I recently watched this year's documentary featuring some of the tapes she recorded for Andrew Morton. I don't think that everything she said to Morton was absolutely true; however, she did say that she didn't have boyfriends (presumably she meant "intimate boyfriends/lovers")because she thought that she was "too messed up" or something similar. It's a though Diana was aware as a teen that she had some kind of emotional problems. At least, that's what I took from it.
She did have boyfriends, I agree that she didn't seem to have anyone special, but she did date and had a little bunch of girlfriends. And in contrast with what people have said abouot her in her later life, even good friends from her later married years DID say she was very very needy then in the later 80s and 1990s
that was the time of the Long phone calls, a lot of being demanding and she was clingy iwht her lovers then.
But no one has said that of the teenaged Diana when she lived in her flat in Chelsea.
I don't say that she didn't have some problems as a young girl. I think that some of her "not getting too close to men" as a girl was due to a fear of men, marriage, too much intimacy, making a mistake as her mother had done. But I think that when she DID make a marriage that was not good, and felt that she'd tried to find a close relationship and it hadn't worked out, that's when she got very neurotic and clingy with her friends and then later with lovers.
I don't think its fair to blame her for her behaviour as a child, being difficult with nannies, etc. She was a child who had had her world torn up by divorce and the disappearance of her mother, and I think most kds would have acted up in that situation.
She did try to "take care" of her father, following him around and offering to make cups of tea for him... IMO that's absolutely understandable that she had lost one parent and was clinging to the one she had left.. and none of the family liked Raine, when he married her.
But Johny Spencer shut himself up and then ended up marryng a woman whom they all disliked, and creating more rifts in the family.
So she was rejected by her other parent as well as her young mind would see it.
I think that DID leave her with problems, but they might have faded away with adulthood if she had found a secure haven in marriage, or even just in her safe life in London, with her friends and her work with kids.. but she didn't. She married a man who wasn't close to her, she had adoration from the public but not so much from her new family, and she had crazy press attention, but could no longer go to her nursery school and do her job, or sit at home and chat comfortably with her pals..
So I think that sparked off the bulimia, and the severe depression and difficult ways....