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How long does it usually take for a divorce to be official?
Thanks for the explanation!Well from decree nisi you have to wait 6weeks and 1 day until you can apply for the decree absolute and that's for the most simple, amicable of divorces.
So far we only know that a decree nisi has been granted which is simply a court saying it sees no reason a divorce can't be granted. A divorce in the UK is not legal until a decree absolute is granted and often people are advised not to apply for the decree absolute until all financial& custody matters etc are settled. It really all depends on what other proceedings over the children and finances the couple are going through.
In the second part of the interview Tessy mentions that she is starting a consulting firm. I always wonder how someone can do a full time job well and tons of different projects on the side next to having a family. Something must be suffering from this arrangement.
I think she is living in the now, she has a certain level of "fame" or "pull" as an ex members of a European RF. Sadly though she is burning bridges fast, with her former in-laws and family and people who use to like her. In a decade or so she will regret having been so outspoken, yes she is probably making a few ££ out of it now, but wouldn't you really rather have a good relationship with 1/2 of your kids family than a few extra ££?
I don't understand all this. If you have friends and family, you talk to them, send them presents and cards, write or email... visit them. YOu don't need to tell everyone you're doing it...
Why must something be suffering??? Many people manage to hold a full time job and have hobbies/do charity work and more.
Likely being divorced has actually opened up more time for her. She doesn't have her sons full time any more. When her sons are with their father, she has more time to focus on her charity work and travel for work as well. The good thing about working as a consultant, you set your own schedule. Its likely why she chooses that route.
What bridges? Do you think the RF were going to continue to fund her lifestyle and include her in family events? They are her ex family.
A few extra pounds? It is her job. She is making an income to support herself and her kids. Should she move into a 2 bedroom apartment in the country, become a librarian and put her kids in public school so she doesn't have to be seen???
If she was a man would anyone expect her to?? No. Because a man is meant to be ambitious and build a career. A woman is meant to be a mom and be the quiet little perfect ex wife.
Tessy was never a member of the RF. She could have lived a private life of priviledge and enjoyed the perks. Instead she went to school, built a career, and established a charity. Did she have these oppurtunities because of her marriage? Of course. Were they just handed to her on a silver platter? No, she still worked for them. Why should she give them up because her soon to be ex husband had exited the picture?
Different generations obviously. People all up in arms about her social media, wonder do you have any social media accounts? My 70 year old father made a birthday post for me on facebook Nothing Tessy is doing is different then any person you meet on the street.
Yes, she isn't the only one whose work and/or family is suffering because of someone taking on too many other resposibilities. Time and energy is limited, so it's wonderful if people do more than the minimal of what is expected but there are limits to what you can do reasonably well without other commitments suffering.Why must something be suffering??? Many people manage to hold a full time job and have hobbies/do charity work and more.
No, not fund her excessive lifestyle that she got used to and seems to enjoy. However, the family is still on very good terms with prince Jean's ex-wife who is invited to various events, so it certainly would have been possible to stay in touch with her (former) in-laws.What bridges? Do you think the RF were going to continue to fund her lifestyle and include her in family events? They are her ex family.
The self-promotion is what most people have trouble with. Having a nice job and doing something wortwhile are great things. Choosing those so you can be admired is less admirable.A few extra pounds? It is her job. She is making an income to support herself and her kids. Should she move into a 2 bedroom apartment in the country, become a librarian and put her kids in public school so she doesn't have to be seen???
If she was a man would anyone expect her to?? No. Because a man is meant to be ambitious and build a career. A woman is meant to be a mom and be the quiet little perfect ex wife.
First, I truly hope her reaching her goals was not the reason he exited the picture and second, she still lived a life of priviledge while studying and starting a charity. She benefits at least as much as the people she aims to support. It is a very thin line, especially when you are among the rich and famous, to truly do good and reflect that in your whole life instead of using it for self-promotion. Nonetheless, the alternative is in many (but not all) cases worse.Tessy was never a member of the RF. She could have lived a private life of priviledge and enjoyed the perks. Instead she went to school, built a career, and established a charity. Did she have these oppurtunities because of her marriage? Of course. Were they just handed to her on a silver platter? No, she still worked for them. Why should she give them up because her soon to be ex husband had exited the picture.
On Tessy's Instagram "Ask me one question"
What is your title in this moment?
tessy_from_luxembourg same as always
Princess Tessy of Luxembourg? With or without the *HRH* ?
tessy_from_luxembourg nothing has changed.
Nobody is really expecting Tessy to be unambitious and not build her career. I admired that she took advantage of the opportunities she had after she met Louis and went to school and even believed she could have done the schooling in London had she not met him. I object to the shameless self-promotion, regardless of who she is, selling yourself as an expert when you haven't earned your stripes, calling yourself a philanthropist when that's a title others bestow on you as recognition of your charitable deeds. I think she lacks self awareness, and is concerned more about building her brand of celebrity philanthropist than becoming a respected expert in her field, whatever her field is, and letting her work speak for itself so that others praise her instead of she herself doing so.
