The people you are talking about all the time, you don't know them personally...
And....neither do you.
Sources or opinions - that's the lingua franca here. Not strolling in and
ordering established posting parties that they must trust you, take your word for "it" that they/we are wrong.
Not buying what you are selling, m'dear.
My opinion about Sarah has gone from enthusiastic admiration during their courtship and marriage, to dismayed observation during her many escapades which ranged from tacky to promiscuous, to a modicum of respect as she hauled herself out of debt, and now to a rueful realization that she's not anything that can be molded into anything resembling a whole adult.
The thread's topic is "what can she do to recover from this." The answer in my estimation is to place herself under the guidance and regulation of an entity that will act in her best interest even when she wheedles, cries and tantrums for something that is not.
I read the article on Susan Boyle a few days ago, and the very tight monetary controls placed on her. They sounded like an excellent model to use here. The only person whinging about the financial controls on Ms. Boyle was her brother, who I speculate might not have been whinging on Ms. Boyle's behalf, but in frustration that his own interests were thwarted.
Liquored up or not, Sarah's judgement is impaired on almost every count.
To recover from this latest debacle, Sarah has to submit to financial and personal guardianship.
Those who seek to excuse her by blaming it on her past are actually reinforcing that Sarah lacks the decision making process that would allow her to grow beyond her limitations. She can't, she won't, and she doesn't want to.