Russo, you are completely???? revolting!
The trouble with the majority of the children shown is that they are profoundly mentally handicapped, whether they all were when they were sent there is unknown in many of the cases shown, but I believe (and only from watching them on screen) that quite a few of the ones shown would have been in specialist homes here. Of the few who were shown, I think unless you could be hands on, one on one, the chances of them looking after themselves or working are remote. Many children in a like for like state (again based on what I saw on screen) are lucky to be placed into the few special units left, most private, the unlucky ones are subject to 'care in the community', unfortunately the community doesn't care!
Yes, the children probably are profoundly mentally handicapped now and will never be able to function normally, but it's well-documented that nutritional deprivation and lack of parental attention/stimulation in early childhood correlates with developmental delays and even severe retardation, depending on the degree of neglect. Yes, you are correct that the most neglected orphans are the ones who were already perceived to be handicapped at a young age, but places like Romania have a broad definition of handicapped. The definition would include children who are born with genetic disabilities, as well as children who have mild developmental delays or disabilities, which in countries like Romania might simply be due to already deficient prenatal nutrition and postnatal care.
As for the rocking and flapping you mention, it is a symptom of autism, but that doesn't necessarily it wasn't caused by the institutional conditions. There is a phenomenon called "institutional autism" in which children who have been institutionalized and neglected develop autistic behaviours. These children withdraw into themselves as a form of emotional self-protection, regress because of a lack of age-appropriate stimulation, and resort to self-stimulation as a way to compensate for a lack of emotional nurturance. Here is an article that explains it: Institutional Autism, secondary to orphanage living conditions.
and here is another article that describes some of the problems the children in Eastern European orphanages face
Neglect during infancy can affect children for years | Science Blog
The Queen does a lot more in her working life than the things you've mentioned, but those things aren't publicized much because they're confidential: i.e. her meetings with the Prime Minister and her review of government papers, for example. That sort of life takes a huge amount of self-discipline.
Of course, I know this, but the Queen (and Prince Charles, and William eventually) have a unique role in the monarchy. I completely understand why monarchs and the royal family in general do not and should not get involved in politics, but I still think Beatrice and Eugenie have a very limited menu of choices when it comes to using their privilege as royals. On the topic of American viewpoints of the monarchy, it's worthwhile to mention that one of Beatrice and Eugenie's parents prefers the American lifestyle and has probably influenced them accordingly.