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Cicmil Crowns 09-23-2012 06:06 PM

Would any girl say "no" to a prince?
 
I am very curious about this. Here is a hypothetical question:
Two young people meet at an elite private school. They are all rich and in that sense somewhat equal, but one of them is royalty. Would any girl say "no" to a prince?

Cicmil Crowns 09-23-2012 06:09 PM

Would any girl say "no" to a prince?
 
I am very curious about this. Here is a hypothetical question:
Two young people meet at an elite private school. They are all rich and in that sense somewhat equal, but one of them is royalty. Would any girl say "no" to a prince?

Duke-of-Earl 09-23-2012 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Cicmil Crowns (Post 1464906)
I am very curious about this. Here is a hypothetical question:
Two young people meet at an elite private school. They are all rich and in that sense somewhat equal, but one of them is royalty. Would any girl say "no" to a prince?

I personally don't think it is all its cracked up to be. If 2 people are in love and one is a prince, a la Catherine and William that's one thing but for any girl seeking a 'glamorous' life , a prince is not the way to go. (I'm a guy but that's my opinion lol)

XeniaCasaraghi 09-23-2012 06:20 PM

Apparently a few women said no to Prince Charles. Also Elizabeth Bowed Lyon said no to Prince Albert 2x before finally saying yes. And I have heard that one reason Chelsea and Harry broke up was because she wasn't willing to deal with the lifestyle. Princess Masako also said no and only said yes reluctantly.
So yes various woman would and have said no to a Prince.

Duke-of-Earl 09-23-2012 06:24 PM

:previous: That's why I always laugh when some people say that Catherine only married William for a title. HRH has committed herself to a life of public service to the people of the United Kingdom and the realms.
If HRH was looking for an 'easy life' and a title, she could have married any multi-millionaire earl or duke and lived a very comfortable and stress free life.

Mariel 09-23-2012 06:50 PM

Yes perhaps to one who was cultured, handsome, and kind; no to one who was boorish and anti-intellectual, no matter how physically attractive he might be.

Same as vetting any prospective date or fiancee. Would never marry a prince because he was a prince.

Roslyn 09-23-2012 07:03 PM

Interesting question. Depends on the girl and the prince. It's not an easy job to take on and a girl who marries a prince, certainly one of William's place in the pecking order, should make damned sure she knows what she's getting herself into. It's not just a marriage they are taking on, but a lifetime job.

Sadly, I think some girls will be influenced by the wrong factors and say "yes" when the should say "no"; I think William's mother was one of them. I think there's a lot to be said for not allowing such a couple to marry until they have been together for at least five years. I'm sure Catherine married William for all the right reasons.

Catherine J 09-23-2012 07:07 PM

I think I would say no. Even if I was very much in love. I think there are very few people truly suited to the lifestyle and I know I am not one of them.

nascarlucy 09-23-2012 07:08 PM

A prince is used to people saying yes to him and doing what he wants. I imagine it would take some of them aback if a woman said no to them as usually women don't say no to them. Some might actually find it intriguing that they were turned down and want to get the know the woman better.

Others would probably never talked to you again or consider you an enemy for doing so. I imagine some you wouldn't want to get on their bad side.
Of course it would depend on what he asked them to do. If it was a date to a movie, dinner or to an art gallery or concert , I wouldn't say no, even if I wasn't particularly attacted to him. Unless he was a real jerk (which I would say no), I would think most women would say yes, even if the guy was a jerk.

It's just a date. It's not everyday that someone like me (average American citizen) would be asked out on a date with a prince. I would be quite flattered in my younger days if any prince or royal asked me out on a date.

Then of course if the prince asked you to do something which you had a moral objection to or something that you didn't want to do, then it would be a problem. At that point I would said no and explain why. You would have the right to say no.

Of course if it was something serious like marriage, one would have to think about that. I think if you dated a royal for several years, you would know if you were suited to the lifestyle of royalty. If you aren't, then saying no to marriage would be the best thing in the long run.

