Originally Posted by Countessmeout
Second cousins are still close enough to attend funerals. We know this family is very close. It is one thing to send someone as your representative to a big official funeral meaning public. Another yo need a representative yo a private family event. Especially when the person is attending anyways. It's a private family funeral, you can't attend, send condolences. Font send a stand in. Unless your husband or child which makes more sense. That goes got Charles, tough his was at least not related. It just seems unnecessary.
I believe as with most very private funerals, you are either sent a notice or receive a personal call. If you don't receive, don't go. Only once in all my old life have I ever received such an invitation but some of my second cousins didn't. No big deal. This is what the immediate family wanted. Period. Funeral home was closed to the public although not the burial site. Heck, a lot of people now are not having a "funeral service" with viewing, etc., just a memorial that takes place many weeks later. You get to the point that you have to ask "how is this one going to be". Life is funny anymore and things change.