Harry and Meghan: Wedding Suggestions and Musings


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Provided the marriage is legally solemnised according to church and civil law, it will make no difference who (if anyone at all) escorts Meghan down the aisle.

The part of the service where the archbishop states "who giveth this woman to be married to this man" is not technically a legal requirement.
 
Myself I think it would be quite an interesting thing to see if Meghan walked down the aisle alone ..but that would take nerves of steel and a lot of hutzpah to pull off in that setting. I'm still thinking Doria will walk down with her.


LaRae
 
I’m with you Pranter, I think it will be mum who walks her down the aisle.
 
Unless there is a physical reason Meghan's dad can't walk her down the aisle (it was reported he has old leg injury), I don't see him being snubbed here. It'll either be just him or both of her parents.
 
I also think it will be her dad but there is no denying she is closer to her mother. Doria also plays an active role in her life with Harry. Her father hasn't even met him. So I won't be all that shocked if we see Doria do it. It is not really a snub to her father not more than him doing it is a snub to her mother. We have seen them breaking so called tradition left and right and to be honest her father wasn't even at her first wedding but her mother was. Time will tell. Meghan will do whatever makes her most comfortable.
 
We don't know whether or not her father was at her first wedding because we haven't seen photos of the wedding itself, just parties. With her father being a more shy person, he's likely to pass on the unnecessary parts of the wedding. I don't see how having her father giving her away is a snub to her mother.

And I keep hearing they are breaking tradition left and right, but other than Sandringham, what tradition have they broken? People keep having this idea of Meghan being this person that will come in and shake things up, I've always said she'll be a lot more tradition, while doing it her own way, than people like to think.
 
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I agree it is not a snub to her mother just like it wouldn't be a snub to her father if Doria walked her down the aisle. I don't see the difference to be honest. Both her parents. Though I am sure there will be plenty articles no matter what she decides.

And I don't think Meghan is shaking anything up. No need to put words in one's mouth. She will be like the other senior royals and make appearances, shakes hands, cut ribbons, etc. That is now her full time job. But lets not also pretend she isn't a tad different than what most expected. We hear it daily listed out (divorced, America, biracial, and older.) That is all I meant.
 
I agree it is not a snub to her mother just like it wouldn't be a snub to her father if Doria walked her down the aisle. I don't see the difference to be honest. Both her parents. Though I am sure there will be plenty articles no matter what she decides.

And I don't think Meghan is shaking anything up. No need to put words in one's mouth. She will be like the other senior royals and make appearances, shakes hands, cut ribbons, etc. That is now her full time job. But lets not also pretend she isn't a tad different than what most expected. We hear it daily listed out (divorced, America, biracial, and older.) That is all I meant.

Let's face it, traditionally it is the father walking the bride down the aisle. There doesn't have to be a more reason than tradition to have it done this way. Usually when it's done another way that there is a specific reason. So yes, I would say that her father being there, but not walking her down the aisle with her and Doria would be a snub.

And no one put any words in your mouth. I just went by what you said. Her being different isn't the same as breaking traditions. Her being divorced, American, biracial and older have nothing to do with if they'll make a conscious decision to depart from tradition. I'm not see how this means she'll make a decision different than what is traditionally done.
 
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Agree to disagree. I don't think either is a snub but I am a woman who watched both her parents give a child way. It would be interesting to learn if he was at her first wedding and walked her down the aisle. And if he has met Harry yet. I won't pretend to know what she will do. She will do what is right for her.
 
I don't see it as a snub. If everyone is equal and gender doesn't matter etc etc then either parent should be able to walk her down the aisle without it being called a 'snub'.

Meghan has yet to do anything even approaching 'shaking things up' and I think that trend will continue.


LaRae
 
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Which she should do. Just being herself is enough to annoy people. She doesn't have to actually do anything and honestly there is no need. Just do work the other senior royals do. That is all that is required. She may be a tad bit more outspoken once she is more comfortable but not by much and it won't be anything controversial. Status quo.
 
Let's get back on topic please. There is no need to talk about snubbing anyone as the matter will be decided and discussed between the people involved.
 
If Meghan's mother walks Meghan down the aisle, would it be incorrect for Doria to hold a small nosegay of flowers?
 
:previous: Anything is possible, but usually not. The only weddings I have seen the mother give away the bride, she usually wears a boutanier like the father of the bride would. Perhaps one similar to the bouquet her daughter holds.

But I am still not convinced Meghan is ditching tradition.
 
I’ve seen mothers giving daughters away and they wear a wristlet corsage
 
And considering it's the media they could be making it up too.


LaRae
 
The bridal lunch seems to be suggested for the day before the wedding. An option instead of a rehersal dinner. Not now in LA.

Vera wang not only does bridesmaid dresses but flower girl. Picking an US designer to do the bridal party would be a good compromise.

Reading the 'Meghan breaking tradition again: having maid of honor instead of chief bridesmaid'. They love to stir up issues don't they, by trying to make her this American who just wont follow tradition. There is no difference, it is simply a matter of title. They mean the same thing, an adult lead bridesmaid. The only thing different would be if she chose a married one, but that would be matron of honor not maid.
 
I read that as they planning on some event before the wedding. I am sure she will so that is not some scoop by the Daily Fail. I doubt Meghan is in LA since she has an event on Tuesday.
 
If Meghan's mother walks Meghan down the aisle, would it be incorrect for Doria to hold a small nosegay of flowers?

