Osipi
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One thing that is for certain is that both Charles and Diana found each other to be totally different types of people from what they had expected from such a short and oftentimes very brief courtship. Each had their own opinion on what was to follow after the marriage and they both got it completely wrong.
The first year of marriage is the hardest one where a couple needs to adjust to the other person along with maintaining their own individuality and likes and dislikes. Charles had always had a life where people deferred to him, called him "sir" and things mostly always went the way he wanted them to go. With that mindset, it would be easy to just assume that a wife would follow suit and follow his lead, enjoy the things he does and conform into what a Princess of Wales should be like in both her private and public life. Diana, with a mindset of a young adult, romanticized her future marriage and, IMO, believed that she would be the have all and be all in Charles' life and he would put her first before everything else. Both had expectations that were a far cry from reality.
Charles grew to resent her demands on his time and she even (if what I've read is to be taken as truth) arranged things to exclude those that had been important in Charles' life up until the marriage so as to put her in the management seat. I can sympathize with Charles perhaps feeling that his life wasn't his own anymore and that Diana was trying desperately to do a "makeover" on his person to suit her idea of marriage. Diana, on the other hand, found out quickly that she needed to defer to the Prince of Wales role and found out that Charles, the man, being the introverted soul that he is, needed his books, his garden, his paintings, his walks in the woods and his alone times to breathe. This is what made the two of them so unsuitable for each other. She was city, he was country. She was nightlife and he was solitude. She enjoyed the crowds and meeting different people whereas he preferred small group gatherings of his friends.
They also had William quite soon after the marriage and that was one area that they were both in synch with each other. Their ideas of parenting and being hands on parents were strong in the both of them and that perhaps was the glue that kept them together until after Harry's birth.
Its quite easy to see why the marriage fell apart and its blame is to be laid at both of their doors. They just weren't capable of forming a strong foundation to base the marriage on. It happens. Couples either grow together or they grow apart. Marriage takes work.
The first year of marriage is the hardest one where a couple needs to adjust to the other person along with maintaining their own individuality and likes and dislikes. Charles had always had a life where people deferred to him, called him "sir" and things mostly always went the way he wanted them to go. With that mindset, it would be easy to just assume that a wife would follow suit and follow his lead, enjoy the things he does and conform into what a Princess of Wales should be like in both her private and public life. Diana, with a mindset of a young adult, romanticized her future marriage and, IMO, believed that she would be the have all and be all in Charles' life and he would put her first before everything else. Both had expectations that were a far cry from reality.
Charles grew to resent her demands on his time and she even (if what I've read is to be taken as truth) arranged things to exclude those that had been important in Charles' life up until the marriage so as to put her in the management seat. I can sympathize with Charles perhaps feeling that his life wasn't his own anymore and that Diana was trying desperately to do a "makeover" on his person to suit her idea of marriage. Diana, on the other hand, found out quickly that she needed to defer to the Prince of Wales role and found out that Charles, the man, being the introverted soul that he is, needed his books, his garden, his paintings, his walks in the woods and his alone times to breathe. This is what made the two of them so unsuitable for each other. She was city, he was country. She was nightlife and he was solitude. She enjoyed the crowds and meeting different people whereas he preferred small group gatherings of his friends.
They also had William quite soon after the marriage and that was one area that they were both in synch with each other. Their ideas of parenting and being hands on parents were strong in the both of them and that perhaps was the glue that kept them together until after Harry's birth.
Its quite easy to see why the marriage fell apart and its blame is to be laid at both of their doors. They just weren't capable of forming a strong foundation to base the marriage on. It happens. Couples either grow together or they grow apart. Marriage takes work.