Osipi
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To me, it doesn't matter whether counselling was suggested or even something that did happen after Diana's death or any time in the years following. The bottom line is that in order for therapy/counselling to have been of any good, Harry would have to have been an active and willing partner in the sessions and be willing to look at what troubles him. I believe Harry, himself, said that for many years, he suppressed all those feelings and didn't want to deal with them. He, himself, said that it led to drinking and drugging to "escape".
Harry is at a point now where he sincerely believes that relating his story and what, to him, has caused monumental problems in his life for him, is inspiring to others with troubling lives. What Harry is not able to offer though is any semblance of taking responsibility for one's outlook on life and the situation he's in and has only gotten as far as to discover what, to him, was the exterior events and parts of his life that he had been suppressing and not dealing with. He's offered absolutely no "awakening" as what changes he needs or wants to make in his own mind to be able to actually be happy in life and be happy with the man he is.
This is why my hope for him is the serenity to accept the things he cannot change (the past), the courage to change the things he can (himself) and the wisdom to know the difference. It's a long painful road sometimes to recovery of a good mental outlook on life but the blessings along the way are mind boggling when you discover them and grow. It's a very personal journey and I think, eventually, Harry will wish he had kept it private.
Harry is at a point now where he sincerely believes that relating his story and what, to him, has caused monumental problems in his life for him, is inspiring to others with troubling lives. What Harry is not able to offer though is any semblance of taking responsibility for one's outlook on life and the situation he's in and has only gotten as far as to discover what, to him, was the exterior events and parts of his life that he had been suppressing and not dealing with. He's offered absolutely no "awakening" as what changes he needs or wants to make in his own mind to be able to actually be happy in life and be happy with the man he is.
This is why my hope for him is the serenity to accept the things he cannot change (the past), the courage to change the things he can (himself) and the wisdom to know the difference. It's a long painful road sometimes to recovery of a good mental outlook on life but the blessings along the way are mind boggling when you discover them and grow. It's a very personal journey and I think, eventually, Harry will wish he had kept it private.