Artemisia 09-23-2012 07:15 PM

I can answer for myself only, but I would never say yes to a Prince. Even if I were madly in love with him, as long as the Prince in question had even moderately high profile, I would never agree to date/marry him. Privacy is immensely important for me and living in public eye would have been simply impossible.

nascarlucy 09-23-2012 07:22 PM

I suppose at first it would be flattering to be the center of attention or having you picture taken all the time, but then it gets very old. Sometimes you just want to be left alone. Privacy is very difficult when you are in a relationship with a Prince.

AdmirerUS 09-23-2012 07:29 PM

Yes. A jerk is a jerk and a nice guy is a nice guy no matter what their parents do. And in this case, what the parents do makes things even harder - because you have to spend your life making nice face to everyone while your spouse is a jerk.

camelot23ca 09-23-2012 07:33 PM

For me, the prospect of taking on royal life would be a major drawback of a potential relationship. I don't know if I'd give up a truly good person I was in love with who happened to be a prince, but I'd be saying 'yes' in spite of him being royal, not because of it. The lack of privacy for myself and my family, including any potential children, the increasingly limited contact with "normal" sections of society as you get nearer the throne , and, finally, just the overall tedious nature of the work they do would be all be things I'd have difficulty with.

HRHHermione 09-23-2012 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Catherine J (Post 1464925)
I think I would say no. Even if I was very much in love. I think there are very few people truly suited to the lifestyle and I know I am not one of them.

Me too. I can't even imagine living the life they lead- I'd go crazy.

I actually do believe what Prince Harry was saying in the interview where he talked about having a hard time finding someone who he could have a good relationship with who was willing to take on the job.

He's always going to be a high profile member of the royal family, and it takes a special woman, like Kate, to be willing to step into that role.

nascarlucy 09-23-2012 07:44 PM

I would have a very hard time not saying something about things which I have strong opinions about which would get me into trouble. Sometimes I'm opinionated and have said what I think which I know will get you into trouble if you marry a royal or are a royal or if you were dating a royal. You're supposed to be a bland person who shows no emotion and doesn't say controversial things or talk about them. For me that would be very difficult.

No doubt if I was dating a prince, his family would tell him not to marry me especially if they were very conservative or if the country was very conservative. Let's just say my opinions wouldn't go over very well and there would be conflict because of it. Even if a more progressive country, I would still be a problem.

Osipi 09-23-2012 08:41 PM

No matter what the situation would be, if something came up and I felt I had to say no to a Prince. I would. For the main reason being that this person is not Prince. His title is Prince. It would be different if I was in his employ where it was my job to carry out orders and duties for this person, but on a personal level, there is no reason on Earth I would feel I had to respond with a yes just because he asked.

If it was a question of a personal relationship or even a marriage proposal, I don't believe I'd be saying yes or no to a Prince but an actual person that I've come to see as his own person outside of a royal title. I totally believe that when William proposed to Kate, she answered yes to William the man and not Prince William of Wales. :biggrin:

There's an old saying one has to kiss a lot of frogs before they turn into their prince. What some tend to forget is that even though they've morphed into a prince, they still are frogs by nature. Warts and all.

XeniaCasaraghi 09-23-2012 10:03 PM

I think it is naive and juvenile to think a woman wouldn't say no to a man whose first name is Prince. I assumed that in this day and age as women few up they understood that Cinderella is a fairy tale; and there are some girls who realize that for whT it is. There are some who fall in love with the idea of being a Princess, Diana for example, but others who realize it's no fairy tale, I believe Elizabeth Bowes Lyon falls into that category.

NGalitzine 09-23-2012 10:21 PM

Would she say yes to him if he was not a prince? Is his being a prince the primary attraction?

Osipi 09-23-2012 10:54 PM

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Originally Posted by NGalitzine (Post 1464972)
Would she say yes to him if he was not a prince? Is his being a prince the primary attraction?

I think it would all depend on where her head is at and what her priorities are. If she's geared to believe that she should "advance" herself by marrying into money or power or prestige, I think the title of Prince would be a huge attraction and would say yes even if he had 3 eyes, one tooth and 6 toes on each foot. If she was looking for a loving, steady relationship with someone, after the initial meeting and getting to know the guy, that would be how she responded to him. If it was the right guy, she'd fall in love and say yes to him whether he was a prince or a potato peeler.

Lumutqueen 09-24-2012 12:56 AM

Depends if she finds him attractive. If she doesn't then she will say no.


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