Well, once again a forum has turned from the topic at hand and generalized it to where the breakdown occured in Charles and Diana's relationship. I think it is pretty simple, when it comes down to it. She wanted to marry the PoW--so she did. It ended up not being the fairy tale marriage she wanted--blame it on personalities, age, whatever--but the relationship did not work. Each had affairs; well, Charles resumed an affair with his first love and Diana began a string of affairs. Later, rather than work on creating a friendship for the sake of the children, the War began and accusations began to fly.
I will say this--in everything I have read--I've not seen any evidence that shows where Charles lied about something. Diana, on the other hand, has been shown to have lied often to suit her needs. We can attempt to blame this on a broken home or whatever, but I simply blame it on the person. Let's face it--we all know it is wrong to lie--if we choose to lie anyway we will reap what we sow. For this reason, the proof that she lied often, I have to say that I do think that she misrepresented herself to Charles--because she wanted to marry him--regardless. Now, at 19 it is hard to not blame the child for seeing the world through rose-colored glasses--because I do believe she loved him with that puppy-love passion we have all felt at some point--and therefore, she was willing to do whatever to secure her lover's interest. I can't really fault her for that--but she did grow up a country girl, and I'm sure Charles believed that she loved that life. She outgrew it--but for Charles, country life was in many ways his escape from his public life. And, Diana LOVED her public life. In public she was a goddess--in the country, she was just Diana, schlepping around. She didn't want that. Charles did.
Of course, it would be naive of us to assume that was the one reason for the breakdown of the marriage. So, in comes Camilla--the evil, hated Camilla. This I have trouble understanding--why is Camilla so hated and Diana's indiscretions ignored, and passed off as occuring because she was lonely. Perhaps Charles was lonely and that was why he and Camilla's frienship continued and maybe, just maybe Diana strayed first and then Charles went his way. Diana has been known to changed a timeline. I'm not saying she did, but I am saying she has done it enough to make one wonder exactly what happened. But,regardless of how it went down, affairs happened. What I don't understand is why is Diana still considered innocent, even though her lies and manipulations have been proven? It makes no sense.