Maxie
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Your pictures are wonderful, Ankie! Thanks for sharing them with us! 
princess olga said:...
One of the reasons I believe that the Dutch collectively embraced Maxima on the day of her engagement to Alexander, is because she was clever and realistic enough to realize she had to address this very matter of her father's past.
And she did, on the day of the engament, when she famously distanced herself from the Videla regime and anything to do with that.
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If, as Mette Marit had done, Mabel had tearfully acknowledged she had had a friendship with this guy when she was a young and naive student, I am convinced people would be far more lenient with her than they are today. She brought her reputation really onto herself.
MyAdia said:On the other hand, isn't there a possibility 9although small) that Mabel is telling the truth and that she really didn't have a sexual relationship with this man? Or is the fact that she lied about any involvement with him enough to condemn her?
Alexandria said:My feeling is that such good work by Mabel is overshadowed by the scandal of "Mabelgate." I think for many people the fact that she lied about any association with a known criminal is a sign that she might possibly or could possibly lie about other things in the future, which makes her untrustworthy. I think that if she had just confessed to having been an acquaintance of the man rather than try to hide that fact, little more attention would've been paid to the matter. (Certainly it would be less of an issue several years later and with a second baby on the way.)
Alexandria said:I'm not Dutch so perhaps that makes a difference, but I do like Mabel. From the few interviews I've read or seen about Mabel's social causes, particularly her work with AIDS and her lobbying for more attention and funding, I find her to be a very intelligent woman who is fighting for something real and who is doing something good for the greater world.
My feeling is that such good work by Mabel is overshadowed by the scandal of "Mabelgate." I think for many people the fact that she lied about any association with a known criminal is a sign that she might possibly or could possibly lie about other things in the future, which makes her untrustworthy. I think that if she had just confessed to having been an acquaintance of the man rather than try to hide that fact, little more attention would've been paid to the matter. (Certainly it would be less of an issue several years later and with a second baby on the way.)
Consider how little the past actions of Maxima's father matters these days. He didn't attend his daughter's wedding but he attended both of his granddaughter's baptisms in the Netherlands and even posed for pictures with the Queen. Had Maxima tried to defend her father or justify his actions, her father's presence may not be welcome at such family events.
Maxie said:Thanks for that, Marengo!
For our Dutch speaking members I found a link to the article. You can read it for free at the NRC website: http://www.nrc.nl/digitaleeditie/maandblad/today.html
And here are two pics from the interview (also from NRC, of course), which were quite nice in my opinion!It's a nice interview, by the way...
Maxie said:I think that is exactly the problem with Mabel over here in the Netherlands, Alexandria. You expressed it quite well. I mean, everyone makes mistakes, but lying about them is just not the smartest thing to be done in this case, because (as you say) one get's a feeling there is more.
Jane1 said:I think the problem with Mabel is that once you lose your integrity it is impossible to come back. Although camilla seems to be rehabilitating herslef at the rate of knots!
Alexandria said:Thanks for your Dutch opinon Maxie! I think the situation was worsened by the fact that Mabel lied about something so little and so unnecessarily. Had she lied to protect someone's feelings or for a bigger (good) reason, then I think that the lying could have been overlooked. But that she lied about a relationship that took place years ago seemed to imply that she had something bigger to hide and that is probably what the Dutch people didn't like or didn't trust about her.
As an outsider, when I first heard of the engagement and read all the profiles of Mabel, she seemed incredible! She was a very academic-minded and learned individual, she had a good job and was passionate about important social causes. In the end, Mabel hurt herself most by trying to protect herself.
The thing about Mabel is that I don't think she really cares to rehabilitate herself in the eyes of the Dutch people. She lives far away (even though it is for professional opportunities as Friso said in his interview), and because of her job some level of criticism of public and international individuals is required, which doesn't always endear people to you.
I think she has a life that she is happy with -- she has a husband who loves and supports her, a daughter and another child on the way, a mother-in-law who loves her and she still has an honourary title of Princess. Not too many people outside of royal watchers like usis going to quibble whether Mabel is part of the royal house or not, or if her title is HRH Princess Mabel or HH Princess Mabel or whatever. To the rest of the world, a princess is a princess, no matter what her rank within the family.
Maxie said:Luckily most people tend to move forward in matters like these. You can see it in several examples you named too, like Camilla. I've had the same with Maxima. To be honest: I didn't like her at all when I first saw her (the dancing and smoking pics) and all I thought was: Oh my God, does he have to be our queen one day? But at the engagement she seemed to be heavily intelligent and witty (oh those prejudices!) and best of all: she made a statement about the whole situation with her father, she was not avoiding it. Friso and Mabel could have done the same, I think most Dutch would have forgiven them, but now the media portraited them like a bunch of dishonest people. It's merely a case of bad PR. They thought: well, we don't have to explain ourselves in front of the Dutch public, we're private persons, but as a matter of fact they were not.
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Marengo said:the second part, still by Joris:
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- So far Friso Vanorange.![]()
I am in total agreement with you on this. What Camilla did was far, far worse.Moonlightrhapsody said:I don't see Mabel's situation being put on par with Camilla's. That's just a whole different can of worms as far as I'm concerned. For me, I'd rather have someone lie about their aquaintance with a ganster than have someone be a huge factor in the break-up of a marriage and family. The latter is more unforgivable, in my point of view.
Yes, they do look happy living away from the Netherlands and when they do come home, Mabel and Friso seem comfortable with the family and the family seems comfortable with them. They are also at ease on the special occasions that they are at public events with the DuRF.Main point is that it looks like she makes Johan Friso quite happy. She's given him a sweet daughter and another child on the way. They may not be a part of the Royal House anymore, but they're still part of the family which is great to see like during the Queen's birthday. It shows that it's the fact that you're a family that matters in the end.
I agree knowingly breaking up a marriage is arguably more devastating to involved parties' surroundings than a fling with a 'bad guy' when young.Moonlightrhapsody said:I don't see Mabel's situation being put on par with Camilla's. That's just a whole different can of worms as far as I'm concerned. For me, I'd rather have someone lie about their aquaintance with a ganster than have someone be a huge factor in the break-up of a marriage and family. The latter is more unforgivable, in my point of view.
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Heidi P. said:Prince Friso really does appear very happy and relaxed. I think Mabel is very good for him, too bad she didn't tell the truth in the beginning and Friso would have been both happy and in-line for the throne.![]()
Danielane said:IMHO, he didn't care at all being in line for the throne. He never enjoyed his royal status and was bored when performing royal duties.