Osipi
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Romance and courtship are part and parcel of the time period before marriage. Its the period of getting to know someone, finding out likes and dislikes and always putting the best foot forward and striving to be attractive in all ways to the other person. Idyllic period of hopes, dreams and making plans and a lot of times it ends up with feelings of love and caring for the other person and the marriage takes place.
Even couples that are deeply "in love" find out that marriage is another whole ball of wax. Its adjusting to living with the person and seeing that person in all their glory and their idiosyncrasies and how they are on bad days and those little nuances that drive one right up the wall. The important thing though is that no matter how much "in love" a couple might be, there are always going to be "I love you but I don't like you much right now" days and those "You liked my spinach and peanut casserole before we married" incidents and differences of opinions of how things should go. He wants a cabin in the woods and she wants the 5 star restaurant and a ballet in the city. Its how the couple deals with these times that makes or break a marriage.
The idyllic life of a Princess of Wales that Diana may have imagined turned out to be a totally different role in reality. She wanted more time with Charles but the job of being Prince of Wales didn't allow for that. Charles thought Diana understood what his role entailed and thought her demands unreasonable. Charles wanted to share books with her to discuss. She refused to read them. Little things like that can quickly form a gulf between partners. Charles loved hunting and playing polo and Diana didn't. Instead of bowing out and graciously telling Charles to go with his friends, she made the friends disappear.
Love is allowing the other person to be the best possible person that they can be. I think with Charles and Diana the differences were just too great to form a solid basis of friendship, communication, and compromise to put the marriage on solid ground. They needed to be best friends first and "get" each other more than they needed romance, rainbows and unicorns and that didn't happen. Their "I don't like you much right now" days were more frequent than the happy times they spent together as the years rolled by.
It happens.
Even couples that are deeply "in love" find out that marriage is another whole ball of wax. Its adjusting to living with the person and seeing that person in all their glory and their idiosyncrasies and how they are on bad days and those little nuances that drive one right up the wall. The important thing though is that no matter how much "in love" a couple might be, there are always going to be "I love you but I don't like you much right now" days and those "You liked my spinach and peanut casserole before we married" incidents and differences of opinions of how things should go. He wants a cabin in the woods and she wants the 5 star restaurant and a ballet in the city. Its how the couple deals with these times that makes or break a marriage.
The idyllic life of a Princess of Wales that Diana may have imagined turned out to be a totally different role in reality. She wanted more time with Charles but the job of being Prince of Wales didn't allow for that. Charles thought Diana understood what his role entailed and thought her demands unreasonable. Charles wanted to share books with her to discuss. She refused to read them. Little things like that can quickly form a gulf between partners. Charles loved hunting and playing polo and Diana didn't. Instead of bowing out and graciously telling Charles to go with his friends, she made the friends disappear.
Love is allowing the other person to be the best possible person that they can be. I think with Charles and Diana the differences were just too great to form a solid basis of friendship, communication, and compromise to put the marriage on solid ground. They needed to be best friends first and "get" each other more than they needed romance, rainbows and unicorns and that didn't happen. Their "I don't like you much right now" days were more frequent than the happy times they spent together as the years rolled by.
It happens.