Osipi
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The Queen Mother and Lady Fermoy were people ingrained in the definite ways to behave and abhorred things that "just weren't done" or "beyond the pale" and actually their time was where the norm was that women were still "inferior" and "the weaker sex". Divorce, in and of itself, was a scandal and painted the woman with a huge stigma that people looked down their nose at. Being so above the "elite" society with being friends and confidante to the Queen Mother (royalty), Lady Fermoy, in her time, was afraid that the "taint" of scandal between Frances and Johnnie Spencer would also stick to her. She preserved her "standing" by siding with the "proper" and what was seen as the "wronged husband" in aristocratic eyes. The norm was to discreetly carry on a private life on the side and maintain respectability. Not run away from a marriage.
This has totally changed. When I divorced in the early 90s, it was me that moved away with us having joint custody of the kids with them living with dad in our marital home. Made sense and was best for the kids. He had a steady job and I'd been a stay at home mom for the entire marriage and only worked a low paying job. There would have been child support but I couldn't count on the ex assuring those payments were made. The kids were provided better for if they were with him. Nobody bat an eye at that arrangement at all.
In the Queen Mother's time, society really had a different outlook on what one was expected to do and adhere to. ?
This has totally changed. When I divorced in the early 90s, it was me that moved away with us having joint custody of the kids with them living with dad in our marital home. Made sense and was best for the kids. He had a steady job and I'd been a stay at home mom for the entire marriage and only worked a low paying job. There would have been child support but I couldn't count on the ex assuring those payments were made. The kids were provided better for if they were with him. Nobody bat an eye at that arrangement at all.
In the Queen Mother's time, society really had a different outlook on what one was expected to do and adhere to. ?