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I think its good for Charles to visit Diana's grave. 114 52.29%
I don't think its good for Charles to visit Diana's grave. 20 9.17%
I don't know. 10 4.59%
I don't care whether he visits her grave or not. 74 33.94%
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Old 09-02-2010, 02:20 AM
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Zonk, I am sorry for your loss. It is never easy to lose a loved one.
If Charles has visited Diana's grave, bully for him. She had given a lot to the Empire, no matter that she also had issues that we won't go into here. She deserves respect, and if he gave it, good for him.
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Old 11-23-2010, 02:13 PM
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I think PC respects Diana as the mother of his children. He was very respectful at her funeral and memorial service.

It is his personal choice whether he visits the grave or not and hence I voted, 'I don't care'.
Old 02-17-2011, 06:33 AM
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In a way, I think it's good for Charles to visit Diana's grave because, after all, she was the mother of his children, even though the marriage didn't work out.
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Old 02-17-2011, 10:24 AM
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I don't mean to offend anyone who feels differently, but what is the point of visiting anyone's grave? The dead don't know it. (And if you believe in an afterlife, then their spirits are elsewhere. Either way, no point).

To visit, Charles would have to make arrangements with Earl Spencer, and I have heard that relations between them are not warm. I can't see him begging for permission, frankly.
Old 02-17-2011, 10:46 AM
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There is a point to it, if you believe that you can still talk to this person, visiting their grave provides comfort, a closeness to the person who has passed away. Somewhere to mourn in private.
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Old 02-17-2011, 12:21 PM
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I agree that a level of comfort is achieved by visiting the graves of loved ones. I am 500 or so miles from our family cemetery and am always glad when I can visit the graves of my loved ones.
Old 02-19-2011, 01:28 AM
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In the religious system practiced for centuries by half of my family, the spirits of the dead do remain sensitively involved with us, and with their own lands, and their own remains. Each piece of land is not the same. The land where a person died, the land where a person was happy, the land where their human body is laid, these are all places where that person's mana might dwell.

This is why we visit their graves, their birthplaces, and the places they were most happy.
Old 02-19-2011, 01:46 PM
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I think it would be in poor taste .. if he had been a little nicer to her in the first place she won't have ended up roaming around the world looking for a life he seeking redemption?? probably better he seeks it elsewhere IMO. He remains a constant disappointment to me I was crazy about him when I was in my teens and really felt he would always live up to expectation so I guess my view of him is longstanding and I always fear for monarchy in Australia but I am straying here from topic .
Visiting gravesites under normal circunstances gives comfort but I doubt I would got running off to visit my first husband's it is not appropiate IMO.
Old 02-19-2011, 02:08 PM
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I hope that he will think about going. It might be the case that it would not add anything to Charles memories and experiences of Diana. The memories are probably a already very vivid and powerful so that there is nothing further to be gained for Charles. He will have his own private way of remembering her.
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I think, too, that it would be wonderful, íf he did visit from time to time her grave. Diana was his wife, whom once he certainly loved, and for his two sons it would be a comforting and conciliating gesture of a sense of solidarity. And I think, on a certain higher spiritual level, we are all in a certain way united.
Old 02-19-2011, 02:47 PM
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Originally Posted by rob2008 View Post
I hope that he will think about going. It might be the case that it would not add anything to Charles memories and experiences of Diana. The memories are probably a already very vivid and powerful so that there is nothing further to be gained for Charles. He will have his own private way of remembering her.
At the time of Diana's death, we have to remember too that it was Charles that stepped up to the plate and insisted on how some things should go, escorted her body back from France, and even as the ex husband, walked behind her coffin. To me this gave a very powerful message. I imagine with the passage of time, the memories that he does carry with him the most are the happy ones.
Old 02-19-2011, 08:29 PM
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I too hope he has moved to that place where you only really remember the good times, the joy, the laughter, the family.

The idea that Prince Charles would go cap in hand to Charles Spencer to ask permission to visit Diana's grave is unimaginably distasteful.

I personally find the whole idea of visiting a grave to "talk" to the dead creepy, never mind the propriety of visiting the grave of your ex wife.

In the words of the famous poem:

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep. etc

Over the years I have never heard a "confirmed" report that her sons made the pilgrimage either. Grief and remembrance is a private thing.
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Old 02-20-2011, 11:12 AM
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Over the years I have never heard a "confirmed" report that her sons made the pilgrimage either.
I read somewhere in the first few years after Diana, Princess of Wales died that the princes went to see the grave.
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Old 02-20-2011, 05:55 PM
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How do we know that he has not already done so? Maybe with his sons? We won't know because this would be a very private family gathering and undoubtedly Diana's brother would respect his nephew's privacy.
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