The Disadvantages of Being Royal - Page 4

kathl29 · #61 04-09-2011, 07:22 AM

I don't think it is sad to be a royal but I think the life is a lot more difficult than it looks from the outside.

Mary and Maxima had to give up their home countries and leave their families behind. (I did the same thing but I didn't have to get used to a new country while being all over the media). I find I miss my family most at important times like Xmas, the birth of my child, serious family illness etc and that must be even more difficult when you are expected to put that aside and go to an event and smile and wave as though everything is ok.

I would love the clothes and the beauty treatments etc but on the downside everyone will comment on what you wear. If you have a fat day everyone will start writing stories that you are pregnant or that you have let yourself go. Clothes are nice but I wouldn't want to watch everything I ate every single day for the rest of my life! I don't like salad that much!

You are expected to produce an heir and a spare and within a quick timeframe. If there is a delay the media immediately starts speculating that something may be wrong (you may just want to wait!) and it is normally the princess they speculate about.

I always feel sorry for Masako (I too only have one child and constantly get asked when we will have another, unfortunately although I get pregnant easily, my pregnancies don't last). I cannot imagine the pressure that has been placed on her to produce another child and the feeling from the media/country that she has failed. Women who can't have children are susceptible to depression etc without the outside pressure which must be immense.

There are though many upsides to being royal - you get to support charities that mean a lot to you and can make a difference. You get the very best medical treatment and care in any country you go to as well as your own. You have enough money to ensure you will never want for anything material again.

Overall it is not sad to be a royal but it would be a challenge at times. I am sure I could give it a go though

Duchess of Darwin · #62 04-09-2011, 07:31 PM

I guess anyone who is born Royal doesn't know any difference, and can cope with all the attention, like Princess Anne, you don't wan't to follow her around with a camera

I would never marry into Royalty, though. I just couldn't give everything up

Those who are born into Royalty get scrutinised aswell

but they at least, don't have the extra attention caused by being a "Cinderella" and are under less pressure to produce a baby

If I had to go to a parralell universe, where I was Royal, it would definately be by birth

CrownPrincess5 · #63 04-10-2011, 12:15 PM

In a way I think it is.
They have no freedom and they have to seem perfect at all times. Everything they do is scheduled...they can never be spontaneous.

FanofMonaco · #64 04-10-2011, 01:09 PM

In some countries you can't get married without the ruler's permission; or if the ruler asks you to do something and you don't you can be banished or have to abdictate. Basically you feel like a traitor to your country. Fancy clothing, jewelry, etc is only special if you get it once in a while. Haute couture is just work clothes to royalty. You're not just responsible for your own family but every family in your country. More so in Monaco and Leichtenstein where they actually rule. You have no privacy. There are advantages to being royalty but there are equal or worse disadvantages. I think they work alot harder than most people give them credit for. Those that felt entitled are no longer around.

countgregor · #65 04-10-2011, 07:55 PM

If you are a commoner I guess becoming a royal because of marriage would be a daunting task. Of course after the wedding you can't avoid the paparatizzi,--they seem to be everywhere. Many that wish to escape the problems of notoriety slip away and come to America, and they blend in without notice if they are careful. Here in the Finger Lakes Wine Region of Upstate New York -we sometimes see such folks. However here the natives don't seem to fuss about anything and no one really cares who you are. It is a place where a man can live to a full measure without much interference. I have often said at any one minute of the day there are more royals and nobles in America than in Europe. I bet you folks are glad we are here. Enjoy life.

Little_Rain · #66 04-18-2011, 02:17 PM

I don’t know if I can say it’s sad. There are ups and downs with anything. From a person looking from the outside I can say I am glad (Praise the Lord) that I was not born a royal, nor would I marry a royal. There may be some perks but to me it seems more a burden and hassle. At least if you’re high up on the succession. For example Peter Philips seems to be able to live a fairly normal life yet he has perks because he’s Queen Elizabeth’s grandson. Yet because he is further down the LOS not as much pressure as say his cousins. Marius Borg is another example he has perks of having his step-dad be the Crown Prince of Norway, and his sister will one day be Crown Princess.

I could never be a royal I am too of much free spirit. I read some of the things that Kate Middleton will no longer be able to do once she marries Prince William. A few I could understand but most I found just plain silly and ridiculous.

On the other side I love helping people so if I was a royal I would want spend my time working with charities and volunteering. It be nice to have a personnel hairdresser to do my hair every day or whenever. It be nice to be able to travel and see places not that you could go just anyways even more if your higher up.

Kastalia · #67 04-18-2011, 03:19 PM

It's probably tough sometimes especially for those who weren't born into royalty but not sad.Everything in life is a matter of habit.

Yekaterina · #68 04-18-2011, 04:22 PM

royals are exceptionally gifted. they have the best dresses, live in the greatest castles, they can have the best education and the best treatment for their children, they see the world and they meet most interesting people. when people are so gifted they must give back something. they have to do something for the country and people. where is sun there is shadow too. that is my opinion.

