the archbishop states "who giveth this woman to be married to this man" is not technically a legal requirement.

Pranter · #**1352** 01-04-2018, 06:21 PM

Myself I think it would be quite an interesting thing to see if Meghan walked down the aisle alone ..but that would take nerves of steel and a lot of hutzpah to pull off in that setting. I'm still thinking Doria will walk down with her.

LaRae

Missjersey · #**1353** 01-04-2018, 06:28 PM

I’m with you Pranter, I think it will be mum who walks her down the aisle.

jacqui24 · #**1354** 01-04-2018, 06:47 PM

Unless there is a physical reason Meghan's dad can't walk her down the aisle (it was reported he has old leg injury), I don't see him being snubbed here. It'll either be just him or both of her parents.

ACO · #**1355** 01-04-2018, 06:59 PM

I also think it will be her dad but there is no denying she is closer to her mother. Doria also plays an active role in her life with Harry. Her father hasn't even met him. So I won't be all that shocked if we see Doria do it. It is not really a snub to her father not more than him doing it is a snub to her mother. We have seen them breaking so called tradition left and right and to be honest her father wasn't even at her first wedding but her mother was. Time will tell. Meghan will do whatever makes her most comfortable.

jacqui24 · #**1356** 01-04-2018, 07:05 PM

We don't know whether or not her father was at her first wedding because we haven't seen photos of the wedding itself, just parties. With her father being a more shy person, he's likely to pass on the unnecessary parts of the wedding. I don't see how having her father giving her away is a snub to her mother.

And I keep hearing they are breaking tradition left and right, but other than Sandringham, what tradition have they broken? People keep having this idea of Meghan being this person that will come in and shake things up, I've always said she'll be a lot more tradition, while doing it her own way, than people like to think.

ACO · #**1357** 01-04-2018, 07:18 PM

I agree it is not a snub to her mother just like it wouldn't be a snub to her father if Doria walked her down the aisle. I don't see the difference to be honest. Both her parents. Though I am sure there will be plenty articles no matter what she decides.

And I don't think Meghan is shaking anything up. No need to put words in one's mouth. She will be like the other senior royals and make appearances, shakes hands, cut ribbons, etc. That is now her full time job. But lets not also pretend she isn't a tad different than what most expected. We hear it daily listed out (divorced, America, biracial, and older.) That is all I meant.

jacqui24 · #**1358** 01-04-2018, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ACO

I agree it is not a snub to her mother just like it wouldn't be a snub to her father if Doria walked her down the aisle. I don't see the difference to be honest. Both her parents. Though I am sure there will be plenty articles no matter what she decides.

And I don't think Meghan is shaking anything up. No need to put words in one's mouth. She will be like the other senior royals and make appearances, shakes hands, cut ribbons, etc. That is now her full time job. But lets not also pretend she isn't a tad different than what most expected. We hear it daily listed out (divorced, America, biracial, and older.) That is all I meant.

Let's face it, traditionally it is the father walking the bride down the aisle. There doesn't have to be a more reason than tradition to have it done this way. Usually when it's done another way that there is a specific reason. So yes, I would say that her father being there, but not walking her down the aisle with her and Doria would be a snub.

And no one put any words in your mouth. I just went by what you said. Her being different isn't the same as breaking traditions. Her being divorced, American, biracial and older have nothing to do with if they'll make a conscious decision to depart from tradition. I'm not see how this means she'll make a decision different than what is traditionally done.

ACO · #**1359** 01-04-2018, 07:33 PM

Agree to disagree. I don't think either is a snub but I am a woman who watched both her parents give a child way. It would be interesting to learn if he was at her first wedding and walked her down the aisle. And if he has met Harry yet. I won't pretend to know what she will do. She will do what is right for her.

Pranter · #**1360** 01-04-2018, 07:34 PM

I don't see it as a snub. If everyone is equal and gender doesn't matter etc etc then either parent should be able to walk her down the aisle without it being called a 'snub'.

Meghan has yet to do anything even approaching 'shaking things up' and I think that trend will continue.

LaRae