MARG
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Well, we have had well over 20 years to discuss and dissect the matter, but I wonder if, at its heart, that is the answer. She was spoiled as a small child, indulged as an adolescent and placated as a teenager and thereafter. Denville mentioned that Diana expected marriage to be perfect and instead she got a man who wasn't very good at being with her 24/7.Whether private or public, Diana was going to have a hard time with any relationship she had, especially with men. She was indulged as a child and as an adult, she continued such behaviour.
But seriously, what man can spend his every waking moment indulging his wife's every whim? Charles had a very varied and busy life. From polo to The Princes Trust, not to mention the full-time duties carried out as Prince of Wales. Diana had a life, she had her girlfriends and was the quintessential Sloan Ranger. Surely when she met with her friends after they married they talked about their lives and I am positive that none of them had their husband's total attention 24/7. Even their parents and friends parents, etc. all had husbands who had things called "jobs".
I think, more than anything else, Diana was in love with love and just wanted to get married. I don't think she got past the idea of a fairytale wedding. The realities of a young woman who had always got her own way coupled to that of an older man who was used to doing things on his own and in his own way was probably a shocker. But, to imply that she was "used to produce and heir and spare" is utterly ridiculous. If that were the main requirement for a royal bride I am sure Charles would have married a decade before. He had to actually like and admire the person he was going to spend the rest of his life with, and I believe they were initially both "in love".
I think many people who have seen videos and read endless books and magazine articles do not understand that Diana didn't really photograph that well. They never managed to capture her aura, her charisma (and she had it in spades) her sheer magnetic personality. She was riveting to watch in real life. I think the closest I have ever seen was a rare black and white photo of Diana and Mario Testino taken shortly after a photo shoot.
If you look you see that they are both totally engaged in what is happening. I don't know, a joke, someone in front of them, but he is utterly enthralled.
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