KittyAtlanta · #69 04-18-2011, 05:44 PM

I can't imagine that anyone could say the life of a royal is sad. It's like any other life, with all the crap and joy and motor oil. Not to say that SOME royals don't have sad lives, some do, so I'll fall back on the old adage of "life is what you make it."

nascarlucy · #70 04-18-2011, 06:20 PM

It depends on your life. I came from a family who was encouraged to write letters to people in power (judges, people in Congress, people in the state legislature, local officials) and to participate in political forums or other such activities. My grandparents often wrote letters to the editor of the local newspaper. As long as the letter or comments were in a civil matter and even when disagreeing being polite in tone, this was fine. I did this as well. If you were born a royal, you probably never did this at all or if you wanted to be a royal, you never did it in the first place. The last thing a royal family would want would be an outspoken opinionated family member who would not be quiet or shut up.

IloveCP · #71 06-10-2011, 02:31 PM

There are ups and downs like people are always interested in your personal life and there always people watching you.

And also no matter how much hard your working in your royal duties,you can never satisfy everyone.There is always going to be someone complaining that you are not working enough and that the monarchy is useless.

IloveCP · #72 12-13-2011, 06:16 PM

I think one of the saddest things about it is,your family's dark secrets are out for everyone to read.Everyone will never forget the mistakes royal past and present make.

nascarlucy · #73 12-13-2011, 09:04 PM

Like everyone else, I'm sure being royal has its sad moments. When you have tragedy in your family, you aren't really given much privacy to grieve in your own way. Sometimes you're own mistakes are never forgotten.

CyrilVladisla · #74 02-02-2015, 07:35 PM

For those born royal they can experience sadness.
A few examples: A daughter or daughter-in-law may lose a baby at birth. This is sad.
A Royal is engaged and the fiancé (fiancée) breaks off. This is sad. Now there is no royal wedding. What will the public think?

COUNTESS · #75 02-02-2015, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by CyrilVladisla

For those born royal they can experience sadness.
A few examples: A daughter or daughter-in-law may lose a baby at birth. This is sad.
A Royal is engaged and the fiancé (fiancée) breaks off. This is sad. Now there is no royal wedding. What will the public think?

Are you joking? Everyone experiences sadness. Anyone can lose a child at birth. Anyone can break off an engagement. Who cares. All people in the public eye face scrutiny. They are born to privilege and money, that they may have tragedies is life. They have the means to do anything, unlike people who work for a living. And they earned none of it. Really work. Nine to five so to speak and have to be there. Their work
is a fiction of nothing. Real people face long days, bad bosses, poor pay, they don't cut ribbons and smile. I just thought you were being sarcastic.

nascarlucy · #76 02-02-2015, 08:42 PM

No one is immune from sadness and royals are no exception. I've had people in my family who have had miscarriages or had broken engagements. The only difference is that these events were not national or world wide news items and didn't end up on the newspaper stand or on the internet.

I would not think badly of a royal who broken their engagement as I don't know the circumstances that led to it. Usually they are good reasons to break an engagement, one being a potentially bad or unhappy marriage. In some cases it would have saved the couple grief and their children grief if they had broken the engagement rather than marrying. Some were pressured into marriage which wasn't a good thing.

A broken engagement while sad is better than an unhappy marriage that leads to divorce.

royal rob · #77 02-03-2015, 03:41 AM

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Originally Posted by COUNTESS

Are you joking? Everyone experiences sadness. Anyone can lose a child at birth. Anyone can break off an engagement. Who cares. All people in the public eye face scrutiny. They are born to privilege and money, that they may have tragedies is life. They have the means to do anything, unlike people who work for a living. And they earned none of it. Really work. Nine to five so to speak and have to be there. Their work
is a fiction of nothing. Real people face long days, bad bosses, poor pay, they don't cut ribbons and smile. I just thought you were being sarcastic.

Totally agree and being able to get the best medical care available could stop a lot of the sadness in our life.

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AdmirerUS · #78 02-03-2015, 08:06 AM

I think there are probably happier and less happy royal houses and that changes over time.

Certainly, Spain's royal family has faced difficult recent years.

With the press coverage of Andrew and Charles in the last several weeks, it must have been hard to be their mother.

There are all kinds of examples.

I don't envy them, but I do love to follow them.

miss whirley · #79 02-03-2015, 08:22 AM

I wouldn't trade places with them for a billion dollars. I really pity them. I actually feel guilty even following them because I'm contributing to the tizzy they live in. Celebrities sign up for the freak show, the royals are born into it whether they like it or not.

Lee-Z · #80 02-03-2015, 11:55 AM

I'm only sad for royals who can't handle royal life, like P.Claus of the Netherlands for a number of years and currently P.Masako of Japan.
It must be very difficult to have committed yourself to a person you truly love and then get all those lifechanges with it, that are almost too much to handle...