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Old 01-17-2021, 04:38 PM
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I believe that - despite being ill-matched - Charles and Diana did love each other, but not in the way they needed from each other. Subsequently, a truckload of grief. The only good "things" that came out of it are William and Harry.

That's all I'm going to say about this subject.
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Old 01-17-2021, 07:06 PM
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Diana was also 12 years younger and not in the same "set" as Charles. She would not be familiar with the ethos and "nuances" that Charles and his friends were used to. I think she sincerely believed Charles thought she was the One because he wanted to marry her and she was besotted with him. I don't think she knew it all before the marriage, that Charles was still interested in Camilla and was not going to stop seeing her and they did indeed keep in touch. She thought Charles "amazing" according to what she said in the engagement interview and she said "of course" when asked if she was "in love." Diana already had associated with royals, going to birthday parties of Andrew and Edward. She wanted a husband and children and a happy marriage. I don't think she saw Charles as a "big fish." Diana was sought after as a good match because she came from a noted family, the Spencers, and had royal blood.
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Old 01-18-2021, 03:27 AM
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[...] Diana was sought after as a good match because she came from a noted family, the Spencers, and had royal blood.
Lady Diana certainly was not a nobody on the marriage market of the us-knows-us but she had no royal blood, to be fair. Or we must see anywone with a spot of royal blood as such.

Diana was her husband's 16th cousin once removed. All of it flowing from illegitimate unions. Four of her ancestors were maîtresses to English Kings. Three of these with King Charles II (1630-85), whom produced more than a quarter of the 26 dukedoms in Great-Britain and Ireland (this is where Diana's connection is, via Henry Fitzroy and Charles Lennox). The fourth maîtresse, Lady Arabella Churchill, was a favorite of King James II (1633-1701) and bore him a daughter.
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Old 01-18-2021, 06:59 AM
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It is sad - but we have the benefit of hindsight and distance. Fate and history often turn on a coin toss. If Charles had taken more time and deliberation in finding a wife he love and admired, if Diana wasn't so taken in the prospect of position. Their lives might have been completely different or we can never really know might have ended out relatively the same.
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Old 01-18-2021, 09:15 AM
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It is sad - but we have the benefit of hindsight and distance. Fate and history often turn on a coin toss. If Charles had taken more time and deliberation in finding a wife he love and admired, if Diana wasn't so taken in the prospect of position. Their lives might have been completely different or we can never really know might have ended out relatively the same.
Many say that Charles and Diana should simply have taken more time.
But, they forget what it was like back then.
The press was like a howling mob; they were hounded wherever they went.

Diana would get phone calls at all hours and was followed to work. Even the Queen couldn't get the press to back off, and said she couldn't put up with much more.

Charles thought (wrongly) that once they were married things would calm down, but that never happened.
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Old 01-18-2021, 10:46 AM
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Lady Diana certainly was not a nobody on the marriage market of the us-knows-us but she had no royal blood, to be fair. Or we must see anywone with a spot of royal blood as such.

Diana was her husband's 16th cousin once removed. All of it flowing from illegitimate unions. Four of her ancestors were maîtresses to English Kings. Three of these with King Charles II (1630-85), whom produced more than a quarter of the 26 dukedoms in Great-Britain and Ireland (this is where Diana's connection is, via Henry Fitzroy and Charles Lennox). The fourth maîtresse, Lady Arabella Churchill, was a favorite of King James II (1633-1701) and bore him a daughter.

And with the somewhat recent availability of commercial DNA testing, I believe that many, many people in the UK and the rest of the world would have royal ancestry similar to the late Diana, Princess of Wales. The difference being that the Spencers had the means and the ability to keep written records of these liaisons over the largely illiterate population of the 17th century.
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Old 01-18-2021, 10:52 AM
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Many say that Charles and Diana should simply have taken more time.
But, they forget what it was like back then.
The press was like a howling mob; they were hounded wherever they went.

Diana would get phone calls at all hours and was followed to work. Even the Queen couldn't get the press to back off, and said she couldn't put up with much more.

Charles thought (wrongly) that once they were married things would calm down, but that never happened.
I think this was the Queens thought too...after the marriage the media would settle down and things would go more smoothly.

So much pressure from the media at the time, Charles could barely speak to a woman and they started speculating. I think no matter who he married it would of been a frenzy. A shame he didn't just get on with things when he was dating Camilla.



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Old 01-18-2021, 11:20 AM
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I think this was the Queens thought too...after the marriage the media would settle down and things would go more smoothly.

So much pressure from the media at the time, Charles could barely speak to a woman and they started speculating. I think no matter who he married it would of been a frenzy. A shame he didn't just get on with things when he was dating Camilla.



