Maybe she had a relationship with Martin since 2003, maybe not. Maybe Joachim had a relationship with someone else since 2001 (maybe not), and Alex is only playing the same game. Who knows anything? Only Alex and Joachim (and probably the RF). If Alex had been so evil, must be very strange of the Queen to make her Countess, after her divorce, and keep her as part of the family. Remember what Queen E did to Diana after the divorce? Cold shoulder, because Diana did say herself she had a relationship (possibly to punish Charles for cheating on her throughout the marriage), published a book etc. Queen Margrethe is no fool, and insisting on Alex being the one at fault suggests that Queen M and Joachim are so stupid, they continue to have a warm relationship with Alex after discovering she has had an affair??
The truth is that there are Danes (e.g.Ekstra Bladet people) who are racist and didn´t like someone from HK becoming part of the RF. They´ve tried to witch-hunt and unfortunately, Alex´s choice of beau really walks straight into the landmine. If there´s any fault Alex is guilty of, then it´s her choice of boyfriend, and making it public so soon after her divorce, and letting Martin drive her car. That is foolish behaviour.