Many of us- and those we know- have had family estrangements, sometimes for good reason. And many of us have overcome the estrangement, and reconnected as family members.
There have been things to forgive, and many of us have had to forgive- or beg forgiveness- so that we didn’t lose our family.
But you have to be big to achieve healing and reconciliation; there’s no room for being small on either side. It’s not business- it’s family.
I hope there are big people on all sides of the Windsor/Wales/Sussex family estrangement. Forget, forgive, embrace and move forward with what’s left of life.
I think it's difficult to compare the situation of an average family to that of the British royal family.
The British royal family is not an ordinary family. Almost everything about it is known to the world, and it wasn't the royal family that caused the rift with the Sussexes, nor the global revelations about the private lives of some of its members, nor the accusations of racism that damaged the monarchy.
Harry is responsible for all of this, and he has caused enormous damage, difficult to forgive given the celebrity status of his family and the responsibility it bears as a monarchy.
I also believe that Harry committed the ultimate betrayal of William. And I am deeply appalled by the pressure on William to forgive, especially since Harry has done or said nothing to suggest he feels the slightest remorse.
William grew up in a glass box, with the media desperate to find out more about him.
Throughout his life, he had to be wary of every new person who entered his life, wondering if they wanted to get to know him or simply had something to sell to the tabloids. He saw time and time again the dark side of the media, affecting everyone close to him.
His mother was harassed by journalists and photographers from the moment she became engaged, and the photographers hounded her until her death.
His father was humiliated by the revelations of his intimate phone conversations with Camilla.
His wife was harassed and persecuted during their relationship, and photographers invaded his privacy during their vacations, selling stolen photos.
Etc., etc.
As an adult, he was able to build an iron fortress with his wife and only the most trustworthy people around him.
And then, in the blink of an eye, his own brother, whom he trusted, publicly revealed his thoughts, conversations, private behavior, text messages, and even details about his private parts.
I read The Spare. Did I need to know that William was circumcised? Was it essential information?
Harry knows better than anyone the importance of privacy, for his brother and for himself.
Harry loudly asserts his privacy and demands respect for that of his wife and children. He revealed to the world information about William, Catherine, his father, and Camilla that no tabloid could have obtained.
How can you rebuild cordial and normal relationships with people you no longer trust? Because trust is the foundation of any relationship, whether familial, friendly, or romantic.
You can forgive, but that doesn't mean you can see each other again and talk. We forgive and move on with our lives, away from people who deliberately cause tension and problems.
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