Prince Harry: Relationship Suggestions and Musings 2015 - Page 17

Pranter · #**321** 05-13-2015, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Mirabel

I think Harry needs someone like Zara! Sporty, fun, free-spirited, energetic, yet willing to step up and look the part for any royal events.

Doesn't she have any like-minded friends to introduce him to?

I would imagine that's already been done.

LaRae

Curryong · #**322** 05-13-2015, 07:49 AM

Yes, free-spirited, energetic etc., similar to Zara, but does Zara participate in any royal ceremonial or events? I've never seen her do any, although she does sometimes appear on the balcony at the Trooping of the Colour. I mean, Harry's wife is going to have to participate in some major royal occasions in the next reign.

Maybe there's an energetic and free-spirited young woman in the Diplomatic Corps, working in some Embassy? Knowledge of protocol could be handy.

amaryllus · #**323** 05-13-2015, 07:53 AM

Pity they don't marry cousins any more... Seems all the ideal women are related to him. Bea and Eug and esp Zara are pretty much ideal for him really.

Rudolph · #**324** 05-13-2015, 08:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Pranter

Who says any woman should have a career? Not all women care to have them. For some women (even nowdays) they want to marry and care for the family..and really that is a career. If they and their spouse are ok with it then there shouldn't be anything else to say about it.

I would say it will be hard for a wife of Harry's to have a career outside the royal family/charitable works.

LaRae

I agree. For some there is a puritanical obsession with 'work' and disregarding the family.

As has been pointed out regardless if Harry marries an astronaut she will have to become part of the Firm anyway and give up her career.

Dman · #**325** 05-13-2015, 08:29 AM

Yes, despite Harry being pushed down the line by George and Charlotte, he's a senior royal and any young lady he ends up with will most likely have to give up her job or at least work on a part-time bases.

amaryllus · #**326** 05-13-2015, 08:32 AM

I have to say it... Prince Albert finally met the right person at almost 60. Harry has all the time in world and should not be in any hurry.

Marty91charmed · #**327** 05-13-2015, 08:39 AM

Agree with amaryllus... Also, I find the whole debate about his suitable woman a bit creepy to be honest...

Dman · #**328** 05-13-2015, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by amaryllus

I have to say it... Prince Albert finally met the right person at almost 60. Harry has all the time in world and should not be in any hurry.

I wouldn't say Harry have all the time in the world or that he would want to wait that long. Albert's situation was a miracle in itself.

I totally understand Harry's situation though. It's tough, but he'll find the right one for him. I think it's harder for us average Joe's, and watching tons of Lifetime movies have a way of messing you up when it comes to the dating world!

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Originally Posted by Rudolph

I agree. For some there is a puritanical obsession with 'work' and disregarding the family.

As has been pointed out regardless if Harry marries an astronaut she will have to become part of the Firm anyway and give up her career.

I also agree, there is a crazy "obsession with 'work' and disregarding the family." It's all about, 'work the correct job and have the proper career or you're not good enough.' Then, if the families not pure as water and not from a aristocratic background, the royal family will embarrassed in some way.

GracieGiraffe · #**329** 05-13-2015, 08:49 AM

Harry watches Lifetime movies?????

I'd sooner believe the Kate-had-a-surrogate-for-George nonsense.

Pranter · #**330** 05-13-2015, 08:52 AM

Well we know it's not that he doesn't want to settle down...he's said at least twice in interviews in the past couple years that he wants a family and he wants to find the right person.

I cannot imagine being him and trying to get to know someone with the media focus...William actually had it much easier because he was sheltered from the media during the crucial early dating years with Kate.

LaRae

amaryllus · #**331** 05-13-2015, 08:57 AM

Fact is sometimes, many times people never find the right one... He of all people must have absolutely no doubt this person is 'the one' even if it takes years and if it never happens he has a rewarding job, huge supportive family and means to pursue anything his heart desires. Marriage and kids is not the end all and be all to happiness unless you let it be.

Dman · #**332** 05-13-2015, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by GracieGiraffe

Harry watches Lifetime movies?????

I'd sooner believe the Kate-had-a-surrogate-for-George nonsense.

Lol, I just had to add Lifetime in there, but those stories will mess you up.

amaryllus · #**333** 05-13-2015, 09:05 AM

It is a creepy thought he could easily see various 'fact' based accounts of his mothers life story or his brothers romance at any given time.

GracieGiraffe · #**334** 05-13-2015, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by amaryllus

It is a creepy thought he could easily see various 'fact' based accounts of his mothers life story or his brothers romance at any given time.

Or his own....

I recall seeing advertisements for a Lifetime movie on the "love story" of Will and Kate- my God, what utterly nauseating crap.

