grevinnan said:
My comment in post #103 was a personal opinion as to what may happen if the situation becomes unbearable for Masako. Naruhito appears to be firmly by Masako's side and he may face a difficult choice - throne or wife. And he may face it relatively soon - not years down the road.
I don't mean to be rude but, what you previously wrote didn't show much factual understanding of the structures of the Imperial Family nor the cultural setting that is Japan. Therefore I was prompted to post some factual information.
I'll still reiterate that Naruhito will not leave the Imperial Family, it's firmly ingrained into Japanese culture that to 'give up' is dishonourable. In the war years this was reflected by the fact that Japanese soldiers fought to the death, they wouldn't surrender, suicide was preferable ( there's no religious prohibitions to suicide in Japan, it's considered an honourable death) The Japanese language has a word for which there is no direct English translation "gambate" the closest I can come to a translation is "fight, don't give up, do your best". This word is used all the time to athletes, students doing exams or tests or people in general when they're facing something difficult in their lives.
On top of this is the sense of duty royals, all royals have about their role in life. Naruhito is no different, more so as duty, honour and obligation are extremely important in Japanese society.
You assume that things will become unbearable for Masako, on the contrary they'll probably get better. Regardless of what the scenario is that plays itself out. Masako's importance ( the same as any consort to a ruler or consort was to provide and heir. In Masako's case a male heir. Prince Henrik of Denmark said that the Danish royal household wouldn't allow him to fly his own plane until he fathered his first child. Even CP Mary said that when she asked for a role description all that she could find out was that she had to provide an heir)
So getting back to Masako. If the law on female succession changes, then the pressure is off her, Aiko succeeds her father to the throne. There's no need to have another child as the law would state that the Emperor's oldest child regardless of sex would succeed.
If Kiko's baby is a boy and the succession law does not pass, then the pressure is off Masako too as there's a male heir for the next generation. Aiko will have a chance of greater freedom, she could marry whomever she wanted and follow whatever career path she wanted.
Traditionalists don't tamper with tradition, Naruhito will succeed his father, there's no pushing him aside. Probably the only one who will have a hard time is Akishino as he'll have to have some preparation too to become emperor one day.
Masako has found life in the Imperial Family difficult but she's had it a lot easier than the current empress Michiko did when she became the first commoner to join the Imperial Family. Michiko had the mother-in-law from hell who actively campaigned against her son marrying Michiko. ( She wanted him to marry someone from the nobility class) Her father-in-law was no better, he once shouted at Michiko so badly that she lost her voice for a prolonged period of time through stress. Even when married the Empress Nagako was publically rude to Michiko and snubbed her pointedly. Michiko and Akihito fought to be allowed to bring up their own children. Previous royal children were taken at birth and given to wet nurses and raised in a separate wing of the royal palace. Michiko was even criticised because she breastfed her babies. In the early 1960's she had a nervous breakdown ( and this was after she gave birth to a male heir!) But despite all this she kept going and didn't leave.
Masako has had a tough time, but at least thanks to the battles her inlaws fought, could bring up her own child. Her inlaws are relatively supportive and interfere very little in her and Naruhito's life. In his last birthday interview Naruhito said that there were better lines of communication with IHA hierachy in regards to the roles he and Masako once she was fully recovered would take on. This year they have received a new head of their household. The Japanese monarchy is a very traditional one in a society where as I said before, the collective is more important than the individual. The exact opposite to western societies where the individual is more important. The IHA is interested in what is best for the collective ( The Imperial Family as an institution) a male heir in their opinion, if they get one the pressure is off Masako. She won't get sidelined, neither will Naruhito, that's messing with tradition.