Reasons for disliking Diana? - Page 10

branchg · #**181** 09-19-2006, 08:46 PM

I don't like the way she manipulated the media to paint an inaccurate and totally irresponsible viewpoint of her marriage and the support she received from The Queen and Prince Philip of her role.

I am not excusing Charles and his behavior, but Diana needed to take some responsibility for her behavior as well. It takes two to make a relationship and two to make it fail.

BeatrixFan · #**182** 09-19-2006, 08:49 PM

One thing that I didn't like was when Camilla had her 50th birthday party and it was due to make the front page, Diana deliberately booked a trip with Dodi to St Tropez and invited journalists and paps so she'd end up on the front page and not Camilla. It was just bitchy in my eyes and it just showed that Diana always wanted to be the centre of attention.

**Zonk** · #**183** 09-19-2006, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by branchg

I don't like the way she manipulated the media to paint an inaccurate and totally irresponsible viewpoint of her marriage and the support she received from The Queen and Prince Philip of her role.

I am not excusing Charles and his behavior, but Diana needed to take some responsibility for her behavior as well. It takes two to make a relationship and two to make it fail.

I actually disagree with a portion of that statement...it does take two to make a relationship but it only takes one to make it fail. An admirer of Diana I will admit that at times in her marriage she was her worst enemy. Based upon what we know now Charles has always loved Camilla even while married to Diana. Please note that I am not even addressing the alleged Charles/Camilla affair early in the marriage. You can be unfaithful to someone without committing the act. If that is the case....than Charles was never really "in the marriage." I am not saying that Charles didn't have feelings for Diana but apparently not enough to work thru the rough patches of their marriage. And that goes for the both of them.

I must admit that I have been hesitant to read and post this thread...as it appears that we are going round and round in circles with no end in sight. There are always going to be those who feel that Diana was the victim, Camilla the agressor and vice versa. She has been dead for nine years, Camilla has married Charles why can't we all just move on? Mistakes were made by EVERYONE.

There seem to be many reasons why people like Camilla...but one word comes up many times: discretion. She has never spoken out aloud about her relationship with Charles. And I can respect that but I wonder it has more to do with the fact is she knew where she stood with Charles. She knew he loved her. She grew up with tons of security and never had to question on whether or not anyone loved her. For Diana..that doesn't seem to to be case. She always questioned Charles's love for her. Sometimes I wonder how different the remaining years would have been if she was confident in his love. Maybe she too would have been discreet.

BeatrixFan · #**184** 09-19-2006, 09:29 PM

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She has been dead for nine years, Camilla has married Charles why can't we all just move on? Mistakes were made by EVERYONE.

Some people can't forgive. Princess Margaret never forgave Diana for betraying the Queen. I'm afraid I share Princess Margaret's view.

**Zonk** · #**185** 09-19-2006, 09:37 PM

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Some people can't forgive. Princess Margaret never forgave Diana for betraying the Queen. I'm afraid I share Princess Margaret's view.

You are certainly entitled to your opinion. As for Margaret..considering that she too had her love sacrificed for a Kingdom...I would think she would be a little more sympathetic to Diana.....but she was from a different time and therefore saw the world a lot differently.

But its certainly ironic that a lot of people like to use the quote "the Past is the past" as the theme for forgiving certain people and events but it only appears to be one sided.

BeatrixFan · #**186** 09-19-2006, 10:07 PM

Thats the thing, Margaret was very very sympathetic to Diana. They were good friends and Margaret was very good to Diana but then Diana betrayed the Queen and that was something Margaret could never tolerate or forgive and she never did. Remember, at Diana's funeral, Margaret's fury was quite evident and when it was suggested that a statue of Diana be put up outside Kensington Palace, Margaret went mad shouting, "I will not have that woman outside my window!". Margaret may have been older but she understood that Monarchy needs the loyalty of the people and the Queen needed unconditional support from her own family. When Diana bad mouthed the Queen, it was like betraying the whole family and to Margaret, it was unforgiveable. I didn't like Diana for a whole host of reasons but this is the main one. She treated our Queen like dirt and it was just wrong. Some things are forgivable - others are not.