I would think that after watching Mummy and Daddy in action, Harry has a pretty good idea of what marriage can be, and it ain't all Lifetime. Also, at this point, his brother and sister-in-law have had enough ups and downs that he is aware of what a long term relationship is, not to mention some of the other rellies. Although you never quite know what it is until you get there yourself.

amaryllus · #**335** 05-13-2015, 09:26 AM

Mum and Dad AND aunt and uncle mind. He knows what nightmares and pain an incompatible marriage can do and Harry is not a man who courts drama and a press feeding frenzy if it can be avoided at all.

Olyashka · #**336** 05-13-2015, 10:58 AM

Who knows in the future... the party-loving prince may end up as a most loyal husband who will never think about divorce once he gets married...
Talk about miracles ; )

XeniaCasaraghi · #**337** 05-13-2015, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Ish

It's hard to compare a possible spouse of Harry's to the situation Kate, Diana, and Camilla were each in.

Kate met William in school and while she didn't marry him until she was older they were together for long enough that I don't think we can really fault Kate for not having had a career pre-marriage.

Diana, on the other hand, met and married Charles when she was extremely young and didn't really have time to have found a career, similar can be said of Sarah.

Camilla got married young at a time when it wasn't uncommon for women, especially those of her class, to not work.

A lot is made of Sophie having given up her career for Edward, but we should remember that first of all she wasn't motivated to have one - she had to have one, her age and class required it - and second of all she gave it up because she got into trouble with how she used her royal status to further her career - behaviour that Edward could also be accused of. Neither of them became full time royals because they were willing to sacrifice themselves for the betterment of the monarchy, they became full time royals because they had to in order to save face.

Harry is very capable of finding a girl who's close to his age or a bit younger and doesn't have a career because contrary to what many people on this board seem to think it's not all that uncommon for a late-twenty-early-thirty-something to have not yet established themselves in a career yet. Unless someone is a professional who has spent years getting a degree for a certain job - lawyers, doctors, etc - or considers the job path that they're on to be their calling Harry really isn't likely to be as limited to find a possible spouse who has working history but isn't in a position where she couldn't or wouldn't give it up.

I hate quoting long post entirely but I feel I have to. I agree that comparing a woman to the situation of Kate Diana and Camilla isn't entirely equal. I only did it in response to the inquiry that whomever Harry meets will have to be willing to run off on vacations or schedule theor life around his. It appeared to me that such a thing did occur with Camilla Diana and Kate, and I wonder if Harry is to have a successful relationship if he will have to find a woman like them, with no real job or goals.
Edward did find Sophie and somehow they made it work despite her lifestyle not being on par with revolving around him. I know Sophie was forced to give up her career, but I feel it is admirable that she did choose Edward and her marriage over leaving and keeping her career. Sophie imo showed that she is not work obsessed and is focused on her family.
A 30yr old woman with no job or goals would be a warning sign imo, I am 30 and am still trying for a career but I have not been idle my whole life. Ive worked and gone to school, I've at least been striving for something. My point is that I think going after a woman who is idle in her 30s and just floats around accomplishing nothing is not something I would recommended. If admiring hard work, education and accomplishing something or anything makes me career obsessed, then I am happy to be that way.

TLLK · #**338** 05-13-2015, 11:33 AM

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Originally Posted by GracieGiraffe

Harry watches Lifetime movies?????

I'd sooner believe the Kate-had-a-surrogate-for-George nonsense.

Now GracieGiraffe-The can have "compelling" story lines and some are actually loosely based upon real life events.

GracieGiraffe · #**339** 05-13-2015, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by TLLK

Now GracieGiraffe-The can have "compelling" story lines and some are actually loosely based upon real life events.

When's the Harry-Chelsy, or heaven forbid, the Harry-Cressy story coming on?

**soapstar** · #**340** 05-13-2015, 01:00 PM

The fact of the matter is, any woman that Harry finds will unfortunately have to give up their career and essentially adjust their lives to be with him. Just take a look at the various royal houses. How many of the current royal spouses have had to give up their jobs and leave their lives/families behind? Pretty much all of them.

When Harry and Chelsy were dating, she was the one that had to move so that they could be together. There was no way that Harry would have been able to live with her in Africa. She was the one that had to make the sacrifice and any new girlfriend that he gets, will also have to do the same.

As for finding a woman in her 30's with no career, well there are plenty of them in the set that Harry and the rest of the younger royals hang out with. Chelsy isn't currently working, maybe they'll get back together.

Seriously though, these people are rich and don't need to work. They can spend their time vacationing and doing charity or whatever. Plus like someone said, not everyone wants a career. Some woman are entirely happy being wives and mothers.

The most important thing, is that he finds someone that will support and love him and vice versa. Someone that doesn't mind readjusting their lives to fit into the royal family. That may be a career woman, or that may be a socialite. Only Harry knows what type of woman will be right for him.