well the reason I brought it up was to say that there are still people who are very very obssessed Diana fans.. who will still see Diana as an angel, no matter what, but that in general, I think her fans see her as a human being who did soem things wrong, and got many things right.. not as a super being. And while people may be a bit more cynical now, in general I think that fascinating as Di was, mostly people were fond of her but didn't idolise her.. during her lifetime. She was clever at putting herself forward well but nobody can truly be seen as perfect.
Curryong yes she did do a great job as Princess, and I think she did bring a speical magic to the job, that no other royal woman has brought to it.. before or since. But then again you could say that most royal women have done the job of performing engagements, with or without support from the RF or their husbands, and been deserving of praise...It is what they're paid for, and Diana didn't do hundreds more engagements than any other royal lady...
But Really, I agree with you that her private life was hardly soemthing to villify her about, or if it is, then Charles too should be villified or other royals who have had affairs.
I dont see the point of attacking either of them for trying to find some consolation for an unhappy marriage.. and I can't quite see how Diana's affairs are terrible, but charles' are Ok, OR that Charles's affairs are (as some royal watchers seem to see it) evidence that he is a terrible human being.. whereas Di's affairs are either "not proven" or somehow Ok.
I think that both of them were guilty of hurting other people in their affairs, I dont think that he considered enough how his relationships with Cam and Kanga Tryon may have hurt their chidlren, or that even teh easy going Andrew PB got fed up with tolerating his affair with Cam when he (Andrew) wanted to be free to remarry..
And Diana didn't consider that her affair with Hoare was bothering his wife, or her flirtation with Carling... She was certianly guilty IMO of being too intense, and demanding too much of a lover, when he had commitments elsewhere.
But I cna't see that Di spoke of their relationships publicly while they were villified for kiss and tell books etc. She only spoke of one affair publicly, and that was after J Hewitt had already outed the relationship and he was completely at fault for "kissing and telling." her other lovers have not spoken of their relationships at all, except for Hasnat Khan, who was forced to at the inquest and who didn't get involved iwth her until she was getting a divorce...
She was reasonably discreet in her love affairs and managed to keep them out of the press, except when she lost her head over Hoare, and when Hewitt outed the affair.
and overall whatever her faults, I think she DID do her royal job well, she was a good Mother and she tired her best to be a good wife. It was not her fault that she was ill equipped for many aspects of royal life, or for winning Charles' heart when it was already given...