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There woudl have been interest in whoever he married and a lot of media attention.. but Diana was a special case. She had an x factor that aroused a lot of popular and press attention.. so her relationship with Charles did set them of to chase after her and make their courtship stressful...I think that the RF were pleased that the press loved her so much but assumed that in a year or so, she'd settle inot married life and the press attention would cool down, because she was a familiar figure.. but she didn't settle into married life and the Press continued to chase after her because she just was so popular that they knew they had a winner every time they had a picture or story about her..
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Old 01-18-2021, 11:31 AM
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Many say that Charles and Diana should simply have taken more time.
But, they forget what it was like back then.
The press was like a howling mob; they were hounded wherever they went.

Diana would get phone calls at all hours and was followed to work. Even the Queen couldn't get the press to back off, and said she couldn't put up with much more.

Charles thought (wrongly) that once they were married things would calm down, but that never happened.
The press was still a howling mob at times. I remember the pictures of Kate being chased down the street by a literal mob of Paparazzi several times and on "significant" dates it was even worse. However times and society had changed a little so actual dating was easier. And also partly *because* if what had happened to Diana they put their foot down about rushing things and got the agreement of the press not to bother the boys at uni so they actually had time to get to know each other.

It also helped that they were in more remote Wales for a few years pre and post marriage.
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Old 01-18-2021, 12:09 PM
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The press was still a howling mob at times. I remember the pictures of Kate being chased down the street by a literal mob of Paparazzi several times and on "significant" dates it was even worse. However times and society had changed a little so actual dating was easier. And also partly *because* if what had happened to Diana they put their foot down about rushing things and got the agreement of the press not to bother the boys at uni so they actually had time to get to know each other.

It also helped that they were in more remote Wales for a few years pre and post marriage.

Very true Heavs and IMO the past experiences that Diana faced during her courtship and early years of her marriage definitely impacted how her sons later conducted their own personal relationships with their previous girlfriends and later their wives.
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Old 01-18-2021, 01:57 PM
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No, I think they'd have married because they both had reasons for wanting to marry.. and they would have blinded themselves to any signs that they weren't that suitable... and one of the problems was that in so many ways, Diana was very suitable... She was charming and sweet, she was beautiful, warm towards kids and old people.. She charmed everyone..and if she hadn't had the neuroses, which were made so much worse by her difficult marriage and the ongoing press attention, she would have been an ideal Princess of Wales.
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Old 01-18-2021, 06:50 PM
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I just like to say, the POW was to old for her. Charles was set in his way. She was a 19 year old girl with big dreams. Her popularity didn't help either, because this put Charles some what in the shadow. I read somewhere Philip pushed Charles into this marriage, this was no help either. Every time Pss Diana made a sad face on cameras, it automatically was Charles fault. She had lot's of insecurities maybe even depressions I don't really know, no one does, but may I dare to say she was a bit unstable. The press was no help either, they liked to cause trouble and did. She loved her son's and had lots of compassion for others, This made her what she was the Peoples Princess. She had a terrible accident which took her life way to early, this is the 24th year of her death. I think it is time to let her rest in peace. I really believe she wants to be remembered as mother and Pss of Wales and want the people and her family go on with their lives and not hang around the passed.
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Old 01-21-2021, 06:56 PM
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Philip really did not "push" Charles into the marriage The letter Charles carried around from his father came into the public domain, its contents revealed. Charles was advised to drop her if he did not want to marry her. Which to me is wise advice. Charles admitted in 1994 that he did not love Diana. Charles also had no trouble breaking up with other serious contenders and at least two women turned him down. DIana to me was Not "unstable." She was in a very complex situation and she and her sister Sarah had a predisposition to eating disorders. I always thought it unfair that Diana was labeled that way. She did get the bulimia under control by seeking counseling. Charles was not perfect and had his own weaknesses. I don't recall Charles being blamed when Diana made sad faces. I did read that even after there were problems she and Charles kept up appearances of being happy. I don't think Diana will ever be airbrushed. And William said every day he thinks about is mother. ANd Harry said the same. She was a very iconic individual IMO.Charles could not marry anybody close to his age, since the ones close to his age were mostly already married or had had relationships. He even turned down the lovely Davina Sheffield because her ex spoke to the press. I don't think DIana really had "big dreams,: Like many women she wanted a happy marriage and a family. Charles was interested in another woman and should not have married Diana under those conditions. The other issue was that the public took to Diana, she was warmly welcomed on the first tour she did with Charles, of Wales, She wanted to do well for Charles but I think he had insecurity issues and got jealous early on.
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Old 01-21-2021, 08:13 PM
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I just like to say, the POW was to old for her. Charles was set in his way. She was a 19 year old girl with big dreams. Her popularity didn't help either, because this put Charles some what in the shadow. I read somewhere Philip pushed Charles into this marriage, this was no help either. Every time Pss Diana made a sad face on cameras, it automatically was Charles fault. She had lot's of insecurities maybe even depressions I don't really know, no one does, but may I dare to say she was a bit unstable. The press was no help either, they liked to cause trouble and did. She loved her son's and had lots of compassion for others, This made her what she was the Peoples Princess. She had a terrible accident which took her life way to early, this is the 24th year of her death. I think it is time to let her rest in peace. I really believe she wants to be remembered as mother and Pss of Wales and want the people and her family go on with their lives and not hang around the passed.

