Osipi
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Perhaps, and this is me just surmising on things, that after the short courtship where Charles basically went about the business that was his life, during the their times together, Diana put her best foot forward and was the perfect, agreeable lady comfortable to be with Charles. They enjoyed their times together immensely if I'm remembering right and from those times, Charles came to believe that he could be happy with Diana by his side.
Perhaps Diana thought that once married, things would change and Charles would magically turn into the doting, forever in love adoring husband always and forever putting Diana first. What happened is that, like during the courtship and the engagement, Charles tended to business first and foremost. He most likely thought that Diana would be complacent when it came to the long hours he spent fulfilling his role as Prince of Wales and building his charitable projects. In other words, life was the same after the marriage as it was before the marriage when it came to Charles' day.
When Charles did have his down time, it turns out that Diana didn't particularly relish him spending it the way he liked to all the time. The country was boring. His books didn't interest her at all. She wasn't keen on his past times and his friends. She didn't really fit into that mold. The incompatibility stood out like a sore thumb. She felt left out, second rate and that was not her idea of a loving marriage at all and the fairy tale image shattered into a million pieces.
I do think they both tried and they did find that parenting was something they totally and completely agreed on but their level of intimacy as partners in a marriage never flourished and they found themselves drifting further apart than they were growing together.
As for the interview and the "love" question. There are so many different definitions of what love means that it could be a subject of discussion until the cows come home. As Denville stated, love means different things to different people. For some, love may mean total devotion and adoration and for another it could be a hot cup of tea after a very long day. Charles and Diana's only area where their love was on the same page, to me, was their love for their sons and their goals in raising them. In that area, they can't be faulted and those boys have the best of both parents in their character makeup today.
Perhaps Diana thought that once married, things would change and Charles would magically turn into the doting, forever in love adoring husband always and forever putting Diana first. What happened is that, like during the courtship and the engagement, Charles tended to business first and foremost. He most likely thought that Diana would be complacent when it came to the long hours he spent fulfilling his role as Prince of Wales and building his charitable projects. In other words, life was the same after the marriage as it was before the marriage when it came to Charles' day.
When Charles did have his down time, it turns out that Diana didn't particularly relish him spending it the way he liked to all the time. The country was boring. His books didn't interest her at all. She wasn't keen on his past times and his friends. She didn't really fit into that mold. The incompatibility stood out like a sore thumb. She felt left out, second rate and that was not her idea of a loving marriage at all and the fairy tale image shattered into a million pieces.
I do think they both tried and they did find that parenting was something they totally and completely agreed on but their level of intimacy as partners in a marriage never flourished and they found themselves drifting further apart than they were growing together.
As for the interview and the "love" question. There are so many different definitions of what love means that it could be a subject of discussion until the cows come home. As Denville stated, love means different things to different people. For some, love may mean total devotion and adoration and for another it could be a hot cup of tea after a very long day. Charles and Diana's only area where their love was on the same page, to me, was their love for their sons and their goals in raising them. In that area, they can't be faulted and those boys have the best of both parents in their character makeup today.