Does any one of you, who say "she should come to terms with it" even the slightest clue how a rejected child feels? It has a huge impact, well into adulthood.
I am in a pair of shoes that look a lot like Delphine Boël's. My mother never wanted children and when she found out she was pregnant it was too late for an abortion. My grandparents tried to help as best as they could, but still. She'd leave me at home alone when I was a baby, for days. Until my grandparents took me in for good, with my grandmother becoming my legal guardian. My mother held contact with me until I was ten when she realized that her husband (who is not my father) is more important and all of a sudden stopped talking to me. I didn't understand the world. I still don't. In addition I don't know who my father is.
All of this, to date (I'm 29) left me with severe psychological problems. I was never able to develop that basic sense of trust. I can hardly speak with other human beings (with the exeption of the anonymity of the internet), I have plunged into depression. I am unable to function normally because I am scared of the world, scared of other people, afraid to be rejected. With a lot of self hate. I can't even work and am out on disability. I can barely manage grocery shopping. And the only person I halfways "trust" is my grandmother. Who is my only real social contact.
So, please stop saying Delphine Boël should put the matter to rest. Situations like that leave gaping wounds on one's soul. And if having certainty gives Delphine Boël at least a bit of peace of mind, then all the more power to her. I wish her, that the situation will clear with the best possible outcome for her.
*takes a deep breath* That was difficult to write for me, really difficult.
best wishes Michiru
