Because Charles, Diana and the Queen will be historical figures and the breakdown of the marriage of King Charles III and Diana, Princess of Wales will be a part of the history of the reign of Elizabeth II. .
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I agree. I think that the queen's feelings for Diana, like the marriage itself are part of the Royal history. Even with Beatrice destroying a lot of Vic's diaries we know a fair bit about what Victoria thought on family matters and political ones..
IF the queen's private feelings led her to act in a certain way in public, or prevented her from realising how much the public felt saddened by Dianas death, they are IMO important and legitimate subjects for speculation or for historical record.
Perhaps it's a bit more applicable to think of the marital situation between the that when Diana and Charles were divorced in 1996 Diana was invited to Christmas at Sandringham. She turned up there for Church and for lunch but then left. A guest at Sandringham said that the Queen drew her aside under the guise of looking at the family gifts and seemed bewildered. "She (Diana) hates us." she said "She doesn't want to be with us. I don't understand it. It doesn't have to be like this."
All the same Diana was very attuned to atmosphere and there may have been a huge feeling of awkwardness and constraint in the air. After all, when it comes down to it, how many families invite a recently divorced ex of a close family member to their Christmas celebrations?
Its not easy, but people Do sometimes try for the sake of young children to keep up a front, even with a divorce. and the RF are a public family, they have to do things that other families don't.
I think that by the time of the divorce, Diana was hostile and miserable, and while I think the queen was willing to try, for the sake of "family unity" and most importantly for Will and Harry's sake, to have her to stay, and treat her as still a family member, Diana was' not willing to try. She just showed up each Christmas for a few years to go to church, not even sure fi she always stayed for lunch.. and while it would have been hard for her, I think it was also hard for W and Harry to see their mum shoot off within an hour or 2, at Christmas and know she was going back to a lonely Christmas lunch in London maybe. I think that she could have tried and put up with the RF for the day, to be with the boys. Sarah was billeted at a farmhouse, during Christmases, because she was persona non grata...Diana was still welcome... at least officialy.
but there is that air of bewilderment, I suppose. The queen felt that she was still willing to try, perhaps didn't realise how alienated from the RF that Diana had become, and she got to the stage I think where she got fed up and still "tried" but with increasing constraint, and resentment.