XeniaCasaraghi
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So I briefly saw that Hewitt is making the rounds again.
PRINCESS Diana’s former lover James Hewitt was last night reportedly fighting for his life after suffering a heart attack and stroke.
The 59-year-old was given emergency surgery and doctors gave him a “slim chance” of survival, according to reports.
The former Army officer is now said to be recovering.
Of course he knew about her affair with Hewitt...they were both aware, IMO, of whom the other was involved with.
LaRae
I agree. I still believe there was some kind of agreement between them about this "topic" ...
Of course not. Charles didn't care about Diana's affair provided she chose a man who "knew how to behave" and was discreet. Alas Hewitt didn't.Yes I'm guessing there was. Hardly the first couple to have this type of arrangement.
LaRae
Of course he knew about her affair with Hewitt...they were both aware, IMO, of whom the other was involved with.
LaRae
Basically, I think it boils down to what was an unwritten way of being in the aristocracy and that is the concept of an "open marriage". Couples never divorced as the titles and the estates and the prestige were something that both wanted to hold onto in their world and when a marriage wasn't working out, the common practice was for each partner to have their own, separate private lives that was OK as long as it was done discreetly.
Camilla and Andrew Parker-Bowles, I believe had this kind of an understanding. APB was in no way faithful to Camilla during their years of marriage and the "open marriage" avenue worked for the both of them. Its also well known that Charles' Uncle Dickie, Lord Mountbatten and his wife, Edwina had very separate intimate relationships during their marriage.
We will never know what transpired between Charles and Diana about this concept and how they felt about it and what they discussed or didn't discuss but I would think that once they both knew that the marriage was, in all respects, over between the two of them, that Charles would not expect Diana to be faithful if he, himself, wasn't. The big thing that threw everything into chaos was how it all ended up in the press and in the public eye as a free for all battle between the two of them.
This is just my guesstimation of how to answer your question.
I agree that they knew, but I don't believe they openly discussed it.
They just more or less went their own ways. Charles didn't care about Hewitt; Diana did care about Camilla, but she soon realized there was no winning that war.
But it was more probably an unspoken agreement about other lovers, rather than an open discussion, imo.
Anyone care explain?
*did Charles and Diane openly discuss hewitt affair? Something like Charles: "ok bring your lover this weekend. I will not be home"
as I understand they had an "unspoken agreement" but what is it meant? Did Charles talk to Diana about hewitt? did charles say hewitt's name in conversation?
Their unspoken agreement is so bizzare to me.
Can you cite your sources about trapping him with a third child? That's something totally new to me and I don't think there's much about Diana that I've not read. I believe that after Harry was born, Diana knew there would never be a third child.
A good source that delves into Diana's behavior is Sally Bedell Smith's book called "Diana in Search of Herself: Portrait of a Troubled Princess". Personally, I think Diana always had it in the back of her mind that she and Charles could reconcile but I don't think its something that she actively sought to make happen.
Can you cite your sources about trapping him with a third child? That's something totally new to me and I don't think there's much about Diana that I've not read. I believe that after Harry was born, Diana knew there would never be a third child.
A good source that delves into Diana's behavior is Sally Bedell Smith's book called "Diana in Search of Herself: Portrait of a Troubled Princess". Personally, I think Diana always had it in the back of her mind that she and Charles could reconcile but I don't think its something that she actively sought to make happen.
I would not term it as "trapping" but the book by the Housekeeper also mentions a desire for a third child, hopefully a daughter.
As Lady Nimue states, there were layers, but I respectfully disagree that Diana did not want to get back with Charles. I think at some point Charles was done with Diana and never looked back, but Diana wavered when it came to wanting to have a relationship with Charles. I do think the confrontation with Camilla in 1989 was sincere, at that moment Diana wanted Charles and, because he was firmly ensconced with Camilla, she wanted Camilla to give him up. Of course when Diana tells the story she conveniently leaves out that at that point she had had extra-marital relationships.
I would not term it as "trapping" but the book by the Housekeeper also mentions a desire for a third child, hopefully a daughter.
Ashe had had extra-marital relationships.