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Old 03-03-2021, 10:20 AM
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Just for a note: Jason Knauf, the guy who sent email raising concern about the staff treatment is an American ("An American PR Guru" as per Telegraph headline when he joined the palace), not some "delicate" Briton. So personally I will refrain from making this into American vs British.

And in my limited knowledge, at least one of the staff who left Sussex team is a WOC so I will also refrain from making this into racial one.
He's is Canadian I believe. But yeah.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:22 AM
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Natalie Campbell left the Royal Foundation to join Sussex Royal. She stayed on with them until they left the UK. I am not suggesting it is racial but I am just commenting on how that trope is very well known especially to WOC in high positions. And that *some* are wondering if those dynamics could be in play with Meghan and the staff.

Even Camilla Tominey of the Times admitted that she heard some of the staff looked down at her because of her being American and a woman with ideas. That might not be the case here but it certainly lays out the dynamics in play behind the scenes.

That doesn't excuse her actions if she did do it. Though I still don't know what exactly she is allegedly to have done.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:24 AM
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At this point, why doesn’t The Times state exactly what was said by Meghan to the aides? They clearly have emails from Jason so I’m sure what was said exactly must have been mentioned.

Because right now it’s vague and if you’re going to accuse someone of bullying in this way, you should be stating what exactly happened and when.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:24 AM
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I don't find the timing suspicious, it is timed to coincide with the interview. I'm sure you are correct about the NDAs but to me, powerful people making accusations against those who can't respond is the very definition of bullying.

From what I have seen of Meghan, I find it very difficult to believe that she is a terrible person, but I don't think the employees are either. Another poster, Yukari made an excellent point in post 300 - there was probably a cultural clash. However, a person can't marry into the British royal family and expect to completely upend the institution. Like Yukari, I have also worked in other countries and with people from other cultures and it is much easier to adapt to their way of doing things.

Personally, I don't see the problem with sending an email at 3:00 a.m. - unless she expected an immediate answer (which I doubt). But if it was inappropriate, I believe the problem could have been solved if someone had politely explained that to Meghan and suggest using the delay send option.

Other issues were probably not easily resolved, such as wanting to change the way the royal family interacts with traditional media. In that matter, I think Harry and Meghan should follow the Queen's lead. After all, they are representing Queen and country. It should not have been the end of the world and they could have revisited the issue when Charles becomes King.

That said, if there was a flung teacup, that is inappropriate no matter where (or who) you are.
Well if you are a barrister 3am emauls are common but unless it is life and death you can easily schedule send.

I dont think she is terrible.

I dont think they are terrible.

I do think that there were things that went on that were out of line and I think she had no idea what she was doing in that family and I think she probably did act badly at times. And I do think she probably can be emotionally manipulative.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:25 AM
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People have a different reasons for staying, even when faced with a toxic work environment. I did that twice in my life - once, a long while ago, because I knew if I leave that job I won't have money to pay for the apartment and the medical procedure that I needed. Second time, more recently, because I was in a higher position and I didn't want to leave the people I worked with and liked very much, to fend for themselves with no one from the management to stand up for them.

So sometimes just because it looks like one thing doesn't mean the accusations are not true. The email was written and send in October 2018, after a successful tour of Australia, when the Sussexes were working royals. Jason Knauf didn't get anything from noticing his co-workers were treated badly and going forward with this. I don't see a reason why he would fabricate the accusations with absolutely nothing to gain from this. The rumours were there, we were just ignoring and explaining them...

I can attest to this from personal experience too!
My current job former supervisor was pretty bad, people would come and leave, I stuck around cause the money was good and I had loans that needs paying. I kept my head down, did my job solidified my status as best as I could, tried to help the ones who were mistreated to the best of my ability mostly by telling them to run for the hills.

I had another job where I made the calculations and decided leaving was in my best interest, despite the position being my dream job right out of college, the way I was treated just wasn't worth it.

life situations change and so do our decisions.



As for the letter from her lawyer, I saw someone point it out, it is interesting not even a whitewashed apology was given. Even if you don't believe your words and actions attacked someone, the other person may have still been offended - again a cultural misunderstanding can happen. It seem hypocritical, that Meghan expects an apology from anyone who speaks badly about her, but won't extend the same courtesy.

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I don't find the timing suspicious, it is timed to coincide with the interview. I'm sure you are correct about the NDAs but to me, powerful people making accusations against those who can't respond is the very definition of bullying.

From what I have seen of Meghan, I find it very difficult to believe that she is a terrible person, but I don't think the employees are either. Another poster, Yukari made an excellent point in post 300 - there was probably a cultural clash. However, a person can't marry into the British royal family and expect to completely upend the institution. Like Yukari, I have also worked in other countries and with people from other cultures and it is much more effective to adapt to their way of doing things.

