Originally Posted by AdmirerUS
There is a lot we (and I think the family) don't know yet. It will be interesting to watch things play out over decades.
And while I am surprised that it just happened, I am not surprised that it happened. I think Harry has had this dream of doing it his own way for a very long time. No doubt having a soul mate who agreed with him helped make the decision easier.
I think that is a very valid point.
How did H&M get to this point where they are trying to opt more or less out of the BRF pretty much on their terms? (Fat chance of it ending up being the way they want it though!)
Two scenarios are currently being presented by commentators here in DK:
A) Harry is fed up with the stiff, confining and (presumably in his opinion) old-fashioned way the BRF works, also in regards to protections and in the way royals should promote causes in a todays world.
All this pomp and circumstances is tedious to the bone! And wants to break free and get some real work done. Work that makes a difference.
He met and married someone with a fresh view in Meghan. Someone who has the courage to be unorthodox and to stand by her conviction and who would support his struggle to modernize the BRF approach from within and by example. If need be force a modernization to take place.
With that failing or at the very least being met by considerable opposition a logic step is to go solo and perhaps settle most of the time in North America where there are fewer restraints.
- And here we are...
B) Meghan has never really comprehended how the monarchy works and how people in a monarchy perceive royals as being different from celebs, with different roles. She has never really had the time to understand how the system works and no one has been able to make it clear to her.
With that view in mind, she wanted to use her position to put focus on and promote causes that in her opinion are primary. And by being a personal example. - You can't promote a cause by remaining neutral and hiding behind ceremonial and etiquette. You must do
And not fully understanding the role of the BRF, which is to represent everybody, also those who disagree with you, one way to go is to lead by example and show how things can be done differently and better.
(Meghan was on top of that supported, or certainly not discouraged, by a doting man who is also willing to go extraordinary lengths to protect his wife.)
And being prevented from doing that to the fullest, the logic course is to break free from the restraints and go solo.
- And here we are...
In both cases we are having IMO two people who are living in their own world and who have build up an imaginary image of their future role, their importance, their impact and how their action will be perceived by others.
It doesn't exactly help that they seemingly have surrounded themselves with a staff and advisors who really don't understand what a monarchy is.
And for whatever incongruous reason, that I personally find baffling, they decided to alienate the press and I dare say the monarchist as well as the general public.
It basically started IMO at birth of their son.
No photo shoot at the hospital. That's something royalists celebrate and look forward to. Big time! And the press earn serious money on such events.
All were turned down and had to content themselves with what was it? A glimpse of a head?
Next big mistake: The christening. Why that limited coverage? Why the secrecy?
Again, this was a snub on the royalists who love this kind of show and the press who earn big money on such a show.
Third mistake: Go on the offensive against the press, who were already annoyed at them, without having a solid base for that attack. And having disappointed a considerable segment of their home base: The British royalists.
Don't declare war on the press unless you are sure to have the public opinion on your side! Or you will
Fourth mistake: Complain about how the press treats them, while having a feud with the press, while getting bad press and not having the public in their backs.
To many, too many, that left an impression of H&M whining. And it turned away focus from what they wanted to promote and instead towards themselves.
And now this fifth mistake: Acting way too prematurely and on their own initiative.
- Because team H&M actually did well.
There was the admittedly very irritating issue about the Meghan family, but that generated more sympathy than annoyance for Meghan.
And of course Meghan got criticism. Just as Kate was criticized for years. Just as harshly.
But that could be overcome by simply keep working and doing as good a job as possible. And it did work! - Meghan smiled to everyone and everybody as required. She was pleasant and said pleasantries at the appropriate moments. And Harry looked suitably happy and adoring. - We only needed fifteen gondoliers in the background singing romantic ballads to complete the picture!
They were both a perfect addition as well as a contrast at the same time to team W&K. - They had a role within the BRF and they could have continued to have had a role IMO.
But now? The gods only know what happens to team H&M now. Only one thing is certain: They are not
going to get things their way.