So not only are we assessing the mental health of Prince Harry, about whose inner thoughts and feelings we know almost nothing, but we're now apparently making judgements on Chelsy's mental capacity, about which we know even less.
My feeling on Chelsy is that she'll move back to South Africa at some point. Her legal training in the UK will enable her to get work in SA in the same field, given the commonalities in the two systems. I think that, along with her reluctance to become a public figure, doomed her relationship with Harry.
I hope that you didn't use the first paragraph as a critique to anyone since what you did in the 2nd one was exactly the thing you're criticising
You know, we're all here trying to enter their minds and get to know what they think. Some of us at least wouldn't mind to have that power.
BUT of course none of us really knows what goes on in their lives, let alone their minds; we're just here sitting behind a computer and gossiping a bit and getting conclusions from the small pieces of information we're giving about them and I think it doesn't hurt anyone as long as everyone has in mind that we know nothing for sure at the end of the day. The secret is Don't take it so serious
Listening to people attack Harry for his immaturity, I must admit, makes me pretty uncomfortable. I'm about 6 months younger than he is and I have no idea what I want to do with the rest of my life. Unlike Harry, I have no idea what I want to do career-wise. He's found a job that he loves and finds rewarding, and which he is also exceptionally good at. I've had different jobs but that's only taught me what I don't want to do. I'm ambivalent on marriage and children. I'm nowhere near getting married as I've not yet found someone I could bear attaching myself to.
According to some people here, all this means I'm evidently emotionally stunted in some way and unable to grow up. That's pretty depressing.
No, it doesn't. I think you misunderstood what is being criticised about Harry. No one said he's immature for not having an idea of what he wants to do career-wise. In fact, as you said, he made a choice, so it would be full to criticise something that doesn't exist.
No one said he's immature because he's not about to tie the knot yet.
People (including me) think he's immature because of his actions and reactions to the consequences of his actions.
Nothing to do with his career or the fact that he hasn't find THE girl yet.
So no one is going to conclude that you're immature because you have no idea of what to do with you're life. You're in a process of searching, analysing the options, excluding the ones you don't like and trying to find the way you want to pave. There's nothing immature about it, but the opposite: to this process is called growing up, and if you're able to analyze the possibilities and exclude some, it shows you're quite mature
Oh,I fully understand your feelings of anger when people remark Prince Harry´s immaturity.In my view he has improved a lot over the last few years,he has decided that he wants to do military service and finished his helicopter training with good results. !
I think he has improved a lot over the last few years, too. And after 4 months in Afghanistan, he's probably more mature now as well.
But he still as a long way to pave for me to say that he's a mature guy
I also share your views about Chelsy-she is very sensible because she knows the restrictions and nasty side of being a public figure and decided that she doesn´t want to change her way of living for her boyfriend.
Everybody is constantly picking on Catherine because she has not had a significant payed job or career-and here´s a goal-oriented young lady who decides that career and her own happiness are more important than marriage or glamourlife as a princess and she gets criticism as well...no matter what you do you will always find someone who will disagree!
I think the people who usually criticise Kate for those reasons you stated (and that includes me
) are not the same who criticise Chelsy for having followed her way without Harry.
People may think it's sad they're not together anymore but that's not a critique to her, it's just lamenting something we wished was different