Personally, I don't see the problem with sending an email at 3:00 a.m. - unless she expected an immediate answer (which I doubt). But if it was inappropriate, I believe the problem could have been solved if someone had politely explained that to Meghan and suggested using the delay send option.

Other issues were probably not easily resolved, such as wanting to change the way the royal family interacts with traditional media. In that matter, I think Harry and Meghan should follow the Queen's lead. After all, they are representing Queen and country. It should not have been the end of the world and they could have revisited the issue when Charles becomes King.

That said, if there was a flung teacup, that is inappropriate no matter where (or who) you are.
It's quite possible, that the persona that we see on camera and on social media is the exact opposite to her real life one.
It's not unheard of, many people can be seen 100% charming and caring in public, but be 100% abusive behind closed doors.
in fact, most abusers are like that, which is partially why it takes victims of abuse sometimes years if not decades to come forward, because they are afraid they won't be believed because of that public persona.
Add in if that person is super famous and powerful (such as a superior at work)
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:26 AM
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Personally I think that all of the staff at Kensington Palace would have water tight NDA's. So they cannot talk - someone might have leaked the email to the Times, but that is suspicion in the timing so I wonder if the Times doesn't have something up its sleeve for Sunday.
At this point The Sussexes have alienated the British press, lost the support of the British public and, based on this latest story, left bad blood with at least some of the aides who dealt with them when they were working royals. Leaving aside the question of who bears the blame for things getting to this point, I would say this is an unenviable position for Meghan and Harry to be in because, with all those forces aligned against them, there are ways for damaging information to come to light even in the face of things like NDA's.

IMO Meghan and Harry have acted as if they're untouchable ever since they decided to leave working royal life and in the process have actually made themselves very vulnerable. They no longer have the insulation provided by the bureaucracy in place around the BRF.They're in the process of trying to piece together a lucrative professional life based on nothing more than their status as members of the BRF and their self proclaimed role as voices for good in the world. Plausible claims about things like bullying have badly damaged the careers of people more powerful and accomplished than The Sussexes. No one in public life is really untouchable anymore.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:26 AM
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Natalie Campbell left the Royal Foundation to join Sussex Royal. She stayed on with them until they left the UK. I am not suggesting it is racial but I am just commenting on how that trope is very well known especially to WOC in high positions. And that *some* are wondering if those dynamics could be in play with Meghan and the staff.

Even Camilla Tominey of the Times admitted that she heard some of the staff looked down at her because of her being American and a woman with ideas. That might not be the case here but it certainly lays out the dynamics in play behind the scenes.

That doesn't excuse her actions if she did do it. Though I still don't know what exactly she is allegedly to have done.
Easily believe that of older staff at BH etc but KP staff are all young Jason K is from the Americas and I doint they would think like that.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:29 AM
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It would be unrealistic for Meghan and Harry to think they could keep up the narrative of their so called mistreatment by everyone from the British press to palace aides - and to keep up that narrative in very high profile ways, like with Finding Freedom and now also very likely with the Oprah interview - without some people eventually deciding to push back. This has the potential to be an ugly situation. Meghan and Harry should tread carefully.
Exactly. I doubt that 99.99% of people could care less about Meghan's earrings, but this sort of thing is making the news because of this ongoing conflict. It's unpleasant and undignified. If Meghan and Harry would stop moaning, and move on with their lives, it would probably stop.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:38 AM
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I've just had a text from a friend who's sure that this means Harry and Meghan have dropped some true bomb shells in the Oprah interview and a lot of twitter seems to be of the same opinion. But I'm not so sure.

These aren't new rumours and the Times is not a tabloid or a BRF unquestioning mouth piece (and in general has been more pro Sussex than many British newspapers). But whilst the timing isn't a coincidence, once you start airing your dirty laundry in public and making accusations (whether they're "bombshells" or not) and prove you don't really want privacy then you give everyone else permission to unload what they they have as well.

It looks like its going to be a rough time for all sides.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:49 AM
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I think it likely both Sussexes will express the usual dissatisfaction with the press, perhaps with more specific offenses that were very concerning/damaging.

I think it is quite possible/likely there will be discussion of the conflict of how The Firm operates ...there have been blips in the past (before Meghan) about frustrations dealing with “the system”. Also I won’t be surprised if the constraints on what they could do are talked about. I do highly doubt there will be any discussion about interpersonal relationships with the members of BRF ..unless Harry says something along the lines of what we have already heard before.

Based on the preemptive things we are seeing from “sources” it makes me wonder just what they (The Firm) are afraid of being made public.


