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Old 09-04-2017, 12:56 AM
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I agree they should take their time and live together. The set up now is nothing like their life will be. Holidays and a couple of days here and there is very romantic but not how it will be Her age shouldn't be reason to rush into a wedding. Before everyone knocks me down this is nothing against Meghan or Harry it's just how I feel. There is a risk she won't be able to have a baby if she waits but that's life there is no guarantee for anyone.
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Old 09-04-2017, 01:03 AM
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Meh. Meghan seems lovely, I admire her opinions and her acting career and very much hope they marry because that would be a wonderfully fun wedding to watch.

Pearl clutchers have pulled the same "My stars! What a dreadfully unsuitable young woman! She could never be royalty!" nonsense with almost every royal girlfriend, and then they pipe down after the wedding. So much noise was made over Princess Sofia of Sweden and then she turned out to be just fine. So much noise was made over Crown Princess Mette-Marit. Again, she was fine.

All that really matters in the end is if the couple are happy and right for each other. If they are, their marriage will happen and it will weather people who are omg so shocked that in 2017, a romantic relationship was depicted on a television show. (One considered tame enough for 14 year olds by the stodgy and conservative tv ratings system)
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Old 09-04-2017, 01:29 AM
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Never think she is suitable or not suitable, I would only judge until she really takes up the role of royal. At least I won't question her suitability of being a royal base on her behaviour/performance as a actress. I don't understand why we can say she is suitable or not at this stage. We have already witnessed many royal boy/girlfriends who seem completely unsuitable in some eyes are doing good after the marriage. Agree with xenobia, what is suitable and what is not?

The main question at this stage is not "Is she suitable?" but "Is she the right one?". And only Henry can answer that.

But yes, they need time to prepare, for Meghan to adjust to the royal role.
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Old 09-04-2017, 01:31 AM
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Well, what if she's "unsuitable" or what if she and Harry are not well- suited? What's the worst that can happen?

They'll get a divorce, just like the Queen's sister and three of her children did, and like about 50% of all couples who get married do. They should get married soon- it's not the end of the world if it doesn't work out.
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Old 09-04-2017, 01:41 AM
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Well, what if she's "unsuitable" or what if she and Harry are not well- suited? What's the worst that can happen?

They'll get a divorce, just like the Queen's sister and three of her children did, and like about 50% of all couples who get married do. They should get married soon- it's not the end of the world if it doesn't work out.


Really ?? What about the children??
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Old 09-04-2017, 01:50 AM
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Really ?? What about the children??
Children survive divorces. When handled as adults unlike the Wales divorce. The children of both Anne and Andrew are sign of that. The old idea couples have to stay together no matter how miserable they are makes no one happy even kids.

Not saying they should rush into marriage because divorce easy option. But no need to make divorce out to be destructive to children.
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Old 09-04-2017, 01:57 AM
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A bit different if Meghan decided to go back to America and take the children? They would hardly see one parent and I hope that doesn't ever happen.
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Old 09-04-2017, 02:06 AM
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If she married Harry and they divorced she won't be taking the children anywhere without the consent of both Harry and the monarch of the day. Those children are covered by different laws to everyone else due to their place in the line of succession - like the Danes and Swedes who insist that children in the line of succession must be raised in the country.

Any wedding agreement, would include a clear understanding that on separation or divorce she would either have to remain in the UK or lose equal custody of any children from the marriage.

If she did fight to have sole custody in the US I would expect it would be with the clear understanding that they would lose any rights to the British throne.
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Old 09-04-2017, 02:12 AM
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There is no requirement for children in succession to be raised in the Uk. Can't apply one monarchy to next. Look at the 500+ people in line to succeed the throne. How many have never lived in the UK? Harrys kids are already far enough from the throne before even birth that not much concern.

But if Meghan settles down and makes a home with Harry in the uk, not hard to think she will choose to remain. Not sixty years ago that it was hard to travel back and forth. Her children could easily go visit her family in the USA.
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Old 09-04-2017, 02:16 AM
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I agree they should take their time and live together. The set up now is nothing like their life will be. Holidays and a couple of days here and there is very romantic but not how it will be Her age shouldn't be reason to rush into a wedding. Before everyone knocks me down this is nothing against Meghan or Harry it's just how I feel. There is a risk she won't be able to have a baby if she waits but that's life there is no guarantee for anyone.
You cannot practice being married, living with your lover is one thing, being married is another. Living together there is always a tiny element of not being totally committed and the knowledge that it is easier to end a de facto marriage than it is to obtain a divorce.

