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Revenge is plausible enough....and greed perhaps.
OK, allow me to play a little Devil's Advocate if I might.
I've heard that Diana did the Panorama interview in front of the whole world, that she was only telling her truth about her relationship with Charles and the Royal Family and even if it wasn't THE TRUTH, it was her truth and if she wanted to tell the world her truth and her relationships, she had every right to. And I heard that one reason was as revenge for Charles announcing on TV that his marriage was irretrivably broker and that another reason that Diana did the Panorama interview was to manoever into a more favorable divorce settlement form the Royal Family which she eventually did to the tune of $20 million.
James Hewitt had a relationship, he had his truth even though it doubtlessly wasn't THE TRUTH, he may have wanted a more lucrative financial settlement (although he didn't get anywhere near $20 million) and he may have wanted revenge for being dumped.
So my question is: Why is Diana simply a good person who was misunderstood and made mistakes whereas the general consensus is that James Hewitt is a cad, not gentlemanly and should wipe himself off the face of the planet?
I'm no lover of James Hewitt but both Hewitt and Diana divulged intimate details of their relationships in public. It sounds like a double standard.
James Hewitt is just a rat, who wants to get as much money as possible from his affair with late princess.
I disagree. I've recognised this double standard regarding James Hewitt and Diana for some time. His problem is that a gentleman isn't supposed to talk. Well that's the ideal, but few of us are perfect. And it's much easier to adhere to those high standards if the gentleman in question has plenty of money and doesn't need income to support himself. But Hewitt isn't in that position and he lost not only his reputation but also his job and position in society because of his affair with Diana. He has to work for a living, and he needs money. He has something that can be sold and people want to buy it. Within reason, why shouldn't he sell it?
I've never thought that what he has done by talking about the relationship and writing Love and War was as bad as I think most if not all other people here do. He admits it was a big mistake to talk to Anna Pasternak.
I don't mind the bloke. He's certainly not perfect, and he's made his share of mistakes, but he admits them. He's got flaws, but so do we all. I think he's a fairly simple soul and not the brightest pea in the pod and has made some momentous mistakes - much like Diana actually - but I don't think he's a "rat". What he's done is no worse than what Diana did, IMO.
If he just wanted to get as much money as possible from the affair he would have sold the letters, and he would have written a very salacious book. He's done neither.
Roslyn,
Unofficial Defender of James Hewitt and Miscellaneous Other Lost Causes
I consider that man and woman are equal in that matter and revealing intimate details is not a thing you do, whether you're male or female. Like you said, Diana did it too, so if we blame him, in perfect logic, we might as well blame her.
If we reread the "change opinion and why" and "Panorama"-thread, then it turns out that quite some people blame Diana for that.
Great post Roslyn, the only bit I disagree with is that he did try to sell the letters. Still he lost everything over the Diana affair, most of his 'friends', his career, he put it all on the line for her and then....... she dumped him. She didn't even tell him in person or by phone, just stopped taking his calls. So much for the "Yes, I adored him. Yes I was in love with him", seems to me he was just another notch on the bedpost!I disagree. I've recognised this double standard regarding James Hewitt and Diana for some time. His problem is that a gentleman isn't supposed to talk. Well that's the ideal, but few of us are perfect. And it's much easier to adhere to those high standards if the gentleman in question has plenty of money and doesn't need income to support himself. But Hewitt isn't in that position and he lost not only his reputation but also his job and position in society because of his affair with Diana. He has to work for a living, and he needs money. He has something that can be sold and people want to buy it. Within reason, why shouldn't he sell it?
I've never thought that what he has done by talking about the relationship and writing Love and War was as bad as I think most if not all other people here do. He admits it was a big mistake to talk to Anna Pasternak.
I don't mind the bloke. He's certainly not perfect, and he's made his share of mistakes, but he admits them. He's got flaws, but so do we all. I think he's a fairly simple soul and not the brightest pea in the pod and has made some momentous mistakes - much like Diana actually - but I don't think he's a "rat". What he's done is no worse than what Diana did, IMO.