Doubt a nosegay. ;) The trend now is to have both parents walk the bride down the aisle, and that siblings walk the groom down the aisle. It can also be mixed up differently, depends on the family, like the mother of the groom and a sister can walk the groom down the aisle.

Will be interesting to see if these kind of trends will be incorporated into the wedding ceremony. :flowers:
 
:previous: I have never heard of a groom being walked down by siblings :ermm: Siblings if involved, are usually bridal/grooms party.

If the groom walks down the aisle (sometimes they come in with the priest at the front), he usually walks his mother to her seat. I have seen the groom walk both mothers to their seats if the bride is only escorted by her dad.
 
I have never heard of a groom being walked down by siblings :ermm: Siblings if involved, are usually bridal/grooms party.

That's okay. You don't have to have heard of it. :flowers: I have, and have been at weddings as recently as last year that did so. For me it is a current trend. With Meghan I could see her mother and father walking her down the aisle, and with Harry, William and Charles walking him down the aisle. Not saying they will do such but that is a current trend (for some).
 
That's okay. You don't have to have heard of it. :flowers: I have, and have been at weddings as recently as last year that did so. For me it is a current trend. With Meghan I could see her mother and father walking her down the aisle, and with Harry, William and Charles walking him down the aisle. Not saying they will do such but that is a current trend (for some).

Must be a local and current thing. Must say I watch an embarrassingly large amount of wedding shows (sometimes only thing on tv when home) and never seen or heard.

As for Harry I doubt he will be walked down the aisle at all. And certainly not by his father. I highly suspect he will do as many grooms do, and as his brother did, and come out with some of the ministers, at the front, with his best man (presumably William). Charles will have arrived with Camilla will arrive just before the queen.
 
Must be a local and current thing. Must say I watch an embarrassingly large amount of wedding shows (sometimes only thing on tv when home) and never seen or heard.

As stated, that's okay. Not necessary for you to be aware of it. :flowers: Wedding shows, and those like them, are 'constructed' to 'play' to specific audiences with set expectations. Trends are not a necessary component, especially if too far afield from expectations, as you demonstrate.

Weddings are, in general these days (in my experience), very much constructed to the individual tastes of the couple. I am wondering how much of that will seep into the heavily traditionalized wedding of a royal ceremony with so many public pressures to see the wedding as expected. How free will Harry and Meghan actually be to design their own wedding. Will be interesting to see.

As for Harry I doubt he will be walked down the aisle at all. And certainly not by his father. I highly suspect he will do as many grooms do, and as his brother did, and come out with some of the ministers, at the front, with his best man (presumably William). Charles will have arrived with Camilla will arrive just before the queen.

Just a random musing. Not meant to disquiet the established norms. :flowers: Not meant to precipitate an argument at all, in fact. Just a musing. As stated.

P.S. As for it 'must be a local thing', one of the weddings was in France, between a French bride and an American groom. ?? Seems to be pretty wide-spread to me, but that is just me, and maybe just in my circle. Maybe.
 
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:previous: I have never heard of a groom being walked down by siblings :ermm: Siblings if involved, are usually bridal/grooms party.

If the groom walks down the aisle (sometimes they come in with the priest at the front), he usually walks his mother to her seat. I have seen the groom walk both mothers to their seats if the bride is only escorted by her dad.

Must be a local and current thing. Must say I watch an embarrassingly large amount of wedding shows (sometimes only thing on tv when home) and never seen or heard.

As for Harry I doubt he will be walked down the aisle at all. And certainly not by his father. I highly suspect he will do as many grooms do, and as his brother did, and come out with some of the ministers, at the front, with his best man (presumably William). Charles will have arrived with Camilla will arrive just before the queen.

Just because you haven't heard of it doesn't mean it doesn't/can't exist... You seem surprised when you learn new things around here (and express that in a not-so-nice-tone, unfortunately) while you can also look at it in a positive way. Even when you are a walking encyclopedia (and I mean that in a positive way, for some people do indeed know an awful lot about a wide range of topics), there are always new things to learn.
 
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Yeah I tend to agree. I have seen plenty of weddings with someone other than the father walking the bride down the aisle. It isn't nearly as uncommon as some want to make it.

I feel the biggest deciding factor for Tom Sr will be his health and how comfortable Meghan is with it. In this day she might be wanting a stronger support system and while she loves her father, he has shown he is not the best in the spotlight and this will be a global event.

I still think the dress will from a British designer. I just don't see it any other way.
 
I hope not! :ermm:
I really disliked those green strapless dresses that Autumn Phillips had.

She has a lot of different designs. Those green ones are likely to be what Autumn Phillips preferred.
 
That's okay. You don't have to have heard of it. :flowers: I have, and have been at weddings as recently as last year that did so. For me it is a current trend. With Meghan I could see her mother and father walking her down the aisle, and with Harry, William and Charles walking him down the aisle. Not saying they will do such but that is a current trend (for some).

The BRF doesn't seem to go for trendy so I kind of doubt they'll embrace this new and apparently, at least so far, limited in popularity idea. (The group of siblings escorting part, not the parents- the parents I've seen for both bride & groom) It hasn't spread to the Midwest US as far that I know. One of my nieces is planning her wedding for next fall and is a bridesmaid in 5 friends' weddings. I'll have to ask her about this. She is always on trend.

I think we'll see mostly traditional for M & H's wedding. And if Meghan has adult attendants I don't consider that to be against tradition. Many brides in the royal family have had adult attendants.
 
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