If you go into a marriage with love and a desire to work to make it succeed and have realistic expectations of your partner, you have as good a chance as any of making it work. The problem with "Fairytales" is they end at the marriage altar right when marriage begins which probably explains the high divorce rates. Even the very best of marriages require hard work, compromise and sometimes sacrifice.

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Old 09-04-2017, 02:30 AM
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Did I miss an engagement, a wedding and babies and now a divorce all in the space of a few minutes? Darn they are fast workers now aren't they....
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Old 09-04-2017, 02:34 AM
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It will be so good to get some actual appearances from this couple. At least the topic on here will change.
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Old 09-04-2017, 02:54 AM
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There is no requirement for children in succession to be raised in the Uk. Can't apply one monarchy to next. Look at the 500+ people in line to succeed the throne. How many have never lived in the UK? Harrys kids are already far enough from the throne before even birth that not much concern.

But if Meghan settles down and makes a home with Harry in the uk, not hard to think she will choose to remain. Not sixty years ago that it was hard to travel back and forth. Her children could easily go visit her family in the USA.
I didn't re-read that properly and incorrectly implied that to be in the line of succession a person has to be raised in the UK. That isn't the case but ... there is no way that Harry's children will be allowed to be raised outside the UK and then be expected to be treated the same way as say Beatrice and Eugenie - no balcony appearances, no front and centre at national events (personal events maybe but not national ones).

I am sure there will be a very solid pre-nup, to cover that possibility in any event.

We are jumping the gun here of course in assuming a marriage will even take place.

They have been dating for just over a year and have hardly been in the same country for most of that time.

As HM insists on lengthy courtships since the disasters of her children's marriages after short courtships I am not expecting an engagement much before 2020 if HM has her way. Of course another two children to the Cambridge's and HM won't have to give consent anyway - so Kate, Harry needs you to have twins asap
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Old 09-04-2017, 04:45 AM
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It seems to me, that many of the 'suitable' partners were proven to be anything but suitable. And the most unsuitable people on paper have shown to be the perfect fits for the role. The fact is, Harry will be the one making his choice, along with his partner, and she has to be suitable for him, not for the general public. She has to have amazing qualities, to be able to take on the role, and many times the 'suitable on paper' kind of people just simply don't fit with Harry, or have these qualities the role requires. So, the general public just need to put their judgments away, and be happy if Harry has found a person who loves and likes him, vice versa, and is able to take on the role. Then the distant family members or actions (not criminal, immoral, or even scandalous actions) before the woman even met Harry just need to be ignored.

And Harry has been actually filmed in public doing VERY questionable things, so I highly doubt he's clutching pearls or shocked at a few racy scenes Meghan has filmed, acting, before she even met him.

How do people know, that HM insists on long courtships?
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Old 09-04-2017, 04:58 AM
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With Harry and Meghan's relationship, we haven't really been given a lot to go by as far as their private relationship. We know of her professional roles, we know of her education and we know of her humanitarian work. One thing that stands out for me is that if you put a picture of Meghan with children in Rwanda side by side with one of Harry in Lesotho with his kids, its not hard to picture the two of them together with these children surrounding them. Too many times I hear of Instagram or Twitter, or TMZ or gods know what other gossip enterprises have said and of course, the ever present Daily Fail. All filled with innuendo, reasons why this relationship is so very wrong and clamors from the public for them to be "seen and heard" so we satisfy our curiosity about this couple.

From the very beginning, Harry and Meghan have kept their private lives as private as they possibly can which, in my eyes, is no small feat. From the very beginning, they've taken steps to ensure that their relationship doesn't become an overblown soap opera for the entertainment of the masses. From the very beginning, Harry has protected his Meghan from the vultures that would turn his love's life into something resembling the harassment he most certainly witnessed growing up with his mother. From the very beginning, this couple has set the guidelines of how their marriage will be should they decide to take that step. William has done the same with his family. Charles and Camilla keep their private life private. No one dare infringe on the private life of HM and her Philip. In this respect, they're stuffing everything back into the box that was opened wide during the 80s and the 90s. Its a tough job but they're doing it and doing it nicely.