If he just wanted to get as much money as possible from the affair he would have sold the letters, and he would have written a very salacious book. He's done neither.
Roslyn,
Unofficial Defender of James Hewitt and Miscellaneous Other Lost Causes
Great post Roslyn, the only bit I disagree with is that he did try to sell the letters. Still he lost everything over the Diana affair, most of his 'friends', his career, he put it all on the line for her and then....... she dumped him. She didn't even tell him in person or by phone, just stopped taking his calls. So much for the "Yes, I adored him. Yes I was in love with him", seems to me he was just another notch on the bedpost!
Great post Roslyn, the only bit I disagree with is that he did try to sell the letters. Still he lost everything over the Diana affair, most of his 'friends', his career, he put it all on the line for her and then....... she dumped him. She didn't even tell him in person or by phone, just stopped taking his calls. So much for the "Yes, I adored him. Yes I was in love with him", seems to me he was just another notch on the bedpost!
Wasn't there a scandal about Charles sleeping with Camilla while she was married to a fellow army man ? That would probably be the same thing with Hewitt since he was major, right ?
So far, I haven't heard of it. A lot of things happen in closed circles and as long as the parties involved are "discreet", nothing unpleasant happens. But with Hewitt/Diana alot of things became public and that changes the atmosphere with a circle. Call it doube standards and you're right on target, but that's the way mankind works. As for Charles/Camilla: I doubt that that many people were "in the know".
Great post Roslyn, the only bit I disagree with is that he did try to sell the letters.
Harry still doesn't look anything like his father.
Unfortunately for Major Hewitt, he was ostracised once the affair became known by his fellow officers, instead of just strong suspicion. I expect that when he swore 'on his honour' that nothing was going on, people believed him, preferring to see an innocent friendship rather than a betrayal of all they held dear. His membership to many of his Clubs was also withdrawn. To a lot of officers they were committing an act of Treason and they didn't want to be seen as aiding and abetting them!Was it that way? I didn't know it but as I know your sources are impeccable (or at least you have kept more up-to-date than I have done with the media) it is a sad story, really. Was he the first "real" affair of Diana? And how was that received in the army, by his brothers-in-arms, I wonder? Did they believe in the fairytale, so he was the one to "steal the prince's bride"? Well, if I think at the consequences judging by the code of the German officers as I'm from a Prussian officer's family from one side and was interested in the past, so asked my uncle about it - he was awarded the knight's cross of the Iron Cross in WWII - not the first in the family but unfortunately for fighting for the Nazis - well, different story - they were really hard, ostracising but worse still the open contempt of fellow officers and their families. There have been things that simply "were not done". Tampering with a fellow officer's wife (or the Princess of Wales?) being one of them.
Very good advice, the same goes for emails, you never know who might get to read them!The bottom line is that Diana shouldn't have written love letters to someone while she was married to Charles. She was sending these intimate letters to the Gulf during the War! Silly, silly girl.
Basic rule: Never commit to writing and send to someone else (thereby relinquishing control) something you wouldn't be happy to see produced in Court in answer to a subpoena, or printed on the front page of a newspaper.
Harry still doesn't look anything like his father.
Very good advice, the same goes for emails, you never know who might get to read them!
I think perhaps the doubt will nag others far more than Harry. I imagine he is quite comfortable in the knowledge that Charles is his father.
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There has been a lot of reports to suggest it does bother him at times. The After Diana book really details his trauma over the rumors...
I haven't read the book but based on most of the reviews the author, Christopher Anderson, was another of those to rely heavily upon "anonymous sources." I also believe that particular book was said to be hardly flattering to anyone but Diana. If this is the only source of Harry's trauma regarding his paternity I would have to accept it with a healthy pinch of salt.There has been a lot of reports to suggest it does bother him at times. The After Diana book really details his trauma over the rumors...
These reports were where? By whom? Not Harry!