BeatrixFan
Majesty , Royal Blogger, TRF Author
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I don't think Charles or Camilla needed 'adoration' from each other. What they wanted and what they got was a loving willingness to put the other person first. To compromise, but also to be 'there' for one another.
It is the same with the husband who comes home from work and tells his wife the sort of awful day he has had and by the telling, they can laugh about it and if they can't laugh it off, there is the absolute knowledge that at the very least, they have each other. The same husband takes the time to listen to what she has been up to.
Diana perhaps wasn't able/willing to compromise or understand that, her news was always going to be more important. She imagined that her life would now read like a Barabara Cartland book automatically. Marriage/partnerships take work from both sides, with both people aiming for the same goal. Far from either of them being insecure, they were both used to getting their own way.
There is hope for you yet BeatrixFan, friends of ours met the partner of their dreams (each other) and are celebrating their 30th anniversary soon. They don't know it yet, but they are having a party rather than the quiet dinner they think they are coming for!
Well this brings me to my next point, some people don't want that long haul relationship. I think it's fair to say that Charles was told he'd be going into an open casual relationship and when he didn't get that, it was a shock to all concerned. In the few short years I've been in relationships, I've always made it clear that I prefer an open arrangement, by which I mean that a partner is there until something better comes along or if someone pretty makes an offer, I at least want to sample the new line. Generally, I've been with people who can accept that but for others it was a huge no no and they couldn't cope. I think that's exactly what happened here. Charles was told by Uncle Louis that Diana would bear the kids and look good on the arm and he could have other partners (Camilla) as was his birth right. Diana was told that she'd be well compensated with a luxury lifestyle and what was sauce for the goose was sauce for the gander and she could have other partners as well. Unfortunately, no one seemed to listen to what Charles and Diana wanted, that being Camilla and a devoted long haul partner respectively. Any relationship that doesn't start with clear goals surely has to fail?