I definitely agree that Charles was definitely set in his ways and over time resented his wife's popularity. However, it was ultimately Charles' decision to propose and her choice to accept. While there was pressure on Charles to marry, I can't say that Phillip pushed him into proposing to Diana.


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Old 01-22-2021, 10:01 PM
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Would it have been better for her if she was not moved into Clarence House, then Buckingham Palace? Maybe closer to her family or friends would have been better.
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Old 01-22-2021, 10:19 PM
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Would it have been better for her if she was not moved into Clarence House, then Buckingham Palace? Maybe closer to her family or friends would have been better.

On one hand yes I believe that it would have been better for her to stay with family ie: The Fellowes or friends who could provide some emotional support. On the other hand I do believe that there were genuine concerns for her safety from the IRA threats etc...


Still staying with friends or CH/BP would have changed the sad fact that Charles and Diana were not well suited to each other and should not have married each other.
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Old 01-22-2021, 10:25 PM
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Once she moved in it was difficult for her to end the engagement. Had she been away from living with the royals it might have been possible for her and Charles to agree not to marry. He was reassuring her though, even leaving a note on her pillow the night before the wedding, an affectionate note.
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Old 01-23-2021, 01:47 PM
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Diana was besieged by the media and handled it as best she could. She did want to marry Charles and was on the 'list' of prospective brides for the Prince of wales. If Amanda Knatchbull or Anna Wallace had said yes to Charles proposal, Diana would not have been in the picture. If Diana said no he'd have found another young aristo to court. No matter what Diana wanted, Charles had to be the one to court and propose to her.

How did Diana "manipulate him" into marrying her? She could not force him. And at some point was prepared for him not to propose. She was an unsophisticated young woman with romantic notions. If she wanted to be Princess of Wales so badly and keep the title, she would have turned a blind eye to Camilla. Charles needed heirs and wanted them so when he found a young woman besotted with him and he was attracted to her and she had no experience, he felt she was the one. Could Charles have "manipulated her?" Sweet talking and all that.

Women of Diana's class were expected to "marry well." They generally did not go to University back then. Diana was far from lazy she could have lived off her inheritance but held down two jobs, one as a nanny and the other as an assistant at a Kindergarten. She certainly had a work ethic and went right out doing tours and royal work. As far as her schooling, DIana related that she had issues taking tests, she would "freeze up" while taking exams. Diana was praised for her royal work. Charles was lucky to have found her but IMO never appreciated her.

The royals always looked for "bloodlines" back then to marry in. Diana filled the bill, since she was from an old and established family, and related to Winston Churchill. That was part of the reason DIana was on the list of eligible brides for Charles.
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Old 01-23-2021, 04:20 PM
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IMHO Diana was young and naive and wanted to be the glittering "Princess of Wales"-title and Charles slowly needed a wife and kids, so she could manipulate him into marrying her. Since her childhood, any advance in her status had been good for her and found her new friends - when she became "Lady" Diana, when her father inherited Althorp and the Spencer money and they moved there. She had been too lazy to look for a more advanced education, but she loved London life and being married to an influential man was something she could imagine. Of course there would be love, too! That was exactly what the late 70ties and early 80ties were all about - a miraculous, bubbly, wonderful time for the lucky ones.

Keep in mind that Diana with her academic record would have certainly never qualified for admission to a British university so I can't say it was that she was "too lazy" to look for more advanced education. I'm not familiar with the necessary requirements to apply to a training college to become a secretary or administrative aide. Also her homesickness meant she also didn't complete her term at her Swiss finishing school. So she was limited as to where she could find employment. She seemed content with her various part time jobs: nanny, teacher's aide, dance instructor, and house cleaner and it allowed her freedom for the weekends to attend house parties etc...


I do agree that the Spencer's plan for all three of their daughters was to have all married to influential men who would provide them with a safe and comfortable life among their social set.
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I remember when they got engaged People magazine wrote an article about how she was a "commoner". You got the impression they met at a local mall rather than she had royal blood as well.
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