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Old 03-03-2021, 10:53 AM
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I think it likely both Sussexes will express the usual dissatisfaction with the press, perhaps with more specific offenses that were very concerning/damaging.

I think it is quite possible/likely there will be discussion of the conflict of how The Firm operates ...there have been blips in the past (before Meghan) about frustrations dealing with “the system”. Also I won’t be surprised if the constraints on what they could do are talked about. I do highly doubt there will be any discussion about interpersonal relationships with the members of BRF ..unless Harry says something along the lines of what we have already heard before.

Based on the preemptive things we are seeing from “sources” it makes me wonder just what they (The Firm) are afraid of being made public.


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I agree. I think it’ll be the usual things they’ve said about the press but maybe they’ll name names this time instead of just keeping it general.

And Meghan will probably be polite towards the royals and at “worst”, neutral. Harry in his James Corden interview has nothing but praise for his grandparents and didn’t mention anyone else so perhaps that is the line they’ll take with regards to the royals.

I think people need to remember that what we know so far about this interview is 2 minutes or so of clips that were most likely to be designed to be as “explosive” as possible so people tune in. And in those clips, Meghan really didn’t say anything at all.
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Old 03-03-2021, 10:59 AM
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The press went after the Sussexes went they kept quiet so they decided to fight back, so go for them.
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Old 03-03-2021, 01:13 PM
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Comments about Trump have been deleted. As have comments about Harry and Meghan’s former staff being lazy, or out to get them.

I know there are a lot of stories right now about what went on during Meghan’s time in the BRF, and with the upcoming Oprah interview there are sure to be more, but let’s try and stick to discussing what we know and has been reported about the situation, and not veer into fantasy, attacks, or rumors.

Per the forum rules: “Whenever possible, opinions should be based on factual information obtained from reputable sources and should be backed up by references to those sources.”
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Old 03-03-2021, 01:42 PM
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it isn't the first time that claims emerged of meghan being demanding - the story about the 5 am emails, the episode of kate being in tears during the prewedding fitting session, the many members of her staff leaving their jobs (Samantha Cohen, the nannies, the bodyguard who was with her in fiji, Melissa Touabti, Katrina McKeever)....

time will tell if it is true but it is highly suspicious these stories keep appearing in the press. the times isn't exactly tabloid press so it has some weight.

it is interesting that this is all bubbling now, just days before the oprah interview...
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Old 03-03-2021, 02:03 PM
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Hot! Buckingham Palace is set to properly investigate the allegations of bullying by Meghan.
I truly hope to eat my hat and that this was a total misunderstood situation, because no one deserves to be bullied by their superiors.

https://twitter.com/CamillaTominey/s...445982727?s=20
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Old 03-03-2021, 02:11 PM
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I am with those who think that this is based on a massive cultural clash, less so on Meghan being a bully. I don't think the palace was ready for a demanding/bossy woman from Hollywood where you have to act up to get noticed.
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Old 03-03-2021, 02:15 PM
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Hot! Buckingham Palace is set to properly investigate the allegations of bullying by Meghan.
I truly hope to eat my hat and that this was a total misunderstood situation, because no one deserves to be bullied by their superiors.

https://twitter.com/CamillaTominey/s...445982727?s=20



I would be surprised if the Palace didn't open a full investigation, as that would look very bad on the Royal Household.

This has nothing to do with Meghan personally, but it is simply what any responsible employer should do. In Canada for example, the most recent Governor General had to resign due to allegations of bullying from her staff.
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Old 03-03-2021, 02:17 PM
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Ummm but this was something that supposedly went on 2 or 3 years ago...why was it not investigated then? Ppl are now saying the person who filed the complaint did so without authorization of at least one “victim” who asked it be withdrawn....so none of this is clear, what a mess.

If Meghan was out of line then definately it should be addressed. Will be interesting to see if the investigation is leaked....and what the actual allegations consist of. I have seen nothing posted so far that seems to meet that claim.


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Old 03-03-2021, 02:26 PM
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This makes no-one look good. If these accusations are true then the palace are also in the wrong of not taking these claims seriously and responding to complaints.

It’s also been 2+ years after said incidents. Why weren’t the complaints properly investigated in 2018. Again, no-one looks good.
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Old 03-03-2021, 02:30 PM
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I am with those who think that this is based on a massive cultural clash, less so on Meghan being a bully. I don't think the palace was ready for a demanding/bossy woman from Hollywood where you have to act up to get noticed.
Can that not also be said of Meghan's complaints and accusations about not being supported by the monarchy? That it's all based on a big culture clash. She expected a Hollywood style PR game and for HM to come out swinging for her, that she didn't understand the delicate balance about what she can publicly support, when its just not the way they do things in general?
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