Little_star · #**187** 09-19-2006, 10:13 PM

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One thing that I didn't like was when Camilla had her 50th birthday party and it was due to make the front page, Diana deliberately booked a trip with Dodi to St Tropez and invited journalists and paps so she'd end up on the front page and not Camilla. It was just bitchy in my eyes and it just showed that Diana always wanted to be the centre of attention.

I think if Camilla had been the primary cause of my marriage break-up I'd do something like Diana. If that makes me bitchy then......

Toledo · #**188** 09-19-2006, 10:16 PM

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So you dislike her for marrying young?

I'm not sure I can make sense of how anyone can dislike someone for marrying at a young age.

No offence intended Toledo

None taken!

I tried to think of an answer, my answer, to the thread's question.
Is not that I don't like her more than I think it was not a good choice to jump into such a public marriage right after her teens. This brought to mind another princess, Princess Fusterberg, whom I read in a recent Point de Vue she got married when she was fifteen years old!

But I like Diana. She is my one of my favorite tragic characters of the 20th century royalty.

princess olga · #**189** 09-19-2006, 11:01 PM

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Not on your life. I feel that Diana was truly devoted to those charities and helped them because she loved helping others.

Not according to the new series in the Daily Mail, she wasn't. And that's even stated by people <whithin> those charities. You've clearly been drinking the Diana coolaid.
And by the way, let's keep my life out of this. :)

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I also dislike her for marrying Charles so young because I felt she was totally and completely inexperienced and had no clue what she was getting into. I'm not saying that marrying young is always a bad thing...my parents married young and they're still going strong 34 years later, but for her......it just wasn't a good idea. Had they dated a few years, gotten to know each other a little better......I think the marriage might have fared a little better.

I'm with Roslyn totally on this one. Charles and Diana wouldn't have been married AT ALL. Not at all. They'd have discovered how differently they look at life and how both their needy personalities clashed. Again, they would have never married, period.

Incas · #**190** 09-19-2006, 11:19 PM

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Not according to the new series in the Daily Mail, she wasn't. And that's even stated by people <whithin> those charities. You've clearly been drinking the Diana coolaid.

LOL! Diana coolaid...

BeatrixFan · #**191** 09-19-2006, 11:38 PM

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I think if Camilla had been the primary cause of my marriage break-up I'd do something like Diana. If that makes me bitchy then......

Some would call it spiteful and for a woman who is claimed to be all sweetness and light, it isn't exactly a kind thing to do. Remember, Charles and Diana were divorced. Diana was as much to blame for the break-up of the marriage as Charles was. But Diana couldn't stand another woman having the attention she wanted. I'm sorry but it's obvious - Di was jealous and she used her media connections to do something that was just plain nasty. And how telling that she was happy to use the media when it suited her but when it didn't, she'd behave like a spoilt brat and throw her toys out of the pram.

Sister Morphine · #**192** 09-20-2006, 01:36 AM

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Not according to the new series in the Daily Mail, she wasn't. And that's even stated by people <within> those charities. You've clearly been drinking the Diana koolaid.
And by the way, let's keep my life out of this. :)

I don't live in England, I don't read English papers, I don't know what series you're talking about. Furthermore, I don't drink *anyone's* Kool-Aid. And "not on your life" is an expression, it's not actually mentioning your life. Geez.

princess olga · #**193** 09-20-2006, 02:32 AM

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I don't live in England, I don't read English papers, I don't know what series you're talking about.

you have access to the venerable world wide web, don't you?! you read English, don't you?! I don't live in England either, never have. I happen to live, like you, in what was to be, if the various reports are to be believed, Diana's new home-country-away-from-home, had she actually survived Henri Paul's driving: the good ol' US of A.
Doesn't necessarily mean that I only consume local media. With current technologies the way they are, accessible, cheap, not to mention <global>, why on the planet would I? Not on my life indeed. Geez.

princess olga · #**194** 09-20-2006, 02:44 AM

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Some would call it spiteful and for a woman who is claimed to be all sweetness and light, it isn't exactly a kind thing to do. Remember, Charles and Diana were divorced. Diana was as much to blame for the break-up of the marriage as Charles was. But Diana couldn't stand another woman having the attention she wanted. I'm sorry but it's obvious - Di was jealous and she used her media connections to do something that was just plain nasty. And how telling that she was happy to use the media when it suited her but when it didn't, she'd behave like a spoilt brat and throw her toys out of the pram.