None of us can say with certainty that these two people do not know each other enough for marriage. Nor can we honestly say whether they're suited for each other or not. We raise a hue and cry that they should be "introduced" to the public. To pass inspection? To spend post after post about Meghan's wardrobe choices? As far as I can see, the choice to marry or not to marry is between Harry and Meghan themselves and the people that need to be introduced to their choice (their families) will not be something for public consumption.

I'm just an interested bystander. From what I see and what I've come to know about the two people in this relationship, I get a sense of happiness and a good sense of compatibility and a willingness to keep the relationship going. That's what matters. Everything else is up to them and like every other couple on the planet, they'll have their challenges, their successes and failures and those ever present "I love you but I don't like you too much right now" days. I wish them the best. That's all I can do.
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Old 09-04-2017, 05:49 AM
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The British public did not have a say when Elizabeth married gaffe prone Philip. The British public did not have a say when Charles married the young & naïve Diana. The British public did not have a say when Andrew married fiery Fergie. The British public will NOT have a say on who Harry marries.

It seems some people are trying to control Harry’s life by selecting an ‘idyllic’ spouse for him, but it is not their place. Also too many are making a big deal of Harry’s future spouse, however it is worth remembering that Harry is 5th in line to the throne, soon to be 6th when Kate has her third child! The line of succession has been guaranteed through William & his children, so Harry’s future matters little in the larger scheme of things. Aside from royal followers & gossip sites, the British public won’t care as much who he marries because it has little impact in the overall future of the monarchy. The reality is when George, Charlotte & baby no.3 come of age, Harry & his kin will be pushed further back into the fringes.

Those that are signaling the end of the monarchy need to calm down. If Harry does marry Meghan it is not Armageddon!
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Old 09-04-2017, 06:06 AM
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If she married Harry and they divorced she won't be taking the children anywhere without the consent of both Harry and the monarch of the day. Those children are covered by different laws to everyone else due to their place in the line of succession - like the Danes and Swedes who insist that children in the line of succession must be raised in the country.

Any wedding agreement, would include a clear understanding that on separation or divorce she would either have to remain in the UK or lose equal custody of any children from the marriage.

If she did fight to have sole custody in the US I would expect it would be with the clear understanding that they would lose any rights to the British throne.


Regardless of Royal status, The Hague convention would prevent her taking any children back to the US.
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Old 09-04-2017, 06:36 AM
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I think that William & Kate having a 3rd baby has made things a lot easier for Harry & Meghan! Most of the media will now turn their attention to babywatch, thereby leaving H&M to conduct their relationship with hopefully less pressure.

Also from what I understand only the first six in line to the throne need to ask permission from the Queen to marry. Harry will become 6th in line once the Cambridges’ third baby is born. Those that are wishing the Queen & parliament will refuse Harry’s choice of partner are clinging on to a very thin hope! There is very little chance the Queen would refuse the 6th in line. And there is also very little chance the British public would line the streets in protest because of who the 6th in line was marrying!
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Old 09-04-2017, 06:39 AM
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Those royals dated their BF/GF for several years and were gradually introduced to the public before getting engaged. That is the difference. AND they lived together before getting engaged.

This quicky one year visiting each other back and forth is madness to propose so soon. Only because of Meghan's age to have children!

You lived together and married 18 months later. That sounds good to me.
That is actually a fair point. Both Victoria and Carl Philip had to wait a long time until their respective marriages became acceptable to their father and to the Swedish public. Harry should drop the secrecy if he wants the Brutish public to warm up to Meghan.
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Old 09-04-2017, 06:44 AM
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I think that William & Kate having a 3rd baby has made things a lot easier for Harry & Meghan! Most of the media will now turn their attention to babywatch, thereby leaving H&M to conduct their relationship with hopefully less pressure.

Also from what I understand only the first six in line to the throne need to ask permission from the Queen to marry. Harry will become 6th in line once the Cambridges’ third baby is born. Those that are wishing the Queen & parliament will refuse Harry’s choice of partner are clinging on to a very thin hope! There is very little chance the Queen would refuse the 6th in line. And there is also very little chance the British public would line the streets in protest because of who the 6th in line was marrying!
And if twins Harry won't need permission at all.
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