What Do Royal Brides Give Up For Marriage?


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Did royal Brides have to Give up/ change things before the got married if so what?
 
I think almost all - if not all - princesses not born royal - had to give up their jobs at first place. Letizia was a journalist, Maxima a banker, I think Mary was working for Microsoft I remember reading somewhere. Mette-Marit a waitress.
 
Privacy would one thing and perhaps the freedom really to go out of the house. At least for the Duchess of Cambridge, I don't know if it is exactly true of the others. Did they have the paparazzi stalking them?
 
Also,Mary gave up her australian nationality and also her religion changing to lutheran.
Alexandra Manley gave up the custody of any children from her marriage to Joaquim in case of divorce upon their marriage.
In older generation,Anne Marie of Denmark gave up her right for the danish throne and also her children rights when she married king Kostantine of Greece.
 
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Some give up a career or job. Others change their religion or citizenship as stated above. Privacy probably is the number one thing that they give up. Some give up their children's rights to the throne, depending on the circumstances. I imagine there are other things that they also give up, which haven't been thought of.
 
In some cases, perhaps close contact with their own families. I think they'd be expected to spend major holidays with whichever royal family they married into, at least the occasion when the family goes to their place of worship on the holiday.
 
Autumn Phillips gave up her faith so her husband didnt have to give up his right to the throne.
 
Princess Sophia of Greece gave up her Greek Orthodox Faith and converted into the Roman Catholic Faith when she married Prince Juan Carlos of Spain in 1962, in order to become Spain's Queen. Her name spelling was also changed from the Greek "Sophia" to the Spanish "Sofia".
 
They give up smoking sometimes. I think that Sarah Ferguson gave up smoking before she married Prince Andrew but then took up the habit again later on. Prince Philip also gave up smoking when he married the then Princess Elizabeth.
 
I would guess all the crown princesses gave up the right to custody of their children if they were to get divorced.
 
Also,Mary gave up her australian nationality and also her religion changing to lutheran.
Alexandra Manley gave up the custody of any children from her marriage to Joaquim in case of divorce upon their marriage.
In older generation,Anne Marie of Denmark gave up her right for the danish throne and also her children rights when she married king Kostantine of Greece.

Alexandra have the main physical custody of the boys.
 
I think the most important thing they give up before they marry is themselves! From the moment their engagements are announced they become the Royal Fiancé, the Crown Princess in waiting, and are rigorously scrutinised, not least by the household of the family they are marrying into.

"Princess School" is tailor made for each fiancé and may involve learning a new "first" language, changing the style of deportment, dress and hair. History lessons, protocol lessons, a change of religious Denomination or even conversion to another is also a possibility because she ceases to be just Mary, Maxima, Mette-Marit, Marie, Letizia, Sarah, Sophie, Catherine . . . .

She is now, for all intents and purposes, the property of the State!
 
Also,Mary gave up her australian nationality and also her religion changing to lutheran.
No, she didn´t change her religion. Countess Alexandra did change her religion.
Alexandra Manley gave up the custody of any children from her marriage to Joaquim in case of divorce upon their marriage.
This is partly correct. Prince Joachim and Countess Alexandra has shared custody of their children.
Alexandra will only have to give up custody IF she moves abroad. This goes for CPss Mary as well.

Can you give me more explaination,please? As far as I know,the boys live with their father.
The two boys, Nikolai and Felix, lives with their mother Countess Alexandra and her husband Martin Jørgensen.
 
No, she didn´t change her religion. Countess Alexandra did change her religion.

Wasn't Mary Presbyterian before she married Frederik and converted to the Lutheran Danish National Church?
 
Saschana said:
Wasn't Mary Presbyterian before she married Frederik and converted to the Lutheran Danish National Church?

Yes, she was. Although IIRC she was not officially "required" to convert, but chose to do so.
 
I think they give up to their past, and to their previous way of life. Sometimes also to their family, in official appearances.
Maxima was asked NOT to invite her father at the wedding, because of his political past.
 