Very wise comment. So sad, but so true, in my view. I think there's a conundrum she couldn't deal with: having de facto, in effect, lost her job as Crown Princess. That's what happened as soon as she decided she wanted "out" of her alliance with Charles.

Granted, it was in many ways an unbearable situation for her: her husband didn't love her, took a mistress, an old flame to boot. But--there's a big but here. As much as this sounds inhumane, anti-feminist, etc. etc., I think in hindsight, the best possible thing Diana could have done, is, yep, sucking it up. And staying hitched to Charles. That way, she could have kept the job she loved: being the selfless, innocent princess, always in the limelight, to help lesser souls, natch.

Sure, she went 'free lance' after her divorce, but it was a de-motion of the position she'd had before. It's like this: You marry a Crown Prince? You gain a job: Crown Princess. You divorce the prince? Lose your job. Period. You can't do the same thing and be Princess, of Nothing and No One. Doesn't work. She didn't, in the end, win much by it. It was bad all around, not to mention isolating. She could have come out on top perhaps, had she behaved with more dignity. But the job she loved, she lost by gaining freedom from the RF. That was something she didn't seem to have calculated in, when she decided enough was enough. I wonder if she ever looked back and wished she'd stayed in the marriage, despite everything.

Sister Morphine · #**195** 09-20-2006, 02:59 AM

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you have access to the venerable world wide web, don't you?! you read English, don't you?! I don't live in England either, never have. I happen to live, like you, in what was to be, if the various reports are to be believed, Diana's new home-country-away-from-home, had she actually survived Henri Paul's driving: the good ol' US of A.
Doesn't necessarily mean that I only consume local media. With current technologies the way they are, accessible, cheap, not to mention <global>, why on the planet would I? Not on my life indeed. Geez.

Just because I can, doesn't mean I need to. I could read papers from Hong Kong online, but if it doesn't impact my life, why would I bother? I like Princess Diana, but I don't follow every single solitary bit of news on her.....therefore I'd have no way of knowing this series of articles existed.

Jo of Palatine · #**196** 09-20-2006, 04:48 AM

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That was something she didn't seem to have calculated in, when she decided enough was enough. I wonder if she ever looked back and wished she'd stayed in the marriage, despite everything.

From what I read in the books about Diana I got the impression that she had had a feeling of "fate" having a hand in her becoming Princess of Wales and when that marriage turned sour she hoped to be able to influence the public to pressure the queen and Charles that William, her son would be the next in line. Thus her position as mother of the future king would have been safe. I don't know if this is the truth but one could imagine that it was that way.

Little_star · #**197** 09-20-2006, 05:15 AM

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Some would call it spiteful and for a woman who is claimed to be all sweetness and light, it isn't exactly a kind thing to do.

Having an affair with a married man isn't exactly kind either.

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Remember, Charles and Diana were divorced. Diana was as much to blame for the break-up of the marriage as Charles was.

By the time the marriage had broken up they'd hurt each other equally. However I've always questioned whether they would have had such an acrimonious end if it hadn't been for Charles' affair.

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But Diana couldn't stand another woman having the attention she wanted. I'm sorry but it's obvious - Di was jealous and she used her media connections to do something that was just plain nasty.

Jealous of what exactly? Whilst I don't deny that spite was probably the main motivation, I doubt jealousy had anything to do with it. Diana had everything going for her at that time, unlike Camilla.

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And how telling that she was happy to use the media when it suited her but when it didn't, she'd behave like a spoilt brat and throw her toys out of the pram.

I don't find it particularly telling seeing as that's how the media game is played these days.