Thanks to all, who have answered my question.
Alexandria said:
Did I answer your question Lena? Or did I totally diver elsewhere?!
Oh yes...in the first part of paragraph 7. In the next paragraph you have pointed out an other aspect. So I don´t know, if I´ve gotten an answer
BUT you came up with very interesting aspects. And that´s worth a lot. I agree with you and KikkiB, that the starting points of crown princes(ses) born in the country are different from those, who are foreigners. So maybe I should have included this into my question. Then again this would have not changed much. I wasn´t searching for the cause for popularity, but for the answer on the question, with what
you could
deal better. But I don´t exclude, that your own attitude would be maybe different, when you would come from an other country, or when you would have the feeling, that you have done all (most things) right in your life, or when you are a male.
Well, to answer my own question: I agree with Smilla
(greetings to Vienna...maybe you are my neighbour Well, that´s stuff for PMs) I think in Europe you can fall deeper. The one day you are on the top, the next you are bashed. BUT I also made the experience, that this doesn´t apply for Royals. As soon as they have won the hearts of the people, they can be sure to be appreciated for years (or forever). So under these circumstances, I would clearly wish to start from Mary´s position.
And when I would be responsive to the aspects, you came up with...then I would want to be a foreign, noble female candidate with a 10000 watt-smile
Vicomtesse said:
Female fiancees who aren't popular from the beginning can have the next heirs and their popularity will immediately IMPROVE.
They carry the babies, people watch their bellies grow, then the baby comes and people love them because the babies are so cute. Everybody loves a baby.
What can male fiancees do to improve their reputations? If they dominate a situation then are overbearing (Prince Philip). If they let their wives lead then they are weak (Prince Claus). Or they can have a hissy fit and be a big baby (Prince Henrik).
I agree on that...but I see also changes for the next generation. Mainly based on the general social changes (which are also noticeable in this generation of crown princes. They fill far more their parent-role than their fathers did) and based on my (current!) idea of Daniel. I could imagine him to be quite a good father. And I guess, when they would get a girl, he would pamper this kid endlessly
I further guess, that he would also display this attitude in public from the very first day as father. No doubt, we women have the bellies and have to do the hard job, but while we recover, the dads can brag and can act as perfect daddies
...and also later in the life of the child, a lot of opportunities wait, where the fathers can show their skills. And since "showing their skills" is for some fathers still a taboo or something, that is simply annoying for them, a caring loving father can make easily points, when he cares for the child (for mothers, this is more seen as "matter of course"...even though this approach is IMO wrong)
Besides one shouldn´t forget, that it always takes two to make a heir
As soon as Victoria would be pregnant, we know, that Daniel has fulfilled his "first duty"
Mixer said:
Maybe he focuses on Mastergymn now and wont marry in the next time. Rememebr Viktorias Mum married at the age of 34. So she still has got some time....
She was 32. And I think most couples don´t (want to) judge their relationship via their own age ("O, I´m 35...maybe it´s time to marry") but via the feelings, they have for the other person...and maybe via the (happy) time, they have had together as couple.
When we would take time as parameter, then Silvia was only 3.5 years with the king together, until he proposed. In winter Daniel and Victoria are 4 years together
And when we would now generally say, that 3.5 years are a good test for a Royal relationship (in fact most couples dated that long)...and when we would assume, that V&D would break up next summer, and when it would take then Victoria again (I´m refering to her "gap" between 2001-2002) a year to find a new relationship, then she would be at her wedding with Mr. X 33.5 years old. Then it would take her at an average 1-1.5 years to get pregnant, and she would be 35. From a medical point of view not the best age to start with babies.
Well, I will stop now with my little digression on "mathematics for Royal watchers".