Yes, she was. Although IIRC she was not officially "required" to convert, but chose to do so.
I´ve asked one, who must know the answer to the question and that person said that CPss Mary was given lectures in the evangelic-Lutheran faith before the wedding and that CPss Mary didn´t convert, so... I guess I´ll stick to this answer
 
Yes, she was. Although IIRC she was not officially "required" to convert, but chose to do so.
I think there is a little confusion about "conversion" so here's hoping this will help clarify the issue:
Wiki said:
Religious conversion is the adoption of a new religion that differs from the converts previous religion. Changing from one denomination to another within the same religion (e.g., Christian Baptist to Methodist, Muslim Shia to Sunni, etc) is usually described as re affiliation rather than conversion.
Please correct me if I am wrong, but I believe that those who change from Protestant to Roman Catholic or vice versa do, in fact, convert. Mary merely changed affiliation.
 
Please correct me if I am wrong, but I believe that those who change from Protestant to Roman Catholic or vice versa do, in fact, convert. Mary merely changed affiliation.
Exactly :flowers: Countess Alexandra did convert and was confirmed prior to her wedding with Prince Joachim.
CPss Mary didn´t convert and didn´t get confirmed prior to her wedding as she was already a protestant
 
Sometimes it seems like not only is the royal brides judged but his or her family is as well. The whole family gives up privacy. Better or worse, you're family is who they are. You can't change who they are or what they are. Seems like some people want to mold the person's family or tell them how they should behave and conduct themselves now that their family member is married to a royal.
 
Most of the time the soon to be princess
Gives up
The religion they grew up with
Their family name
Their commoner freedom (to be able to go out without the royal escorts)
Sometimes their citizenship
Their career/job
Driving privileges?
 
I don't know how many give this right up but a few give up the right to vote when they married into royalty. Most don't but a few do. This would be giving up a lot IMO.
 
I don't know how many give this right up but a few give up the right to vote when they married into royalty. Most don't but a few do. This would be giving up a lot IMO.
Here in DK they can vote, but they don´t.
 
The men have to give up their last name.
And would probably also have to give up the rights to their children in case of a divorce.
 
Obviously it depends on the woman and the royal family she is marrying into. I think on average they give up rather a lot: their careers (which they have often worked and studied hard for), their privacy, sometimes their religion, homeland and nationality. They loose their anonymity, everything that they do, say, wear is subject to scrutiny. I also think they loose their freedom of expression, I may be wrong but I think it's not really 'the done thing' for them to voice their personal opinions, especially when it comes to politics. I think they also loose their freedom of association, they would probably have to be very careful about who they mixed with and confided in. Mind you, while I think that they do give up a lot, they gain a lot in return!!!
 
I have to agree with you Tillymint. I believe that for females it is quite a bit. Although, it seems that Catherine has been able to keep a small amount of her character. She has had to give up alot I think. I don't think she really gets to spend all that much time with her family anymore. It seems she has been taken away from any normality that she once knew. But at the same time it seems she is adamant that she will go grocery shopping on her own. Well maybe with bodyguards but never the less, she doesn't have someone shopping for her. I don't know, what you gain I suppose is worth the freedom? Hmmm. :ermm:
 
Partly the ability to choose their friends in the same way as ordinary mortals do - new Princesses have to make sure their friends do not embarass the Royal Family in any way.

Prince Charles has also commented on the fact that because his diary is planned months in advance, he cannot always have a 'spontaneous' day off. When he made this remark though, several commentators made the point that it was something humbler mortals experienced as well - most of us have to go to work each day [if fortunate to have a job, bearing in mind that this is a time of unemployment in the UK] and/or attend to the home and child raising as well, with little opportunity for a 'spontaneous day off'.

Just my thoughs,

Alex
 
I would imagine anyone any man or woman they (person marrying into royalty) had an assocation with in their lifetime could come under scrunity. Usually it would be something bad, as good news is seldom reported. Even if they had nothing to do with this person. An example of this would be a classmate who went bad. Or someone that lived down the hall from them in college did something bad. Even if they didn't associate with this person in school or in the dorm, the news media would associate them with this person or place them with that person.
 
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FasterB said:
Exactly :flowers: Countess Alexandra did convert and was confirmed prior to her wedding with Prince Joachim.
CPss Mary didn´t convert and didn´t get confirmed prior to her wedding as she was already a protestant

I thought Countess Alexandra was also a Protestant from a Anglican Church?

In Singapore, we call this a transfer of membership from a Protestant denomination to another Protestant denomination. And Confirmation is only carried out in some denomination such as Anglican. Convert is for changes of one's faith to another, as per someone pointed out, eg.from Roman Catholic to Protestant or from Buddhism to Christianity.
 
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