The problem, in my very humble opinion, was that Sarah had no idea about 'being royal' - hardly her fault, as her own lifestyle had exposed her both to the unsatisfactory parenting of her own parents and the flashy-trashy world of professional polo and motor racing. She also had absolutely no idea of the concept of earning her own living - the expensive trips and lifestyle she enjoyed was always provided by McNally picking up the tab.
Thanks for your thoughts,
Diarist. I didn't mind the length, because it was very interesting to read your opinions. I'm quoting this part because it had never occurred to me before that even when Sarah worked in publishing, she wasn't funding her own lifestyle - Paddy McNally was paying for her.
I don't understand Sarah's problems with money, but I'm starting to see that whatever is at the root of the financial problems is at the root of all her other problems as well. Sarah's behaviour is like a little girl looking for someone to take care of her. The way Diarist described it, I can see now that Sarah really never learned to live responsibly as an adult...she watched her parents living off their glamorous connections, and she went almost straight from her father to a much older, wealthy man...and then to the royal family...and then lived off her royal connections for the next decade or so.
Part of being an adult is facing reality - facing up to what we can and cannot do. As little children, we all dream of becoming something exciting - firefighter, pilot, princess, or even something as simple as the "perfect mother." When we become adults, most of us don't achieve these dreams; and even when we do - for example, becoming a pilot - it takes a lot of hard work. It seems like Sarah has never experienced this. She literally did become a princess, and she didn't do anything to earn it - it just happened to her, almost. So she still lives in that childlike fantasy world where, if she wants something, someone can make it happen. Most of us here saw how ridiculous Sarah looked when she asked the "sheikh" for 500,000 pounds for access to Andrew...but Sarah didn't see it. She has no concept of money or limits: just that when she wants something, someone should be able to give it to her.
I didn't see it as clearly before, but by explaining more of Sarah's background, Diarist really illuminated it for me. I think Sarah had very bad parenting as a child. It was more than her mother leaving her; I think that even before that, her parents must have neglected her emotionally and failed to teach her responsibility.
What I don't quite understand (and probably none of us do) is why Sarah
needs to live a luxurious lifestyle with the expensive vacations, designer bags, etc. I know that she doesn't
need to...but she acts as though she needs to. It seems to go beyond simple greed. At this point, most people would have decided to live within their means; but Sarah still seems to be flying around the world (in Thailand during the royal wedding) while looking for the next quick fix.