Prince Harry: Relationship Suggestions and Musings 2015

[lucymae88]

Prince Harry needs to stop dating the same blonde girl over and over and get out of circle of blue blood girls his grown up around. I don't see him getting back together with Chelsey Davy neither and I don't think she wants to be a royal bride still. He needs to find a girl that's not looking to become famous or a title, but willing to take on being a royal. She had better be confident in her own skin, cause she is always going be compared to perfect Kate. I just hope the press will let the girl be herself and not compare her to Kate ever article they write. She needs to have a career and good friends and family behind her too.

[amaryllus]

Kate AND Diana if you please. He does like the blonde socialites for sure...I wonder what Freud would say about that?

[TLLK]

Originally Posted by Curryong

I just don't think Harry's wife would be able to, especially when Charles becomes king. Even Sophie found it incredibly difficult.

If say, Harry married a lawyer or an architect what about days to be taken off that she was just expected to attend like the Trooping of the Colour? If lots of clients ask specifically for her to handle their case/project, what would be the reaction of her professional colleagues?

What if she handled a case badly and a client went to the media with complaints? How would that reflect on the firm? Would colleagues and the boss appreciate the business building being besieged by photographers or reporters asking them about their opinion of Duchess ---? What about security? She would have to have ever-present Protection Officers.

I can imagine lots of other reasons why, as a senior royal, especially when Charles comes to the throne, Harry's wife will be much better off in the royal family, supporting her husband and in-laws, especially as Charles and Camilla will be elderly.

I have to agree. IMO this would be like Princess Margariet in the NL supporting her mother and later her sister in handling the royal duties. Harry and spouse would be a necessary part of Charles' reign especially as he and Camilla age. Later I expect that he would be there to help his brother.

Now I do believe that Harry's children will be encouraged to find careers in the outside world but would be present at large family gatherings.

[XeniaCasaraghi]

Hmm I have a problem with people saying what Harry should or shouldn't do. If he likes blondes that's just his poison, it may be annoying to us but for some reason he can't get away from them. The older he gets the more unlikely he is going to find a girl who doesn't have a career and if she doesn't and isn't pursuing something that should be a big warning flag. I admit I personally would not go for a Cressida who went to school for dance.

[amaryllus]

Kate did not exactly have career or pursuing anything much particularand that has worked out perfectly Just saying.

[XeniaCasaraghi]

Originally Posted by amaryllus

Kate did not exactly have career or pursuing anything much particularand that has worked out perfectly Just saying.

William met Kate when they were in college and not expected to have jobs. If Harry meets a woman who is his age, not in college and has no job that is a bad sign and a differrentry situation then Kates.

[amaryllus]

But Harry is the crazy fun one! seriously I have hard time picturing him with a serious student or a girlfriend with a steady job she is not willing or able to dump to go skiing in Switzeland or for a two week island vacation. then again opposites attract.

[XeniaCasaraghi]

Well a job is a job and it could be the type she can go on vacays sometime during the year. Unfortunately it seems that a woman he gets serious with is going to have to be more like Kate, Diana, or Camilla meaning no real career, career goals or future. But finding someone like that in their late 20s or 30s is going to be hard and it will say something about the woman Imo. He could luck out and find a Sophie who is motivated to have a career but will give it up if she must.

[Pranter]

Whomever Harry marries isn't going to have to work unless she wants to. She can spend her free time doing charitable work and whatever small roles she may have with the royal family engagements.


LaRae

[XeniaCasaraghi]

I don't know about amaryllus, but I am talking about Harry meeting a hypothetical girl, so the question of charitable work is far off.

[Pranter]

He may well meet a girl while doing some of his charitable work....however I don't know that it would be far off to think his wife would be involved in charitable work after their marriage.


LaRae

[amaryllus]

Thost are the kind of women he grew up with and feels most comfortable with... Even now upper aristo females are much more known for fashion and facinators than being goal oriented or passionate about much or having serious career pursuits.

[Ish]

Originally Posted by XeniaCasaraghi

Well a job is a job and it could be the type she can go on vacays sometime during the year. Unfortunately it seems that a woman he gets serious with is going to have to be more like Kate, Diana, or Camilla meaning no real career, career goals or future. But finding someone like that in their late 20s or 30s is going to be hard and it will say something about the woman Imo. He could luck out and find a Sophie who is motivated to have a career but will give it up if she must.

It's hard to compare a possible spouse of Harry's to the situation Kate, Diana, and Camilla were each in.

Kate met William in school and while she didn't marry him until she was older they were together for long enough that I don't think we can really fault Kate for not having had a career pre-marriage.

