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Prince Harry's interview was lovely and I think it will help a lot of people. It's good to know that he is so much happier in his personal life these days. It explains a lot.
This is one thing I really do admire about Harry. Just the actions he takes sometimes when he's involved with something. Not just putting his name as a patron on a letterhead or showing up for photo ops but actively getting into the thick of things. It shows real commitment on his part and you know when you see Harry standing up somewhere and addressing an issue, he knows what he is talking about.
Prince Harry's interview was lovely and I think it will help a lot of people. It's good to know that he is so much happier in his personal life these days. It explains a lot.
-Prince HarryMy brother, you know, bless him, he was a huge support to me. He kept saying this is not right, this is not normal
They spent most of their time at school and Eton had an excellent counselling set up in the late 80s and early 90s.
Maybe the boys refused to go or went and didn't really participate.
Charles did reportedly encourage them to talk about their mother as did Tiggy but talking about her isn't the same as talking about how she died and how that affected him.
There is in the insistence on making Charles culpable for all something unhealthy. If in what Harry did, commendable, there a continuation of blame, that Harry does not correct, then nothing is 'solved', nothing is 'healed'. The 'worm' just digs in deeper. When will it all be over?
The British royal stiff upper lip wasn't much help either. They should've had the best counseling possible. I used wonder if they had received help. Now we know that didn't happen. Imagine how tough it was for them in the aftermath years of her passing. Couldn't have been easy for the boys with papa Wales moving on pretty fast.
Good points Osipi. I absolutely agree that neither brother would have truly benefited from counseling if they were not in a place to admit that they needed the assistance. None of the mental health care professionals would or could have shared that they were treating the brothers after Diana's death. I do believe that Charles, the school staff and others close to them would have been advised to watch for changes in behavior and to be open to listening to them. However you have to permit the patient to take the lead on when they are ready to begin the healing process. Harry's own words suggest that he wasn't ready to do so for years.The thing is, even with the finest counseling in the land and the urgings of all their loved ones to do this and do that and face their grief, nothing will work until the person themselves is ready to take the first step and admit he needs the help. Harry and William both probably had many opportunities to see therapists, counselors and talk about their loss with their loved ones but internally, they weren't ready. Therapy and counseling only works if there is participation willingly from both the therapist and the patient.
We can't throw stones here. Its no ones fault. Lets just be glad that Harry has finally come to grips with his emotions and is now an outstanding role model for those that perhaps are going through the same challenges that Harry did.
My way of dealing with it was sticking my head in the sand, refusing to ever think about my mum, because why would that help?
Harry has for several years now championed the idea that people who need mental health services should find the courage to use them, even if it means setting aside pride or fear. Now he can look troubled people in the eye and say clearly that he has made that difficult step of seeking help himself, just as he's asking them to do.