I also think that if she were a man formerly married to a princess and does the exact same thing Tessy is doing, that the criticism would be the same. Imagine if a male posts photos of himself drinking, like she did, going on interviews, making remarks with double meanings about bringing down old institutions or whatever it was she said. Actually, I think the criticisms would be worse.
That she posts too much photos of her children is a personal objection. I understand a lot of people do this and to each their own but I hope she is wise about her children's security. And yes, I have a very active Instagram account featuring travel photos. Sometimes I am tempted to post my nieces' photos but I would rather not have their pics end up on the dark web. I admire famous and regular people who have managed to hide their kids' faces from the public, but again, that is my personal preference. You can't be paranoid enough when it comes to photos of children on the internet.
If you expect her to hide away and not promote herself, yes you are expecting her to sacrifice her career. That is her career. She is working with a media company among other things. This is how she makes her money.
She isn't selling herself as a philanthropist. She is promoting charities she is involved with. How is that shameless? How do you think charities get funding? Its no different then royals attending big events to promote charities like polo matches or black tie events. Professors without borders and the organizations she works with need funding. The people who work with them give interviews and do events, to raise awareness and funding. People bellyaching over her promoting her charity work seem to have little to no concept of how charities actually get funding.
It seems people are really unrealistic. They expect her to be a little country mouse librarian. Oh well if she is really good, maybe she will get invited to a birthday party by the royal family
Why should she throw away everything she has built? Just because her marriage was the reason she got the chances? Did people expect Diana to throw away her charity work and go into hiding when she divorced? No. Who would benefit? The charities she helped establish? No. Her sons? No. Her? No. No one would benefit from her hiding under a rock.
There are plenty of pictures of royals drinking. Even the queen. Is she posting pictures of wild raves and her half drunk and hanging out of cars? No. This isn't the 1920's, and no one should expect her to be some quaint little country mouse wife.
So, the follow-up question was 'why do you use 'Tessy Antony' in combination with your title as you cannot be both?
Tessy was never a member of the RF.
The Grand Ducal Line consists of all direct marital descendants of Grand Duke Adolph (agnates and cognates). (male and female line)
The Grand Ducal Family consists of all direct marital descendants of Grand Duchess Charlotte. The spouses, widows and widowers of members of the Grand Ducal Family are included as well.
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Spouses of members of the Grand Ducal House only become members of the house if the head of the house has given his written consent to the marriage.
The Luxembourg Grand Ducal Court seem to deem the decree nisi as the divorce, even if the financial details are not ironed out. Separation, in their Grand Ducal laws also results in the loss of titles etc. Since I don't think Tessy and Louis are living together that may be that.
Im Falle einer Ehetrennung (séparation de corps), einer Ehescheidung oder einer Wiederverheiratung nach dem Tod verlieren die Gemahlinnen die ihnen verliehenen Prädikate und Titel.
In case of a legal separation, a divorce or remarriage after death, the wives lose the style and title conferred upon them.
Séparation de corps
Au lieu de demander le divorce pour faute ou pour rupture de la vie commune, les époux peuvent, en invoquant les mêmes causes, se contenter de former une demande en séparation de corps.
La séparation de corps leur permet de vivre séparés tout en restant mariés.
La procédure ne pourra avoir lieu par consentement mutuel des époux.
La procédure est intentée par voie d’avocat à la Cour devant le tribunal d'arrondissement.
The Grand Ducal Line consists of all direct marital descendants of Grand Duke Adolph (agnates and cognates). (male and female line)
The Grand Ducal Family consists of all direct marital descendants of Grand Duchess Charlotte. The spouses, widows and widowers of members of the Grand Ducal Family are included as well.
The Grand Ducal House consists of the head of state as head of the house, the former heads of state, first grade descendants of a head of the house born within a marriage according to the house rules, and the members of the family called upon to succeed to the throne according to the laws of primogeniture. The in-law spouses and widows/widowers of members according to the house rules and of deceased heads of state are included. The aforementioned widows and widowers will lose their membership to the Grand Ducal House in case of remarriage.
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Spouses of members of the Grand Ducal House only become members of the house if the head of the house has given his written consent to the marriage.
Das Großherzogliche Haus (la Maison Grand-Ducale) besteht aus dem Staatsoberhaupt als Hauschef, den ehemaligen Staatsoberhäuptern und den aus einer hausrechtsmäßig gültigen Ehe geborenen Nachkommen ersten Grades eines Hauschefs sowie diejenigen des nach Primogeniturrecht zur Thronfolge berufenen Hausmitglieds.
Oh Tessy, Tessy... I can understand being hurt by the divorce, but it’s not professional to post such digs so publicly, and it doesn’t give her a very good image personality-wise either. Even though she is no longer married to Prince Louis, she still uses her title and thus is technically a member of the ducal house and should act accordingly whilst still in this position IMO. That’s not to say that she should completely go under the radar (although it might do her some good to have a bit of a digital and media detox, it might help her clear her mind which is obviously going through a lot at the moment), but whilst still attached to her title she should behave responsibly online as she would have done whilst still married.