Diana, on the other hand, met and married Charles when she was extremely young and didn't really have time to have found a career, similar can be said of Sarah.

Camilla got married young at a time when it wasn't uncommon for women, especially those of her class, to not work.

A lot is made of Sophie having given up her career for Edward, but we should remember that first of all she wasn't motivated to have one - she had to have one, her age and class required it - and second of all she gave it up because she got into trouble with how she used her royal status to further her career - behaviour that Edward could also be accused of. Neither of them became full time royals because they were willing to sacrifice themselves for the betterment of the monarchy, they became full time royals because they had to in order to save face.

Harry is very capable of finding a girl who's close to his age or a bit younger and doesn't have a career because contrary to what many people on this board seem to think it's not all that uncommon for a late-twenty-early-thirty-something to have not yet established themselves in a career yet. Unless someone is a professional who has spent years getting a degree for a certain job - lawyers, doctors, etc - or considers the job path that they're on to be their calling Harry really isn't likely to be as limited to find a possible spouse who has working history but isn't in a position where she couldn't or wouldn't give it up.

[Pranter]

Who says any woman should have a career? Not all women care to have them. For some women (even nowdays) they want to marry and care for the family..and really that is a career. If they and their spouse are ok with it then there shouldn't be anything else to say about it.

I would say it will be hard for a wife of Harry's to have a career outside the royal family/charitable works.



LaRae

[amaryllus]

Diana and Camilla have more of an excuse as you mentioned.. But Kate being with William should not have prevented her from having some kind of serious long term job or at least a goal she wanted accomplish. She really did mostly just center her life around him. Anyway, I hope Harry finds his own Sophie one day. She does a great job.

[Dman]

Catherine did have a job, and several of them, before her marriage. People (media and folks on the internet) just had a problem with her jobs.

Harry will find someone eventually. He's a nice, smart, fun and wealthy guy. The lady is out there waiting for him. He may have to venture a bit away from the typical girls that surround him though. If I was in his position, I would be taking private travels to find my perfect woman.

The lady who'll take Harry's heart may be a serious career woman, or a young lady that's still trying to figure out what career path she wants to pursue. Either way, she will be under a great deal of media scrutiny and her life, career, and family will be dissected to death. He'll need someone who can take the lumps across the head, 2x4's across the back, and still go about her business with a smile. Diana, Sarah, Sophie and Camilla went through this in they're heydays, but Catherine and her family got the worst end of it all.

Whoever steals Harry's heart, won't have it easy, no matter what!

[Lady Nimue]

Originally Posted by Dman

Harry will find someone eventually. He's a nice, smart, fun and wealthy guy. The lady is out there waiting for him.

Two out of four, maybe three out of four. I'm being impish, and optimistic. Fact is, the way the public/tabloids go after any girlfriend (as shown with Cressida) I doubt any woman would willingly test those waters, no matter how fun and wealthy, or even nice.

Anyway, one possibility is that he will marry a divorcee, either from his circle or elsewhere. It's hard to say what he feels comfortable with since there seems to be no particular interest in his life. He's not interested in culture or intellectual pursuits. He doesn't 'paint the town'. The most that can be said is that he has a liking to party. He likes soldiering and helicopters. Pretty narrow interests. (I don't count showing up for charity gigs as an 'interest'). He needs to mature.

[Curryong]

Harry shares an interest in country pursuits like shooting and fishing. He was fishing in Iceland early this year. He plays polo and collects art. He's been seen several times in the past twelve months in London art galleries with his friends Jake and Zoe Warren. Harry also skis and is an enthusiastic follower of Rugby League games. He's been spotted at the theatre several times as well in past months. I wouldn't call those narrow interests.

[AdmirerUS]

Harry seems to like effervescent, happy, charismatic women. I've always thought in his relationships that he reaches the point where he mentions (either referencing his own extroversion (ahem) or hers) that the charisma is great with crowds, but a hot mess if the press or someone you can't trust w/a cellphone catches you being a little devil. I think for anyone, a reminder that you are always "on stage" in public and that with chums, you can't trust anyone must be a wake up call for someone in their 20s.
The message must be something along the lines of "I love it that you are such a free spirit, but no one must ever see you drinking a shot," would be a real drag for Harry's type of woman.
I feel for him!

[Mirabel]

Originally Posted by AdmirerUS

Harry seems to like effervescent, happy, charismatic women.

I think Harry needs someone like Zara! Sporty, fun, free-spirited, energetic, yet willing to step up and look the part for any royal events.

Doesn't she have any like-minded friends to introduce him to?